Emotionally Drained Sister
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Emotionally Drained Sister
Hi, I'm new here so I'm really hoping for some much needed advice. My sister is an alcoholic and I'm the one person who hasn't turned away from her even though she makes it really hard to be there for her. My problem is that she calls/texts/messages me constantly every day in tears to tell me she loves me and she "just wants to hear my voice" and she needs me to constantly tell her I won't leave her. It's exhausting and I feel like I'm just emotionally being sucked dry. Does anyone have any suggestions for how I can deal with this??? Any advice is appreciated........
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Sorry about your sister spk soon
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Sorry about your sister spk soon
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Hello KehaMaki,
Has your Sister gone to any AA meetings? You can find AA meetings in most areas by doing an Internet search. Check that it is an 'Open' meeting if you are going to go with her. From what you describe of her emotional state, it may be a good idea to go with her at first.
Also, you could offer to read through the AA Big Book with Her? It is a Textbook with the answers for complete Sobriety, and emotional stability through the Sobriety process.
RDBplus3...Happy, Joyous, and FREE...and I KNOW your Sister can be.
Has your Sister gone to any AA meetings? You can find AA meetings in most areas by doing an Internet search. Check that it is an 'Open' meeting if you are going to go with her. From what you describe of her emotional state, it may be a good idea to go with her at first.
Also, you could offer to read through the AA Big Book with Her? It is a Textbook with the answers for complete Sobriety, and emotional stability through the Sobriety process.
RDBplus3...Happy, Joyous, and FREE...and I KNOW your Sister can be.
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Welcome to SR!
Already some good insight here.
If I may add, some gentle but tough love might be good.
I remember when my brother told me my drinking was affecting our relationship and that he might have to pull out. At first I was mad and drank, but it planted a seed in my mind. It represented losing yet another great thing In my life.
Good luck!
Already some good insight here.
If I may add, some gentle but tough love might be good.
I remember when my brother told me my drinking was affecting our relationship and that he might have to pull out. At first I was mad and drank, but it planted a seed in my mind. It represented losing yet another great thing In my life.
Good luck!
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I can understand you wanting to be there for your sister.
Thats kind and caring and loving of you.
However, I do understand how draining this must be on you and thats not fair.
Perhaps a few rules or agreements being put in place would be fairer on you.
Maybe something like, she does not call more than .... many times a night or day?
Or if you text her and say 'we can speak in the morning' or 'lets catch up when you are sober and have slept it off' might limit the amount of tearful phone calls etc etc.
To me alcoholism is a disease.
You go to a doctor to be treated for a disease.
You wouldn't go to a family friend for treatment for your disease.
You would get support from family and friends, but ultimately it is a health professional who should treat you.
I just think you need to look after you as well as look after your sister.
This is all written with kindness and your best interests from one who knows.
I wish you the best xx
Thats kind and caring and loving of you.
However, I do understand how draining this must be on you and thats not fair.
Perhaps a few rules or agreements being put in place would be fairer on you.
Maybe something like, she does not call more than .... many times a night or day?
Or if you text her and say 'we can speak in the morning' or 'lets catch up when you are sober and have slept it off' might limit the amount of tearful phone calls etc etc.
To me alcoholism is a disease.
You go to a doctor to be treated for a disease.
You wouldn't go to a family friend for treatment for your disease.
You would get support from family and friends, but ultimately it is a health professional who should treat you.
I just think you need to look after you as well as look after your sister.
This is all written with kindness and your best interests from one who knows.
I wish you the best xx
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