Trying again
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Trying again
I drink because I am lonely. I drink because I was in a long abusive relationship and I can't seem to let go of it. I haven't lost anything. Yet. I still have my career, license, family etc. However, I feel guilty all the time and I know my son is catching on to me. I have to change. I don't want to be a drunk.
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It's worth it.
You really do change for the better. Push through the first few months and things get easier.
These days I'm thinking way clearer, and because of that things are changing for the better. You can do it to.
Alcohol is one big lie
You really do change for the better. Push through the first few months and things get easier.
These days I'm thinking way clearer, and because of that things are changing for the better. You can do it to.
Alcohol is one big lie
I've been through abuse too. I drank for all the wrong reasons, like you do. You can heal from all your past hurts. You cannot change what happened in the past, but you can move forward and live a good life.
I've lived alone for 25 years. Loneliness is easily combatted with hobbies and outside interests. You have to get out of your own head. How about volunteering at your son's school, or a shelter?
Life is infinitely better sober.
Are you willing to learn to live without alcohol?
I've lived alone for 25 years. Loneliness is easily combatted with hobbies and outside interests. You have to get out of your own head. How about volunteering at your son's school, or a shelter?
Life is infinitely better sober.
Are you willing to learn to live without alcohol?
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Very willing to learn to live without alcohol. I know it is a lie. I work full time and my son plays soccer at a high level. Most of my time is spent carting him where he needs to go. I have alternating weekends that I am free and this is generally when I do my heavy drinking. However, it's been creeping into the work week. I have started to crochet which is a great past time. It's the loneliness that is hard. Sometimes I feel like there is no one to talk to that cares. I stayed in an abusive relationship so long that I am not even whole anymore. I am broken and I can't escape the loneliness because I am a complete mental mess inside. It's not apparent on the outside.
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Well you can always come on here and talk to us.
You need to get away from anyone abusing you, you are worth more then that.
I think you will benefit greatly from staying sober, it will built your self esteem back up. Your new motto in life should be "good vibes only" hang around positive people. You deserve to be happy
You need to get away from anyone abusing you, you are worth more then that.
I think you will benefit greatly from staying sober, it will built your self esteem back up. Your new motto in life should be "good vibes only" hang around positive people. You deserve to be happy
I agree, you are not broken.
The alcohol keeps us in a very dark place. Only after abstinence for a while does the light come back.
This is a perfect time to quit, it's Spring and you can have a new life. Get out of the house. Find an activity you enjoy - walking, kayaking, tennis, bird watching, something that will get you out.
The abuse wasn't your fault, don't let it take up space in your life anymore. You cannot change the past. Move forward into healing.
Try joining the February Class in the Newcomers section - that is where people go who have chosen to stop drinking in February.
Welcome, we're glad you're here.
The alcohol keeps us in a very dark place. Only after abstinence for a while does the light come back.
This is a perfect time to quit, it's Spring and you can have a new life. Get out of the house. Find an activity you enjoy - walking, kayaking, tennis, bird watching, something that will get you out.
The abuse wasn't your fault, don't let it take up space in your life anymore. You cannot change the past. Move forward into healing.
Try joining the February Class in the Newcomers section - that is where people go who have chosen to stop drinking in February.
Welcome, we're glad you're here.
It's the loneliness that is hard. Sometimes I feel like there is no one to talk to that cares. I stayed in an abusive relationship so long that I am not even whole anymore. I am broken and I can't escape the loneliness because I am a complete mental mess inside. It's not apparent on the outside.
I'm 55 and there's not much for someone like me to do in the evenings. I read a lot and spend some time at the library. I don't go to the coffee houses because everyone is much younger than me, plus I don't have much money to spend on hoity-toity coffee.
I'm a professional with a good job, but have very little money because the maintenance/alimony payments are so high. I've been putting off a repair for my old beater of a vehicle for months now because I can't scrape together $700. Good thing I enjoy walking!
Welcome back Jenaben
I think there are way better ways to deal with loneliness than drinking. There's actually few things more isolating than drinking at home, alone.
Start building the life you want
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I think there are way better ways to deal with loneliness than drinking. There's actually few things more isolating than drinking at home, alone.
Start building the life you want
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