getright15

In a drunken stooper I've busted a few doors...punched a few walls. In a sober state of mind I've crushed cans or swatted things clear across the room. My therapist and I are dealing with it and was wondering if any of you do any type of meditation or mindfulness techniques? He wants me to practice on breathing especially in moments of rage. I had an outburst today. I wrote in another post what happened as we're parking I just chucked a can of red bull into my windshield. I know not the smartest thing to do...no damage just red bull everywhere.

I'm back from my bike ride to blow off steam. I've thought about drinking just because I'm so furious but I've been on a good track the last 3 weeks and don't want to ruin that. I get so upset sometimes and I don't even know why. Some things I need to let go but I feel I just have to say something about whatever it is that's bothering me.

:shrug:

Dee74

I found the longer I was sober the better I was able to work through the things that made me mad getright.

You're seeing a counsellor and you're working on it - that's a great start

D

least

Two things that help me control anger: gratitude and realizing what I can control and what I can't control.

Gratitude is just being grateful for all I'm blessed with. It's a positive focus and puts my mind in a positive frame.

Controlling others is not within my ability. I have to draw a mental circle around myself and realize in my heart that the only things I can control are within that circle. Everyone and everything outside of myself is out of my control.

I can't control what happens, only how I react to it.

I used to have a bad temper. It's mellowed with age and I'm very easy going now. I also try to keep a positive mindset and anger isn't usually positive.

TennantSmith

I've noticed a lot more anger. But I've also noticed increased emotions overall. I have rid myself of all toxic chemicals and now I have an awake brain that's ready to deal with stuff, sigh. It's not always pretty but it's better than being drunk and angry. That's a whole new level of bad.

Alynn

I get angry easily these days. I hate it. Tired and stressed all the time

getright15

That's the issue. I mean I've exploded over socks...kidding me! Socks!

least

What are you swatting across the room? I hope no one gets hurt from this.

getright15

Bowls, like I said soda cans, just depends what is in front of me. Doesnt happen often but it does happen.

tomsteve

Former rageaholic here.
Took me lookin inside and seeing what the root cause of the anger was.
And then a crapload of work changing me and my attitudes,which took time( still have to work on it sometimes still).
There's frustration,anger,resentment,rage,drunk.
If I catch it at frustration, it's easyto fix. If it goes to anger, it's a little harder to fix.if it goes to resentment, it's harder to fix. Get to rage and I have a crapload of work to fix it.
If I let frustration lead to anger, then resentment, then rage, and don't do anything about it,I'll be drunk and I don't know if that will be fixable.

aasharon90

Theraphy sessions can help folks
learn healthier ways to deal with
anger. Instead of reacting in a harmful
way when someone or some thing
triggers anger, you can handle it with
healthier solutions.

To add alcohol or drugs to anger,
frustration, resentments is only
adding fuel to the fire. And it will
essculate and become out of control.

Once you have mastered healthy
technics to use when those anger
claws come out, then you will become
more of a gentle, kind, caring person
in recovery.

KateL

I am very calm and easygoing nowadays. I think it actually annoys people sometimes but that's their anger issues - not mine xxx

KateL

Btw. I used to be angry as hell xxx

IOAA2

Hi.
Part of long term sobriety is making needed changes in the way we handle/process things we drank over.

Anger is not an emotion alcoholics deal with very well. With sobriety we learn to handle things that used to baffle us. Saying the Serenity Prayer during periods of anger was/is very helpful.

BE WELL

countrygirl2014

Part of what has been helping me is learning why anger happens. It is a firing in the brain that releases all these chemicals which releases adrenaline and all sorts of stuff. If you can manage to think before you react, the chemicals dissipate whithin 20-30 minutes. I go sit somewhere for twenty minutes and clench my fists and wait. Patiently. The other day I wanted to throw my phone and punch a table. I MADE myself not. And waited. And it went away. I'm sure time will make it better and step work but this is what works for me right now.

Jennifer

Mountainmanbob

Anger is something that many suffer from each day. Learning to control it is a sign of maturity. Drinking never seems to benefit these one's.

MB