Well, they kicked me out.
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Well, they kicked me out.
I lived with a friend-- more like a brother to me, the kind of guy you'd mutually do anything for-- for 14 years. He was an avid drinker when I met him, but it was several years before he convinced me to try alcohol of any kind. He's the kind of guy who won't drink anything red label-- if it's vodka it's gotta be Grey Goose or something.
He's had other roommates and we've all mostly gotten along, as people do, but this most recent one, we'll call him 'S', did not get along with me, nor I with him. Finally, one day S said to him, essentially, "He's an alcoholic and I will not live with him anymore."
My friend's rationality was, "Yeah, I get drunk everyday, but I'm not an alcoholic; you are, and I won't have you in my house."
So my best friend threw me out of his house. I walked by his liquor cabinet every single day, but I'm more of a beer type of drinker. I was in a hurry to find a place to live-- he gave me 30 days or he'd throw my belongings out on the street-- and the only place I could find (and barely afford) doesn't accept pets, so I had to leave my beloved cat behind in their care.
I suppose I wanted to write this post because I feel so incredibly alone, and yet I find a place like this and see that there are many of us out there, and we deserve respect and compassion.
Don't let this happen to you.
Thank you all for being here with your stories of failure and success; they make me feel less alone and less worthless.
Jay
He's had other roommates and we've all mostly gotten along, as people do, but this most recent one, we'll call him 'S', did not get along with me, nor I with him. Finally, one day S said to him, essentially, "He's an alcoholic and I will not live with him anymore."
My friend's rationality was, "Yeah, I get drunk everyday, but I'm not an alcoholic; you are, and I won't have you in my house."
So my best friend threw me out of his house. I walked by his liquor cabinet every single day, but I'm more of a beer type of drinker. I was in a hurry to find a place to live-- he gave me 30 days or he'd throw my belongings out on the street-- and the only place I could find (and barely afford) doesn't accept pets, so I had to leave my beloved cat behind in their care.
I suppose I wanted to write this post because I feel so incredibly alone, and yet I find a place like this and see that there are many of us out there, and we deserve respect and compassion.
Don't let this happen to you.
Thank you all for being here with your stories of failure and success; they make me feel less alone and less worthless.
Jay
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I had to ask my oldest friend to leave because of his drinking, and this was before I quit. I drank, but his drinking and the chaos it was causing him, he was bringing that into my house. So I said, "Go, come back when you are sober."
He didn't quit. I never saw him again.
I'm sorry for your circumstances. But I hope it's the spur to get you to seek sobriety.
He didn't quit. I never saw him again.
I'm sorry for your circumstances. But I hope it's the spur to get you to seek sobriety.
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Originally Posted by djmchammered 
Doesn't sound like a friend you want to have, your going to be better off out of the situation!
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FL Guy -
Do you think this is your "wake up call"? Like they are saying in the above post, take this opportunity to stop drinking and get healthy.
It will do you no good to focus on how others have wronged you. Start on the path to get your life on a better path. You may look back years from now and see how this was the beginning of your new better life.
Do you think this is your "wake up call"? Like they are saying in the above post, take this opportunity to stop drinking and get healthy.
It will do you no good to focus on how others have wronged you. Start on the path to get your life on a better path. You may look back years from now and see how this was the beginning of your new better life.
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I'm sorry for what happened FLGuy - but like everyone else I can't help but see this as an opportunity for you to get yourself together, stay sober - and find a better place so you can get your cat back 
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Originally Posted by Anna
Jay, I do hope this is a wakeup call for you. Have you decided to stop drinking? If so, then you will find lots of support here.
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Noones attacking you FLGuy.
All people are saying is drinking is not going to make this situation any better or help you get to a better place.
was it fair you got thrown out - by what you posted, no - but it's done man.
That's not actually your biggest problem right now - y'know?
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All people are saying is drinking is not going to make this situation any better or help you get to a better place.
was it fair you got thrown out - by what you posted, no - but it's done man.
That's not actually your biggest problem right now - y'know?
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I get what you're saying, but drinking isn't a problem when I can't afford to do it. I can't even get food stamps, because I'm not working enough hours. I'm going to end up homeless. I don't know why I thought this place could help.
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None of that was in the thread when Anna posted though...we're not the enemy.
I get you're frustrated.
I'm not in FL so I have no local knowledge but I hope others will.
Check for all the government help you're entitled for, check out food banks, local charities, all that kind of stuff.
I've been there - but you can get through this.
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I get you're frustrated.
I'm not in FL so I have no local knowledge but I hope others will.
Check for all the government help you're entitled for, check out food banks, local charities, all that kind of stuff.
I've been there - but you can get through this.
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"Jay, I do hope this is a wakeup call for you. Have you decided to stop drinking? If so, then you will find lots of support here."
That was Anna's reply exactly. I'm more worried about being able to eat than to drink now. I could stand to lose a few pounds, but being a skinny homelesss person isn't much better than a chubby one.
That was Anna's reply exactly. I'm more worried about being able to eat than to drink now. I could stand to lose a few pounds, but being a skinny homelesss person isn't much better than a chubby one.
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Not for nothing but this is a sobriety forum...we can help you with the sobriety but not with your job or rent. What were you looking for from the forum? Maybe if we knew we could give you answers you find more appropriate.
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we can help you with the sobriety but not with your job or rent.
FLguy I apologise if you feel we weren't compassionate enough. Chalk it up to miscommunication all around.
I hope you'll check out a few of the things I mentioned. Best wishes.
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You can apply for food stamps online. Here is the website:
Welcome to EBT | Florida Department of Children and Families
Hope this helps
Welcome to EBT | Florida Department of Children and Families
Hope this helps
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Originally Posted by Della1968
Not for nothing but this is a sobriety forum...we can help you with the sobriety but not with your job or rent. What were you looking for from the forum? Maybe if we knew we could give you answers you find more appropriate.
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