Fake it til you make it
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Fake it til you make it
I am forcing myself out of the house at 9:00am today. I am going to go to the mall and walk - not a power walk but a good stride and check out the windows (stores don't open until 10).
I've been isolating myself too much. Some of it is circumstantial (weather, vehicle problems) and some is pure avoidance of dealing with people.
Not good...
So today I'm doing a small 'fake it til you make it' step out. Yes I will see people but I'm going alone. I think the exercise, the visual stimulation and being around people will be good. But it's not dealing with friends and family and their million questions about 'how are things going??'. I know it's well intentioned but I just don't want to go there and they really don't understand the depth of AH's issues. Struggling with that a lot too.
But I'm going to put my sneakers on now
Have a good day all!!
I've been isolating myself too much. Some of it is circumstantial (weather, vehicle problems) and some is pure avoidance of dealing with people.
Not good...
So today I'm doing a small 'fake it til you make it' step out. Yes I will see people but I'm going alone. I think the exercise, the visual stimulation and being around people will be good. But it's not dealing with friends and family and their million questions about 'how are things going??'. I know it's well intentioned but I just don't want to go there and they really don't understand the depth of AH's issues. Struggling with that a lot too.
But I'm going to put my sneakers on now
Have a good day all!!
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
We don't have to everything all in one
day. Waking up sober or clean each day
is a huge accompliment in recovery for
us.
If I can wake up sober and accomplish
say one other thing today then that is
another awesome accomplishment.
I not always feel motivated each day,
but I choose something to do, follow thru
with it and then I can say I did something
worth while that day.
When I went to my meetings, I could tell
many where either single with no kids to
worry about. All they had to do was focus
on themselves and their own recovery.
Then they had moms like me who not
only had the responsibility of taking care
of the kids and family, but we also had to
work on our recovery. That to me was a
huge load to carry on my shoulders.
I wanted more than anything to remain
sober, so I made sure I made my noon
meeting to get anything, a little something
to carry or think about during the day
while at home with my kids and family.
That time, that one hour just sitting, listening,
absorbing, learning healthy ways to remain
sober and work thru reasons why I drank
in the first place, was huge for me. To strengthen
my mind, body and soul while being responsible
in my life and recovery.
Try to find balance in life and recovery
and be kind and gentle on yourself because
being a mom in recovery is not only rewarding
but also a gift to be cherished and never
taken for granted or lightly.
23 yrs sober beginning recovery similar to
yours and today I am grateful for raising
my little family sober and living a happier,
healthier life after faking it till I made it
one day at a time.
You can too.
day. Waking up sober or clean each day
is a huge accompliment in recovery for
us.
If I can wake up sober and accomplish
say one other thing today then that is
another awesome accomplishment.
I not always feel motivated each day,
but I choose something to do, follow thru
with it and then I can say I did something
worth while that day.
When I went to my meetings, I could tell
many where either single with no kids to
worry about. All they had to do was focus
on themselves and their own recovery.
Then they had moms like me who not
only had the responsibility of taking care
of the kids and family, but we also had to
work on our recovery. That to me was a
huge load to carry on my shoulders.
I wanted more than anything to remain
sober, so I made sure I made my noon
meeting to get anything, a little something
to carry or think about during the day
while at home with my kids and family.
That time, that one hour just sitting, listening,
absorbing, learning healthy ways to remain
sober and work thru reasons why I drank
in the first place, was huge for me. To strengthen
my mind, body and soul while being responsible
in my life and recovery.
Try to find balance in life and recovery
and be kind and gentle on yourself because
being a mom in recovery is not only rewarding
but also a gift to be cherished and never
taken for granted or lightly.
23 yrs sober beginning recovery similar to
yours and today I am grateful for raising
my little family sober and living a happier,
healthier life after faking it till I made it
one day at a time.
You can too.
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Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: East Coast
Posts: 865
Good for you!
Walking each morning and evening is very therapeutic for me. I advise that to anyone looking to disconnect. Just plug in the music and hit the road!
I'm a little jealous - wish I could go too!
Have a great time!!
Walking each morning and evening is very therapeutic for me. I advise that to anyone looking to disconnect. Just plug in the music and hit the road!
I'm a little jealous - wish I could go too!
Have a great time!!
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Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Pa
Posts: 4,872
That's terrific. I do those things now. I live alone and sometimes I just go to a Walmart or Lowes just to smile at people and see if they smile back. If someone looks like they need help with something I offer my assistance. I talk to anyone who wants to talk, (as long as I am in a safe location). Mostly I talk to elderly people, mom with children, and cashiers.
It makes me feel good and it brightens my day.
It makes me feel good and it brightens my day.
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