What doctors tell you
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What doctors tell you
It's amazing how doctors tell you that couple of glasses of wine or couple of beers is good for you. When I was pregnant with my daughter my doctor always told me I should have 2 glasses of wine to calm the baby before I go to bed. I told her I didn't like that idea cause of all things that could happen in her birth. The doctor told me having 2 glasses of wine isn't going to harm your kid.
I control that matter by not drinking or smoking during my pregnancy cause I didn't believe 2 wine glasses was not good for my baby and I.
Has anyone else find this wrong, drinking 2 glasses of wine or beer when you are pregnant is good for you?
I understand if you can moderate drinking, but I think even 2 glasses of wine or beer is to much each day.
This just bothers me, and I am trying to get it out of my head
I control that matter by not drinking or smoking during my pregnancy cause I didn't believe 2 wine glasses was not good for my baby and I.
Has anyone else find this wrong, drinking 2 glasses of wine or beer when you are pregnant is good for you?
I understand if you can moderate drinking, but I think even 2 glasses of wine or beer is to much each day.
This just bothers me, and I am trying to get it out of my head
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I would find another doctor. This is our information on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome from the Mayo Clinic:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-syndrome.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-syndrome.html
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Originally Posted by kzaug2014 
My bf's husband is a doctor & also an alcoholic ( hits the vodka every night after work! )
Any doctor that tells me drinking in any quantity is healthy is a bozo. Alcohol is scientifically proven to be poisonous to the human body. And that a developing baby could benefit from it? Someone shoot me please. LOL!
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When I was pregnant I had a beer or glass of wine here and there. Not weekly or even monthly but I did have a few with both pregnancies. I think daily drinking during pregnancy is a dangerous thing! You only get one chance to grow a healthy baby and they have to live with the decisions of their mother for the rest of their lives. Any doctor who would tell a mother to have two drinks a day is not worthy of the title IMO.
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I had to go to a 24hr. Emergency Care
place several weeks ago after learning my
original physician wasn't on my new insurance.
I was soooo dizzy and my Dr. knows me
and they turned me away directing me to
the Emergency Clinic next door.
Yes I was pizzed.
So I go in, fill out my forms before being
called to the back. Then the nurse came
in to get some vital signs before a lady
doctor, a stranger to me, came in.
We talked and she asked questions about
how I felt and my symptoms. Come to find
out I had fluid in my inner ears and would
need an antibiotic and steroid.
After she told me what she would prescribe
to me, I told her that I didn't want anything
narcotic or habit forming because I was in
recovery for 24 yrs and that I didn't want
anything to interfere with it.
She reassured me that all was good and
I didn't have anything to worry about.
In a few weeks I have a new appointment
for my new General Physician, one that will
replace my former Doctor. When I go, I will
talk with him and he will know right off the
bat that I am in recovery and if anything is
to be administered that it be non narcotic
or habit forming.
With ALL doctors or for all Doctors I will
go to, they will know who and what I am.
They have to know this important information
and it is my responsibility to let them ALL
know about my recovery because if not, how
else will they know what I am able to take
to not interfere with my sobriety.
RESPONSIBILITY is top priority. And it
belong to me. No one else.
When I was pregnant way back in the
day, I was in my drinking career. And
yes, I did have a little wine here and
there. Yes I was concerned about any
and all affects alcohol would have on
my unborn babies.
For my second child, I had some wine
at first, then became sooooo paranoid
that something might be wrong with
my baby. There is a test we can have
done on us when pregnant to make sure
our babies are doing well before term.
Thank God, both of my babies turned
out fine and were healthy. The first thing
that came out of my mouth when they
were born was, do they have 5 fingers
and 5 toes.
They were born in 84 and 87 and I entered
recovery in 90. Recovery/sobriety is soooo
important to me, but when I was in my addiction,
sometimes life was difficult. But not anymore
to where I would drink or kill myself.
My kids are blessings and gifts from the
Man upstairs. Thank You HP..!!!
place several weeks ago after learning my
original physician wasn't on my new insurance.
I was soooo dizzy and my Dr. knows me
and they turned me away directing me to
the Emergency Clinic next door.
Yes I was pizzed.
So I go in, fill out my forms before being
called to the back. Then the nurse came
in to get some vital signs before a lady
doctor, a stranger to me, came in.
We talked and she asked questions about
how I felt and my symptoms. Come to find
out I had fluid in my inner ears and would
need an antibiotic and steroid.
After she told me what she would prescribe
to me, I told her that I didn't want anything
narcotic or habit forming because I was in
recovery for 24 yrs and that I didn't want
anything to interfere with it.
She reassured me that all was good and
I didn't have anything to worry about.
In a few weeks I have a new appointment
for my new General Physician, one that will
replace my former Doctor. When I go, I will
talk with him and he will know right off the
bat that I am in recovery and if anything is
to be administered that it be non narcotic
or habit forming.
With ALL doctors or for all Doctors I will
go to, they will know who and what I am.
They have to know this important information
and it is my responsibility to let them ALL
know about my recovery because if not, how
else will they know what I am able to take
to not interfere with my sobriety.
RESPONSIBILITY is top priority. And it
belong to me. No one else.
When I was pregnant way back in the
day,
I was in my drinking career. Andyes, I did have a little wine here and
there. Yes I was concerned about any
and all affects alcohol would have on
my unborn babies.
For my second child, I had some wine
at first, then became sooooo paranoid
that something might be wrong with
my baby. There is a test we can have
done on us when pregnant to make sure
our babies are doing well before term.
Thank God, both of my babies turned
out fine and were healthy. The first thing
that came out of my mouth when they
were born was, do they have 5 fingers
and 5 toes.
They were born in 84 and 87 and I entered
recovery in 90. Recovery/sobriety is soooo
important to me, but when I was in my addiction,
sometimes life was difficult. But not anymore
to where I would drink or kill myself.
My kids are blessings and gifts from the
Man upstairs. Thank You HP..!!!
New Life Sober
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Location: Noblesville, IN
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When I heard my doctor told me that, I did talk to my husband about it and he couldn't believe what he heard. So, we did change doctors and I have the doctor we have now that is it okay to drink a couple wine glasses a day when you are pregnant. The doctor I have now says I don't recommend it, however you can drink one glass of wine here and there when you eat dinner. That was 14 years ago, and I still will not drink when I have something sweet and innocent.
When I had my son in 2010, I was freaking out when I didn't know I was pregnant when I went to a dance club and consume a lot of liquor in me. When I missed my period, that's when I told my husband that I just killed my baby. We went to the doctors and they hooked me up and said you didn't harm anything but you need to stop drinking to prevent any birth effects. So I did, it was that easy!
I have two wonderful kids and healthy..
Thanks guys for the help to get this out of my head. I just cant believe that doctors say its okay to drink 2 glasses of wine...
Sharon that was a very touchy story you went thru and I am glad everything went well.
When I had my son in 2010, I was freaking out when I didn't know I was pregnant when I went to a dance club and consume a lot of liquor in me. When I missed my period, that's when I told my husband that I just killed my baby. We went to the doctors and they hooked me up and said you didn't harm anything but you need to stop drinking to prevent any birth effects. So I did, it was that easy!
I have two wonderful kids and healthy..
Thanks guys for the help to get this out of my head. I just cant believe that doctors say its okay to drink 2 glasses of wine...
Sharon that was a very touchy story you went thru and I am glad everything went well.
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for us blokes that can't go skulking around the womens room:
Fetal alcohol syndrome Definition - Diseases and Conditions - Mayo Clinic
Pretty sobering stuff - no pun intended.
The fact is for people on this site the idea of half glasses of wine, for example, is laughable....
D
Fetal alcohol syndrome Definition - Diseases and Conditions - Mayo Clinic
Pretty sobering stuff - no pun intended.
The fact is for people on this site the idea of half glasses of wine, for example, is laughable....
D
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Location: Atlanta
Posts: 31,179
I was a nurse for several years before my own addiction ended that career.
What I learned was there are good doctors (and nurses) and there are some that I don't trust.
I also worked in a neonatal ICU and saw the effects of babies born with FAS and addiction.
What has worked for me was to do a lot of research from credible places, like the Mayo Clinic like Anna posted.
My stepmom was an addict, found a doctor who would prescribe her whatever she wanted. She is now dead of an unintentional OD. Her sister went to the same doctor, she is also now dead. My niece (who stepmom and my dad raised) went to the same dr., she is now on methadone for an opiate addiction. He is still practicing.
We owe it to ourselves to do research and learn. We also need to be honest, and if the doctor doesn't appreciate that we have a problem with substances, find another doctor.
I do trust my doctor, she knows all about my history. She doesn't play, would never prescribe me anything that is a problem. On the other hand, *I* did my research, got to know her, and I choose her because she is that way.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
What I learned was there are good doctors (and nurses) and there are some that I don't trust.
I also worked in a neonatal ICU and saw the effects of babies born with FAS and addiction.
What has worked for me was to do a lot of research from credible places, like the Mayo Clinic like Anna posted.
My stepmom was an addict, found a doctor who would prescribe her whatever she wanted. She is now dead of an unintentional OD. Her sister went to the same doctor, she is also now dead. My niece (who stepmom and my dad raised) went to the same dr., she is now on methadone for an opiate addiction. He is still practicing.
We owe it to ourselves to do research and learn. We also need to be honest, and if the doctor doesn't appreciate that we have a problem with substances, find another doctor.
I do trust my doctor, she knows all about my history. She doesn't play, would never prescribe me anything that is a problem. On the other hand, *I* did my research, got to know her, and I choose her because she is that way.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
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My brother's a doctor and has been to remote places on the globe, working with Doctors Without Borders. He has strong ethical and personal standards, and makes the time to educate his patients as much as he can. No jargon, and he anticipates questions that his patients may or may not think to ask. Whenever a serious medical condition arises within my family, he's there to speak to the treating physicians. He doesn't interrogate them, but gets to know them and their planned treatments and procedures.
Not everyone is fortunate to have a doctor watching their backs when they consult with a physician about a pressing or serious medical condition, and my brother simply can't be there every time something comes up. But I think it's a good practice to bring someone along with you who you're comfortable having in the room with you when you see your doctor. Visiting a doctor during a crisis or a potential crisis causes many people to mentally check out to the extent that we don't take in everything we'd like to, or don't ask questions that simply do not occur to us at the moment. Or to speak up when something doesn't sound quite right.
It's also a good way to have immediate support in the event that we don't get the kind of news we'd hope for.
Not everyone is fortunate to have a doctor watching their backs when they consult with a physician about a pressing or serious medical condition, and my brother simply can't be there every time something comes up. But I think it's a good practice to bring someone along with you who you're comfortable having in the room with you when you see your doctor. Visiting a doctor during a crisis or a potential crisis causes many people to mentally check out to the extent that we don't take in everything we'd like to, or don't ask questions that simply do not occur to us at the moment. Or to speak up when something doesn't sound quite right.
It's also a good way to have immediate support in the event that we don't get the kind of news we'd hope for.
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Endgame you are right! I just went through a medical emergency with my son and I know that I didn't take all the information in.... I was too overwhelmed with the immediate trauma to listen. And I've found that every nurse and doctor I've spoken to since gives me different directions or the does the dressings different. I am now almost an expert in treating burn wounds!
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