Big night for FTS

Old 01-30-2015, 06:26 PM
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Big night for FTS

Wow-- so after a series of nasty nasty texts- AH's texts started to sound nicer, calmer....so we talked for a long while and I decided to give him another chance.........



I'm totally joking!! HA- but I had you going there for a minuet didn't I?

On a more serious note, his texts started sounding nicer (more nice- or whatever the proper term is)....yep he was drinking. I made a comment on how his 'tude had changed and how he must be drinking- he asked me if I wanted him to grab me some. I said no, but he COULD grab our son a new pair of shoes, some food for the house, and all those other things that we need instead.

So once I knew he was drinking- I called grandma and asked if she would put us up for the night- (I hate not having money of my own- I may need to quit school). Of course she said yes. So I very quickly grabbed the kiddos and took off.

I told him that we didn't want to be around him if he was going to be drunk and that we were going into town. He accused me of playing games with the kids, manipulating them, coming after me about my past pill problems, calling me names, and so on. He was ticked.

Then he said he just got home and was going to shower. He said he would leave so that the kids and I could have the house. I told him ok (because I really did want to be home so I could take care of my puppy. He never takes care of him) and to text me when he was gone.

He did leave and we are back home with all the doors locked and local sheriff on stand-by. He took his blankets and pillows and I know he will stay away. I passed him on the highway.

I know you all will have a plethora of concerns, but I will assure you. We are safe. He will leave us alone for tonight.

*whew* I'm beat. Really, this is exhausting. But I did it. I really did it.
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Old 01-30-2015, 06:32 PM
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You had me going there for a second.

I've been following your threads and just wanted to pop in and give some support and (((hugs))).

Not a whole lot to add to what's been offered already. Here's to hoping you and yours come out of this safely.

Hang in there and please let us know you are alright.

This is a scary time.
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Old 01-30-2015, 06:34 PM
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Thank you for the update. Try to get some rest while you can.
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Old 01-30-2015, 06:37 PM
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I think it's pretty awesome you can kid around--you seem a lot like me that way. The bigger the crisis, the more a good laugh can keep you sane.

Sounds like you have things as under control as you can, right now. Were you able to do anything with the locks, just in case?

If not, maybe do something primitive like piling a few pots and pans in front of the door, so you'll hear if he tries to come in?

Hope you get a good night's rest. Proud of ya, kiddo!
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Old 01-30-2015, 06:44 PM
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free,

You had me going there also, as I was yelling, no, no, no, no.....loud enough for my neighbors to hear.

Good job..........You are terrific

Now go relax some

((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
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Old 01-30-2015, 07:48 PM
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Originally Posted by LexieCat View Post

Sounds like you have things as under control as you can, right now. Were you able to do anything with the locks, just in case?

If not, maybe do something primitive like piling a few pots and pans in front of the door, so you'll hear if he tries to come in?
I always wanted someone to try that bucket-of-water-over-the-door thing. Maybe this would be a good opportunity.

Seriously, Free. Stay safe. Will Grandma not let you bring the puppy?
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Old 01-30-2015, 08:01 PM
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Stay safe, Free!! You really had me going for a second! I was like, NOOOO!! Not after all the progress!!!! Oooohhhhhhh.....whew!!!!' I'm glad you are such a strong person, and you always have great advice and a kind word to give!! I don't have much advice in this area, but hugs to you and the kiddos!! Stay strong!!!
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get the rest you need and deserve!
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Old 01-30-2015, 08:06 PM
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Karma-

no actually- it was a matter of space and time. I have a four door car and shoving all the kids in there- my bloodhound is HUGE! He's 8 months old and is 90lbs! So not enough room. And plus, he was ON his way home and I wanted to get out before he had time to pitch a royal fit.

And Lexi- no change of locks- but we don't actually have key for our locks. Like I said there is only 60 people in the little town I live in, so we have never locked our doors except at night. So he can't get in unless we unlock it from the inside or he breaks in.

I think we'll be ok tonight.

Thanks so much everyone-- I'm so serious- I could NOT have done yesterday or today without you all.

The only thing really bugging me now is the money aspect of this whole thing. I hate not having my own money. It just sucks and makes me feel like a child again. I mean, don't get me wrong. Grandma and grandpa are awesome and I appreciate them, but when your an adult--- the time for money borrowing *should* be over. At least from relatives anyway.

Oh well, I'll deal with that tomorrow. This is a good start. I feel good about todays events. I can handle this and I can do this. I proved that to myself today. I really did.
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Sweet dreams to you and the kiddos, FTS! You're doing great. ((((hugs))))
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Put the money situation in the hands of your higher power for now and know it will all work out. Just keep doing the next right thing! Good job on keeping your boundaries!
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Old 01-30-2015, 08:22 PM
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Oh here you are. I was looking for you on your other thread.
Don t worry about the money thing you will repay grandma when you graduate anyway.
Get some rest. I am glad you are ok and he is not there to bug you

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Yup, don't worry about the money. You can pay it back when you're on your feet again. It isn't as if you are broke because you're hitting the casinos. This is a bona fide life-emergency-type situation. Sh*t happens. Be grateful you have a loving family member who will help you out in dire straits.
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I can understand the money concern, but it's more important that you and the kids are safe. Thanks for the update; I've been thinking about you and the kids all night.
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Old 01-30-2015, 09:31 PM
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Yup, don't worry about the money. You can pay it back when you're on your feet again. It isn't as if you are broke because you're hitting the casinos. This is a bona fide life-emergency-type situation. Sh*t happens. Be grateful you have a loving family member who will help you out in dire straits.
Very true!!! I am grateful indeed. I know a lot of people who don't have that and need it desperately!
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The money thing will work out in time. I have to admit, it took longer than I wanted (and I have no kids, unless you consider the four legged critters who are meowing at me). I, like you, had people who were willing to help me.

I'm slowly paying them back, but they are more concerned that I'm okay. That's what people do for you when they love you and want to help.

I had a hard time accepting help, I thought I should be able to take care of myself, dammit.

What I've learned is that HP has a big hand in the overall picture. People were there to help me when I needed it, they are willing to take whatever I can do in paying them back.

These people care about you and the kids. My suggestion is do the best you can do, let him do what he wants to, but protect you and the kids. It's not fun to depend on others, but in the long run? You find out who really wants what you and the kids need.

Stay safe, take all the help you can get, and keep working at being independent of this guy. It will work out. Been there, done that, got the t-shirts

Hugs and prayers,

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