wpainterw

Lots of disappointments today. My son says that he and his family will not be able to attend our 60th wedding anniversary because they must be back in the Midwest at that time. Can't go with me to my old high school reunion (my 70th!) because he'll be in England. Have only a few friends locally who might attend at Anniversary time. My wife and I are the only ones on record on either side of the family who have been married 60 years. Am pretty depressed for other reasons, such as differences with my wife about moving into a retirement facility for three or four months a year. We need more friends, more people to talk to rather than just ourselves.
If I were drinking over all this, I'd be dead what with all the blood pressure meds I take. So I do four things: pet my dog, order up some escape reading, watch travel stuff on TV and post on this website. If I can help someone out who has a lot more trouble than I have then it makes me feel a lot better. Thanks for being there.

W.

Anna

Hi Bill,

Congratulations on your upcoming 60th Wedding Anniversary. That is so special. I'm sorry your son is disappointing you, but I hope that you and your wife will be able to do something special.

I'm glad you have some escape plans and I know how much you love your beautiful dog.

ArtFriend

Congrats on your 60th anniversary! That is incredible! I've read that depression can come up in our golden years for many reasons, including loss of independence. You are blessed with a loving companion of 60 years, your pup and children who love you. Stay strong!

Dee74

I'm sorry for those disappointments, w.

Congrats on 60 years tho - thats a real achievement - best wishes to you and your wife....and pet the dog for me too

D

Soberwolf

Im sorry for the disappointments too congrats on the 60 years

I think your awesome WpainerW

JimdiGriz

Just a big for hug for you..

Weasel1966

A huge congrats on your anniversary!

Always good to see a post from you!

Be well.

Ken

Thepatman

Sorry about your disappointment. 60 years of marriage is truly amazing.

I admire you and wanted to thank you for posting.

mayabee

Congratulations on 60 years! Know it is disappointing that family can't attend, but hope that you and your wife have a great celebration anyway.

Pondlady

60 years of marriage is so special Sounds like you coped with your disappointments well...may tomorrow be brighter .

tokidoki

What a wonderful thing! 60 years together. Congratulations.

silentrun

Congrats on 60 years. I love your posts. Maybe some tips on love and marriage would help a few of us.

SoberLeigh

60 years!!!!!! Congratulations, w; what a beautiful achievement.



I am sorry for the disappointments, though.

I'd like to hear some tips on love and marriage, too.

wpainterw

I have no tips on love and marriage. I see love in my dog's eyes. I am sometimes a little scared when I sense that he knows. He somehow understands and is there for me. My wife also. I owe her so much for standing by me for all these sixty years when many wives might have not done so. But now her health concerns occupy so much of her mind that she has changed. I know that she is afraid of dying and particularly if she would die painfully. Her wishes in her health care directive will be followed. If I do not die first, I will do everything in my power which the law permits to make sure that she does not suffer. Love is being there. It is the only reality, at least the only thing that matters. The rest is little more than an illusion, a dream. The "ten thousand things", not the Tao.

W.

least

Congrats on your anniversary. I'm sorry your son can't be there.

I do two of your four things when I get depressed; I pet my dogs and visit SR. And nine times out of ten, it makes me feel better. A dog walk works very well also.

Mags1

Congratulations to you and your wife on 60 years. What a blessing!

Sorry your son can't make it. Perhaps to your 61 St.

Marcher13

Bill I understand what you are saying about the struggles, I hope that in time things work out.

60 years of marriage is a wonderful achievement and a fine example to us all, my warmst congratulations to you both.

MythOfSisyphus

I'm sorry you have to struggle with this, W. Health stuff can use up a lot our mental and emotional "bandwidth". I wish you and your wife good health. I hope too that you can find common ground on the retirement home issue.

It's a shame that your kids can't be there for the 60th anniversary. That's such an incredible milestone! Hopefully there are other ways to share it with people. If nothing else I hope your son can get together with you and your wife at another time.

Lastly, I'm glad you're here with us! It helps to have a steady sober presence, especially someone like you that's managed many years sober.