Overcomer4

When your A start quacking do you get neverending why questions? And do you just ignore them....Right now my AH is texting me.

Why couldn't you love me the way I deserve? Why does everything have to happen on your terms? Why do I have to be the one to change? Why why why?

I have no answers for him but to leave him where he is it's such a crappy feeling to leave someone in their own misery.

FeelingGreat

Hi Overcome, serial texting is harassment and frankly not quite normal. Here is my suggestion which you can reject, but it might help.

Block him if you feel you can, but otherwise:

Set him up in a 'group' where there is either no message tone, or a special one. Then ignore the messages when they come in. They are obviously designed to manipulate you and wear you down, and place all the blame on you while avoiding responsibility for his drinking. When you get a moment in the evening, deleted them all. At least you won't be distracted during the day.

Such self-indulgent sh** typical of an A who has no intention of changing.

NWGRITS

He's quacking. Ignore ignore ignore. You get what you give, man. That's why. Lol

auroraxborealis

iPhone let you mute, or turn on "do not disturb" for a specific contact. I do this for JoAnn Fabrics, because it texts me coupons too early in the morning!

Overcomer4

I have all my texts muted....I hope over time and sticking to my boundaries he will stop texting me all this kinda stuff!

dandylion

Overcome....I also think that ignoring him is a good plan. Sounds like he is deflecting a lot of blame on to you. (typical).
Most of the time, questions are really a statement disguised by a question mark....

dandylion

Overcomer4

I like that statement disguised as a question mark.....so true!!

NWGRITS

Why do they do that?!? I'm trying to sleep, I don't care if I can get 20% any item today. Really. Now if they're offering me money, I *might* be willing to open one eye at 6am to read it.