Day 34
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Day 34
I'm on day 34 feels much longer. kinda depressing at its only been that long. My problem is that I'm married to an alcoholic. I made the choice to quit as I found myself getting deeper and deeper. My husband makes me a drink tonight and says you know one is not going to hurt. How do I get around this ongoing problem?
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you know what?, the "just one" is the most hurtful driink of all! i am grateful my partner does not drink at all . Phew!.. it would be tough to quit drinking together although we did quit smoking simultaneously... wont go thru that again! you are in a tough situation but can only control your own intake. Spouse may not be ready yet if ever.
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the only thing I really know for sure is this:
In all things, my first requirement is to take care of my own well being. Because I am the one responsible for that, and without it---well I am not worth much to help others. But with it---I know I have much to give.
Be good to you.
In all things, my first requirement is to take care of my own well being. Because I am the one responsible for that, and without it---well I am not worth much to help others. But with it---I know I have much to give.
Be good to you.
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My first thought (but I'm pretty straight-forward) was to take the drink and dump it in the sink.
He won't like that - and it would definitely escalate.
If you tell him you aren't drinking and he fixes you a drink, that is not being supportive; but is this the first time you've tried to quit since you've been with him? You may have to just keep repeating it until he gets it. I repeated that for years, and my Mother kept offering. It's always your choice whether to drink or not.
I think a polite refusal is better than my initial passive-aggressive kneejerk reaction I posted above.
He won't like that - and it would definitely escalate.
If you tell him you aren't drinking and he fixes you a drink, that is not being supportive; but is this the first time you've tried to quit since you've been with him? You may have to just keep repeating it until he gets it. I repeated that for years, and my Mother kept offering. It's always your choice whether to drink or not.
I think a polite refusal is better than my initial passive-aggressive kneejerk reaction I posted above.
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