My AV wants me to drink tonight-HELP
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My AV wants me to drink tonight-HELP
I made it through my vacay, it was all good, but now I'm back to my real life and my AV is back with a vengeance. I really prepared myself mentally for the vacation and now that I'm back I feel exhausted about it. It's like convincing me I need a reward... I'm at 10 months, when is this stopping? I guess never. The feedback I got on vacay doesn't help either. Hearing that drinking is normal, that I don't have a problem... I'm not internalizing these comments. They are right, I don't have a problem and that's because I don't drink anymore.
Tonight is a dinner with girlfriends... I know that they will not push but I feel myself rationalizing drinking. Just 1... With the appetizers... I feel mad at myself for even considering it. Oh yeah and the good old "nobody will know". So I tell myself "I will know and that's what matters.
Feel better already...
Tonight is a dinner with girlfriends... I know that they will not push but I feel myself rationalizing drinking. Just 1... With the appetizers... I feel mad at myself for even considering it. Oh yeah and the good old "nobody will know". So I tell myself "I will know and that's what matters.
Feel better already...
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ok calm down and find a quiet place. Now remember, in detail the lowest points when you were drinking. The feeling, the despair, the puke, the real sense that your life was slipping away from you. You have done so well to get to where you are. If you drink you are booking the fast track back to where you were. There is no one drink or a happy night out. You are an alcoholic - you go straight back to the despair and the puke. Don't do it!
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Don't do it.just Keep thinking it through about how horrible you'd feel if you did it. You know that you wouldn't have just one glass. It hard, but you can do it. Congratulations for having a vacation without drinking, that was a milestone. Keep going. Someone told me that every time we tell the AV to screw off, it gets easier.
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“My AV wants me to drink tonight-HELP”
Often the thinking process of drinking starts long before the picking up the drink.
I needed to face the fact that I cannot drink in safety. The thinking I had done was being dishonest with the facts because if I drank things would be guaranteed to be worse, this I’ve witnessed over the years in thousands of others.
My suggestion is to think about non drinking things and the negative results of drinking.
It’s defiantly not easy getting sober again after a relaps.
BE WELL
Often the thinking process of drinking starts long before the picking up the drink.
I needed to face the fact that I cannot drink in safety. The thinking I had done was being dishonest with the facts because if I drank things would be guaranteed to be worse, this I’ve witnessed over the years in thousands of others.
My suggestion is to think about non drinking things and the negative results of drinking.
It’s defiantly not easy getting sober again after a relaps.
BE WELL
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Thoughts of "just one" huh?
Drinking has to be taken completely off the table. No exception. No, "just one" before dinner. Maintain the integrity of "no drinking, no matter what" and your AV can squawk as much as it wants. You aren't drinking. So don't let yourself be bothered by your thoughts. It's only if you are thinking about giving in that they are troublesome.
Drinking has to be taken completely off the table. No exception. No, "just one" before dinner. Maintain the integrity of "no drinking, no matter what" and your AV can squawk as much as it wants. You aren't drinking. So don't let yourself be bothered by your thoughts. It's only if you are thinking about giving in that they are troublesome.
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I find it easier to stay sober on vacation too.
And I love what you said about not having a problem, and that's because you don't drink anymore! Perfect.
Stay off the drink and continue to enjoy life, you don't want to go down that road again.
Xoxo
And I love what you said about not having a problem, and that's because you don't drink anymore! Perfect.
Stay off the drink and continue to enjoy life, you don't want to go down that road again.
Xoxo
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Originally Posted by doggonecarl 
Thoughts of "just one" huh?
Drinking has to be taken completely off the table. No exception. No, "just one" before dinner. Maintain the integrity of "no drinking, no matter what" and your AV can squawk as much as it wants. You aren't drinking. So don't let yourself be bothered by your thoughts. It's only if you are thinking about giving in that they are troublesome.
Drinking has to be taken completely off the table. No exception. No, "just one" before dinner. Maintain the integrity of "no drinking, no matter what" and your AV can squawk as much as it wants. You aren't drinking. So don't let yourself be bothered by your thoughts. It's only if you are thinking about giving in that they are troublesome.
you're right, if there's none, no deal making, then it's easier.
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