Monthly Text from XAH
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Monthly Text from XAH
I got my monthly text from XAH:
Asking why I never call or text him anymore. Asking about the dog. Asking about my mom and dad, asking about my new job. Plus telling me He misses talking to me and then, telling me to take care.
So its almost been a month, he texted on valentines day. So i responded - that I missed talking to him also, but I can't be friends with him. He hurt me to the core and that he can't be a part of my life and hurt me again. I told him some day when he wants to grow up, sober up and work a program, that I might open my heart for something more. I also said that I would be there to help him and support him when he was ready.
He responds "I'm not a drunk. Be well"
I told him I didnt call him a drunk. He has made bad choices regarding his drinking and hurt me. I am tired of being hurt by some one who "loves me". But I will always be there for him when he needs me.
He tells me I am contradicting myself and to say hi to the dog..... and to be well
I was stressed out all day because of this contact with him. It's amazing how he reaches out to me and I MELT... I dislike the control he has over me, but I stood my ground. I love that he is thinking about me, but so bummed that he is so far from hitting rock bottom.
Now he knows that I don't want anything to do with him. Will see if I get my APRIL text.
It just hurts as I so want to "FIX" him. Give him to GOD!! I think I did pretty good for myself today!! (but it still sucks!!!!!)
Asking why I never call or text him anymore. Asking about the dog. Asking about my mom and dad, asking about my new job. Plus telling me He misses talking to me and then, telling me to take care.
So its almost been a month, he texted on valentines day. So i responded - that I missed talking to him also, but I can't be friends with him. He hurt me to the core and that he can't be a part of my life and hurt me again. I told him some day when he wants to grow up, sober up and work a program, that I might open my heart for something more. I also said that I would be there to help him and support him when he was ready.
He responds "I'm not a drunk. Be well"
I told him I didnt call him a drunk. He has made bad choices regarding his drinking and hurt me. I am tired of being hurt by some one who "loves me". But I will always be there for him when he needs me.
He tells me I am contradicting myself and to say hi to the dog..... and to be well
I was stressed out all day because of this contact with him. It's amazing how he reaches out to me and I MELT... I dislike the control he has over me, but I stood my ground. I love that he is thinking about me, but so bummed that he is so far from hitting rock bottom.
Now he knows that I don't want anything to do with him. Will see if I get my APRIL text.
It just hurts as I so want to "FIX" him. Give him to GOD!! I think I did pretty good for myself today!! (but it still sucks!!!!!)
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It's amazing how he reaches out to me and I MELT... I dislike the control he has over me, but I stood my ground. I love that he is thinking about me, but so bummed that he is so far from hitting rock bottom. (but it still sucks!!!!!)
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maja....you really did do good. Many people go running right back into the burning house when faced with this kind of "pull".
It sounds to me like you are pretty well grounded in knowing what is best for your own welfare.
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It sounds to me like you are pretty well grounded in knowing what is best for your own welfare.
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"I dislike the control he has over me, but I stood my ground. I love that he is thinking about me, but so bummed that he is so far from hitting rock bottom. "
He really does not have control over you. He only presents you with temptations.
My mate hit bottom long ago and is still digging.
He really does not have control over you. He only presents you with temptations.
My mate hit bottom long ago and is still digging.
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Yes Eauchiche, he is a temptation, just like the bad apple with Adam and Eve!! You keep getting tempted and eventually you give in and bite!!
Thats why I post when I get tempted, to have all of you tell me not to touch it!!
Love you guys!!
Thats why I post when I get tempted, to have all of you tell me not to touch it!!
Love you guys!!
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I haven't read all your old posts so I'm curious about something. Why do you get a monthly text from your ex? Was it part of the actual divorce agreement or was it an arrangement dreamed up on Planet Alcohol?
(posted with tongue firmly wedged in cheek.)
(posted with tongue firmly wedged in cheek.)
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Good job!! These kinds of contact are difficult for me because I end up second guessing myself and rethinking my choice. It creates doubt in me. No contact is probably best here, but I understand that is easier said than done... Especially for us codies.
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Tentindependent- for some reason that's what he seems to do. he text me new years eve, then valentine's day and now march. I think he is dying for me to give in and go back to hxll.
Yes it is planet alcohol. Sad but my life with xah.
Yes it is planet alcohol. Sad but my life with xah.
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