dave734

Hi,

I'm a 72 year old male in good health. I'm 147 days dry after years of too much drinking. I have done it on my own, not with AA. I'm really not a 'group' kinda' guy. I have had very little trouble staying dry... because I want to(!)... until tonight.

My wife drinks WAY too much. She had an upsetting day with her family today. I tried very hard to be supportive, but to no avail. She got drunk tonight and took off after me. It got pretty bad... and I really, really wanted a drink. I didn't do it, thank God, but I have an idea this family thing, and her drinking is going to go on and get worse.

This post is, I hope, is a substitute for the first drink I didn't have. Thanks for reading it.

Dee74

Welcome Dave

I think you made a great choice coming here rather than drinking

There's a ton of support here - really glad you found us

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dave734

Thank you SO much! This looks like a wonderful support forum. The posts I've read in the last few minutes have made me feel much better.

Thank you all for being here... with me!!!

matilda123

Welcome, Dave. Sending you support via the Internet ��

Soberwolf

Welcome Dave nice to meet you

Congrats on 147 days

mns1

Hi Dave,

If support is what you are looking for then you've come to a good place!

Jsbodhi

Welcome!

messyliver

Welcome! I can't even fathom 147 days sober. Well done! x

Nofearnobeer

Way to Abstain!

Anna

Good for you with 147 days sober.

I'm sorry for the situation with you and your wife. Of course, it's not helpful to you that she gets drunk, but I'm glad you came here and posted instead of drinking.

SoberLeigh

Welcome to SR, Dave; glad you found us.

Jupiters

Hey Dave! and welcome
hope you decide to stick around.

OnMyWay7

Hi Dave and glad you came here - you don't have to stick around while she gets drunk do you? I'm not going to a business dinner tonight because I just don't want to put myself in a situation where I think a drink would be a good idea or I might be triggered.

Just saying - can you go for a walk (though I'm sure it's butt cold there days in Canada) - maybe a movie? I've seen a lot of movies lately lol

firstymer

I am having some relationship issues myself and have been sober for over a year now. As stressful as my relationship problems are, I know that they would be compounded by my going back to drinking. I suspect the same may result for you.

If my relationship problem doesn't improve, I may have to make some difficult decisions. But that is all the more reason to have a clear head. I can't go back to where I was before. I made enough bad decisions while drinking. I can't afford to make another one.

Good luck. I am glad that you are here with us.

MIRecovery

I have found sobriety is not about what I want it is about what I need. The mind that created the problem is unlikely to be the mind that has the solution.

There have been countless things I have found necessary, that I resisted, but were absolutely critical to long term sobriety. AA was just one of those things.

I pray for the willingness to be willing

PurpleKnight

Welcome to the Forum Dave!!