OnMyWay7

Ok people. Trying to find an AA meeting. Tried by my work but no one walked into the building. Tonight I'm in NJ driving a kid to an activity and I'm going to try to catch a meeting around here. I went to the address but it's a trucking company. Is that normal? The meeting is at 7 so I'm thinking to drive back around 6:45 but with no purple neon lights on people's heads saying "alcoholic" not sure how'd I know it's the right place.

LBrain

If you drive up and see people standing in a circle smoking cigarettes, it's the right place.

Or ask one of the smokers if this is where the meeting is. If they say anything other than yes it might be the wrong place.

AA people will know what you mean, you don't have to say anything else besides that. If you get some kind of wise answer, roll up your windows and lock your doors.

Stubbs16

Well,yes but no. I experienced the same thing awhile back when trying to do a meeting in my area. The when and where book said it was at an exact location,even used my gps. Maybe its a location no longer used? You can call the aa.org hotline, just to be sure. Hope you find one.

bitmap

Down here there is a blue thing they usually hang on the door soI look for that.

OnMyWay7

Ok. Driving back now. Would it be weird to roll down the window and ask if it's an AA meeting? This is embarrassing

miamifella

This happened to me a lot with NA and a little with AA.

If you go to a building just for meetings (a clubhouse) you can be sure a meeting will be there. Often the building will be closed till shortly before the meeting, but someone with a key always shows up and the meeting will happen.

least

I'd suggest calling the AA hotline to ask about meetings. They should be up on the current ones and where they're located.

OnMyWay7

Ok. Got it roll down window and ask. Any snarky answer roll up and go to Duncan donuts for tea

Soberwolf

Is there a telephone number associated with the mtn can you google the mtn and try and get a number or ring aa's main line and ask

Stubbs16

Hah yes look for people puffing away. Thats a given. Sometimes the books are outdated, the new books came out this month though i think? If not there, try the local clubhouse in your area. Mine is open 24 7. Good luck.

LBrain

besides all the other tips - NO, don't mention AA, just ask if there is a meeting here.

I went to a location once and I must have looked lost. One of the smokers asked me if I was looking for the 'meetin'. The word "meeting" is understood by those who go.

sugarbear1

we have a meeting at a trucking company near me, seems the rent was acceptable

ask someone if there is a meeting tonight there

Soberwolf

Is there a telephone mtn associated with the mtn Northern New Jersey AA

Carlotta

Look for the triangle outside and for the people smoking.

OnMyWay7

Ok. Found it and they said in in the right place. I'm going in wish me luck

Carlotta

It will be just fine Don t be shy, those are folks just like us on SR.

LBrain

good luck

ru12

Hope you have a great meeting.

OnMyWay7

Hi all. Thanks for the encouragement. I went in. The people were really nice and really open. I couldn't bring myself to talk but I did listen. Was surprised when people were talking about resentment etc. and ways to moderate that didn't work. I could relate to both. These were just people trying to find a way. I've never been in a group of so many people willing to expose their flaws.

I will try to find a meeting around me but will hit this one when I have the cheer run.

It might work for me and I'm willing to give it a go. Thanks again.

fini

ah, shared imperfections
glad you had the courage and went back.

round here (British Columbia), the meeting i go to, you wouldn't find a bunch of smokers outside.
how times have changed