my daughter called me
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my daughter called me
I posted the other day that my 18 year old and I were not currently talking. She called me right, crying. Her disease is getting worse again. Last time she got this bad, she had a feeding tube for almost a year. She'll most likely have one placed again.
The best part was that we talked. She's coming here and we're going to the Children's hospital. She will probably be admitted so she can get some treatment and prepare for the next steps of treatment.
The best part is that I was available to be there. My focus is on her, not having drinks. Knowing I only have this one chance to parent keeps me sober.
I'll be staying active with my plan of sobriety. The last time she was inpatient, that's when I made the choice to cut back on drinking. This time, I'm not drinking at all.
Life is too precious. I want to be there for it: The good and the bad.
The best part was that we talked. She's coming here and we're going to the Children's hospital. She will probably be admitted so she can get some treatment and prepare for the next steps of treatment.
The best part is that I was available to be there. My focus is on her, not having drinks. Knowing I only have this one chance to parent keeps me sober.
I'll be staying active with my plan of sobriety. The last time she was inpatient, that's when I made the choice to cut back on drinking. This time, I'm not drinking at all.
Life is too precious. I want to be there for it: The good and the bad.
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I'm so glad she got in touch with you and that you remained sober, and very sorry to hear she's not doing so well
Imagine how much worse everything would be if you ended up drinking after the last thread, and she called you and you couldn't fully be there.
Really makes it so clear that we all need to remain sober for so many reasons, and I'm so glad you have!! It's great you can be there for her when she needs you, I'm really happy for you both
Imagine how much worse everything would be if you ended up drinking after the last thread, and she called you and you couldn't fully be there.
Really makes it so clear that we all need to remain sober for so many reasons, and I'm so glad you have!! It's great you can be there for her when she needs you, I'm really happy for you both
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Thank you. In a post I made yesterday, someone said to watch out for those who say "you don't drink that much. You don't have a problem" that happened today.
"you only drink maybe once a week. You're fine. Lets go to the bar, watch the baseball game and have a beer!" I said no and worked out instead.
Tonight, I'm fully able to be there for my daughter.
I explained to my friend that even if I don't drink daily, I drink to blackout, I make a fool of myself and that's no longer how I want to live my life. They were nice about it but I know I wont hear back from them. I'm okay with that.
"you only drink maybe once a week. You're fine. Lets go to the bar, watch the baseball game and have a beer!" I said no and worked out instead.
Tonight, I'm fully able to be there for my daughter.
I explained to my friend that even if I don't drink daily, I drink to blackout, I make a fool of myself and that's no longer how I want to live my life. They were nice about it but I know I wont hear back from them. I'm okay with that.
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Thank you. I'm waiting for her to get here. I'm nervous for her. I bought a pack if smokes and had some. I then realized how stupid that was, threw them away, drank some water and had an orange.
Thank you for all of your words. The support I receive here is truly priceless.
Thank you for all of your words. The support I receive here is truly priceless.
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Thank you everyone. It's been a bit hectic since yesterday. We arrived at the Children's Hospital around noon yesterday. They got her admitted to her room around 7:00pm last night. She was hurting, tired, and so so hungry. They decided against all fluids until we were able to discuss her latest flare up with her specialist today.
This morning, they decided that we need to scope and biopsy again since the last one was 18 months ago. So, she had that this evening. Visually, things looked good. We are waiting for biopsy results. The doctor said they would have them in the next couple of days.
She was able to have liquids tonight. She went a bit too fast and isn't feeling too well. So she has backed off liquids and tomorrow, after seeing the doctor on rounds again, will try a bit of food (like applesauce). If she handles that, she can try something a bit more substantial like a chicken breast and green beans.
One suspicion is that the disease has spread. If it has spread in the way that they think, it will greatly impact her diet. A feeding tube (again) may still be an option to consider.
So, right now, we are hanging out and about to watch some movies. We are hoping to be home Friday since my twins have prom Saturday. But if we have to stay, we stay and the twins will come to the hospital and we will help them get ready here. Luckily, Brianna's room here is very large.
I have no desire to drink. I have been having intense cravings for smoking but I know that's more of a mental connection thing. When we were here last (inpatient the majority of a 3 month period) I was still a smoker and my break was going to have a cigarette. Now, I'm chatting, tomorrow we're going to the meditation center for a classical piano concert, and I have my running shoes now so I will go for a short run tomorrow.
Thank you for all of the words, concern, and good thoughts. It means a lot.
This morning, they decided that we need to scope and biopsy again since the last one was 18 months ago. So, she had that this evening. Visually, things looked good. We are waiting for biopsy results. The doctor said they would have them in the next couple of days.
She was able to have liquids tonight. She went a bit too fast and isn't feeling too well. So she has backed off liquids and tomorrow, after seeing the doctor on rounds again, will try a bit of food (like applesauce). If she handles that, she can try something a bit more substantial like a chicken breast and green beans.
One suspicion is that the disease has spread. If it has spread in the way that they think, it will greatly impact her diet. A feeding tube (again) may still be an option to consider.
So, right now, we are hanging out and about to watch some movies. We are hoping to be home Friday since my twins have prom Saturday. But if we have to stay, we stay and the twins will come to the hospital and we will help them get ready here. Luckily, Brianna's room here is very large.
I have no desire to drink. I have been having intense cravings for smoking but I know that's more of a mental connection thing. When we were here last (inpatient the majority of a 3 month period) I was still a smoker and my break was going to have a cigarette. Now, I'm chatting, tomorrow we're going to the meditation center for a classical piano concert, and I have my running shoes now so I will go for a short run tomorrow.
Thank you for all of the words, concern, and good thoughts. It means a lot.
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Tennant, that is amazing; you are doing so well. It is amazing to me how little I did as a mother when I was drinking. It feels so good to be there for my children now. Best wishes for your daughter. I hope she can go home soon.
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