Another first for me coming up
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Another first for me coming up
Having stayed sober through my first xmas and new year I'm now facing my first sober birthday.
Traditionally it's been a day where I can openly drink myself silly from midday to midnight under the pretence of "celebration"
I'm planning for this one to be really low key - take it easy, watch the rugby on TV, favourite meal, bit of time with family.
My wife suggested we go out for dinner! We've never done that on birthdays before because it means that someone would have had to drive - now the assumption is that I'll drive and she'll quite happily drink wine! I've told her that's not an option but do feel a bit selfish about it. I just think it's still early days and I don't want to sit there listening to my AV rabbit on inside my head with all those triggers about.
I suppose I've been selfish all through the years I was drinking in many ways so a bit longer won't hurt
I'll stay close to SR - thanks for listening
Traditionally it's been a day where I can openly drink myself silly from midday to midnight under the pretence of "celebration"
I'm planning for this one to be really low key - take it easy, watch the rugby on TV, favourite meal, bit of time with family.
My wife suggested we go out for dinner! We've never done that on birthdays before because it means that someone would have had to drive - now the assumption is that I'll drive and she'll quite happily drink wine! I've told her that's not an option but do feel a bit selfish about it. I just think it's still early days and I don't want to sit there listening to my AV rabbit on inside my head with all those triggers about.
I suppose I've been selfish all through the years I was drinking in many ways so a bit longer won't hurt
I'll stay close to SR - thanks for listening
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The entire first year of "firsts" can be difficult - first sober birthday, first sober vacation, etc. It's great though that you are recognizing the potential pitfalls ahead of time and planning for them. I don't think it is selfish to ask your wife to not drink in the circumstance, i woudl be willing to bet she will be just fine with it. Another option could be to cook a nice meal or order some good carryout for home. Either way, sounds like you have it under control...and SR is always here of course should you need reinforcments. And happy b-day!
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Hello and happy BDay!!!
I really dont think it's too much to ask.
My first sober Bday I held a beer bottle that my FIL gave me. It was terrible. I didn't drink but I felt like such a phoney. My FIL was my "drinking buddy", now he is in the hospital with cirrhosis and all types of complications. He had a malignant tumor (on top of cirrhosis).This all just went down about a month ago... Enjoy your sober Bday and many more to come!
I really dont think it's too much to ask.
My first sober Bday I held a beer bottle that my FIL gave me. It was terrible. I didn't drink but I felt like such a phoney. My FIL was my "drinking buddy", now he is in the hospital with cirrhosis and all types of complications. He had a malignant tumor (on top of cirrhosis).This all just went down about a month ago... Enjoy your sober Bday and many more to come!
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In my early sober days I would get weepy about certain “special” days that I used to drink and “celebrate” until a wonderful old timer convinced me that it’s just another day and I would be sober to enjoy life one day at a time.
BE WELL
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Thanks people - it does make me smile how expressions mean different things on different sides of the Atlantic...
...Scott's suggestion to get a carryout presumably means takeaway food. To me it means the bottles you buy at pub chucking out time to take home and continue drinking! I'll be sticking with the food idea
I do feel much more confident and less deprived facing this than xmas. probably because the whole world isn't celebrating my birthday but hopefully some of it is due to the fact I've got 102 sober days under my belt!
...Scott's suggestion to get a carryout presumably means takeaway food. To me it means the bottles you buy at pub chucking out time to take home and continue drinking! I'll be sticking with the food idea
I do feel much more confident and less deprived facing this than xmas. probably because the whole world isn't celebrating my birthday but hopefully some of it is due to the fact I've got 102 sober days under my belt!
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Originally Posted by Hendrix 
...Scott's suggestion to get a carryout presumably means takeaway food. To me it means the bottles you buy at pub chucking out time to take home and continue drinking! I'll be sticking with the food idea
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