Don't know where to start
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Don't know where to start
I've made the decision (once again) to give up alcohol. I'm ashamed that this has happened to me, that I let it happen to me, and that I can't stop.
This is my first time seeking support so I'm hopeful this time it will last...but I don't know where to start. I Know I can go two days without any alcohol but on day 3 it's my usual back on it routine. I had a blowout last night so I know the shame will keep me from touching alcohol for the next day or two but I'm scared of Wednesday already. I don't where to start, what to do, or how to handle Wednesday when I know the guilt of last night will wear off and I'll think I can handle it.
I hate this cycle.
This is my first time seeking support so I'm hopeful this time it will last...but I don't know where to start. I Know I can go two days without any alcohol but on day 3 it's my usual back on it routine. I had a blowout last night so I know the shame will keep me from touching alcohol for the next day or two but I'm scared of Wednesday already. I don't where to start, what to do, or how to handle Wednesday when I know the guilt of last night will wear off and I'll think I can handle it.
I hate this cycle.
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Thanks so much. I'm hoping reading others success stories will give me the confidence to do this. I don't think I've hit rock bottom, (almost there) but I don't want to get there. Consumed with guilt....something I've never done....drank so much last night that I slept in this morn and kids missed school. So embarrassed and ashamed even typing that out.
Thanks so much. I'm hoping reading others success stories will give me the confidence to do this. I don't think I've hit rock bottom, (almost there) but I don't want to get there. Consumed with guilt....something I've never done....drank so much last night that I slept in this morn and kids missed school. So embarrassed and ashamed even typing that out.
On Wednesday, when I feel like drinking, I will ____________ instead.
Fill in the blank. You'll feel like drinking. Plan NOW to do something else. No one is going to pour it down your throat, and that feeling is survivable.
You can do this.
Fill in the blank. You'll feel like drinking. Plan NOW to do something else. No one is going to pour it down your throat, and that feeling is survivable.
You can do this.
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So grateful for the words of advice, thank you all. Here less than an hour and already feel like I might be able to do it with this support. It's refreshing being able to admit to someone other than my husband (also heavy drinker) that it's a problem. Feel like a weight has been lifted....almost like my dirty little secret I try to hide from everyone.
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Welcome Cameron! You CAN do this. The day that I found this site was my last 'day one' .....and it can be for you too. I started forming a plan after my first post and it has developed over these last few months. Stay active on this site and join the class of March 2015....just jump in there and introduce yourself. Posting each morning on the 24 hour thread gets me off to a good start too. Also, it would be a great thing if your spouse would agree to no alcohol in the house.....removing that temptation helped me tremendously.
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Join Date: Mar 2015
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Welcome Cameron! You CAN do this. The day that I found this site was my last 'day one' .....and it can be for you too. I started forming a plan after my first post and it has developed over these last few months. Stay active on this site and join the class of March 2015....just jump in there and introduce yourself. Posting each morning on the 24 hour thread gets me off to a good start too. Also, it would be a great thing if your spouse would agree to no alcohol in the house.....removing that temptation helped me tremendously.
Hey Cameron,
you are very welcome here.
I never thought I'd be able to change, but I did and I'm never going back. Support from SR people was key.
I reckon you have started in exactly the right place!
Max
you are very welcome here.
I never thought I'd be able to change, but I did and I'm never going back. Support from SR people was key.
I reckon you have started in exactly the right place!
Max
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