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Old 02-06-2015, 04:42 PM
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Day 7 almost done

Day 7 nearly done. I feel good but kind of manic depressive. Small bit of anxiety. I think I have a lot of guilt and shame, because I'm looking at not only the binge relapse, but all the harm I've caused over the 7 year relationship with my wife. It's strange that before i only looked at the most recent episode, forgetting the past pile of events, yet now they all seem like one big **** up.

She's still there, but pretty much said she has no romantic feelings whatsoever, not that she could never, just that is where she'd at. Makes sense.

I told my friends via email about my relapse and that I've gone to sober life. They're pretty supportive, but they sure can drink. They just know when to stop.

It's a progressive insidious disease. Tonight I plan on watching tv and watering my garden and being thankful I still have it.

Went to a great step meeting with my Sponser last night. Lots of old timers and newcomers. Great group.
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Old 02-06-2015, 04:57 PM
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Congrats on 7 days sober! Stay close for support.
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Old 02-06-2015, 04:58 PM
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I ruined a 6 year relationship with my drinking. It was only after I sobered up that I looked at the big picture of all the chaos and hurt I caused over that time. I am haunted by guilt and shame in sobriety. I am in therapy but still have trouble getting past it. I pushed a lot of people away so I it's hard because this is the time I really need support. All we can do is stay sober I guess and let time heal.
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Old 02-06-2015, 05:12 PM
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Seven days sober is great Gardennerd. I'm glad that you know it's time to stop drinking and deal with things. I hope that things work out with your wife. Allow her to see the changes in you and how you live each day.
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Old 02-06-2015, 08:30 PM
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Thanks everyone. I think I might salvage this marriage yet.
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Old 02-06-2015, 10:16 PM
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Congratulations on 7 days.

Despite everything that's happened your wife is still with you. She has no romantic feelings for the drinking you but as the 'real you' continues to show yourself she may well find her feelings for you - which she may have buried to 'protect them' start to reemerge.
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Hey Nerd, staying sober is you're best way of salvaging your marriage, as well as chipping in an helping with everything so you're participating fully.
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7 days? Seriously? That's a long time, I know. I'm on day 4. These early days seem like an eternity huh? Ha ha

Good job, keep it up
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Old 02-06-2015, 11:50 PM
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Congrats on your week Gardennerd.

Just keep doing what you're doing - regardless of what else happens, you can make this the turning point you need to make

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Old 02-07-2015, 05:04 AM
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Good job for one week. Keep it up and hopefully your relationship can heal.
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Old 02-07-2015, 05:13 AM
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Congratulations. That's very hard work. You can do it. When you said you were going to water your garden, I thought, oh. He's watering his life garden, of course!
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Day 7 is fantastic Gardennerd!! Keep pushing through!!
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Old 02-07-2015, 10:11 AM
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Great job on 7 days, Gardennerd. Keep working sobriety; stick with your plan and close to SR.
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