Jodie77

It gets crazier. He is contacting my brother and said "tell your sister I love her and cry for her every day. Tell her I didn't do anything permanent."

How nuts is that? Well at least I have my vindication. And he has a wife and tattoo rings. Told my brother he wants me back. Insane.

SparkleKitty

Ugh. Hate to say it, but this was pretty...predictable. Hope you're staying strong, Jodie, and keeping your eyes wide open!

pinkpeony

praying you stay strong and don't fall back into his mess!

steelman1649

what goes on in Vegas stays in Vegas, except tattoo rings.

Jupiters

yup, this was going to happen. So utterly predictable.

Hopefully, Jodie you have come far enough in the last week or so to NOT ever put yourself back on that crazytrain to nowheresville.

Seren

Sadly classic addict behavior and not very surprising. If it were me, I'd take this news with one huge, enormous grain of salt.

Thumper

Thumper

Jodie,

In all seriousness you need to step up your recovery work and support system. Ask yourself some hard questions. Come up with concrete plans. This man is going to be on your door step before you know it and you are going to have some difficult choices to make that can radically alter your life.

Hawks

Check yourself before you wreck yourself.

marie1960

I thought you asked friends and family not to share any info regarding the ex?

How in the world is what your brother shared with you helping you? Seriously, you have the choice to cut him off when he starts to share info. This is NOT helping, or helpful to your current situation.

You certainly do not need this type of nonsense in your life, unless you enjoy hearing this type of crap, which leads to another issue. Why would you waste one more minute of your precious life emeshed in someone else's life? Someone who has ran off and MARRIED someone else. Marrying someone else says it ALL. You are done here, right?

fluffyflea

Ha ha ha ha. Not laughing at you,laughing at situation.

Poor you. Actually not poor you you are out.

Jupiters

I was going to ask why on earth is your brother even telling you this garbage? does he know how much you have been struggling with moving on and past this BS?

what good is going to come from him telling you this? I don't get it.
Seems so counter productive for him to tell you that (IMO)

LexieCat

So he's jerking her around, too. Lovely. What a prize.

Sungrl

Tattoo and a marriage license sound pretty permanent.

He sounds a little cuckoo Jodi. Take that with a grain of salt indeed.

Would you allow him back in your life?

With what you know and where you are at this moment would you take him back?

Please reread all your posts, see your therapist now! Don't get back on the crazy train.

I had to edit this: He sounds ALOT cuckoo!

Jodie77

I was actually in my therapy session when I got the text. And no I would never take him back. I hope that wasn't a serious question.

Fandy

Hi Jodie;
Yes, it is very sad and quite disgusting.lets do the numbers.
1. He cheated on you throughout the relationship
2. his kids must be completely confused and insecure,
3. he has permanent tatoo rings with another woman and a legal binding marriage contract.
4. He is sending you messages through your brother.
5. He is still the drunk/ coke binge person he was before
6. You are smarter and completely through with this, he totally disrespected you.
7. I feel sorry for the poor "wife"

Jupiters

*WHEW*

smart girl.
We all knew this was going to happen, I am a little surprised it was this soon though to be honest. He's a slick one eh?

Sungrl

I wasn't being unkind or belittling, but yes it was a serious question.

There is a thread on here that lists several ways we know we are truly in codie recovery, they are spot on.

here is the title:
How to Tell if a Codependent is Serious About Recovery (repost from archives)

Hawks

Awwwww, c'mon Jodie.

You could be "sister wives"

(is it too early for jokes?)

Thumper

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