7 days
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Join Date: Jan 2014
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7 days
well, its been a week! i'm feeling good but ...
for me, the hard parts are still to come: going to dinners, parties, etc, and not drinking while avoiding any attention being drawn to the fact that I am not drinking. it makes me feel so awkward, like i'm under a spotlight and everyone is thinking how weird i am or something.
its odd - even though i haven't been drinking and have not wanted to i've found myself thinking about not drinking constantly, so often that it feels exhausting - will this ever lessen or go away?
for me, the hard parts are still to come: going to dinners, parties, etc, and not drinking while avoiding any attention being drawn to the fact that I am not drinking. it makes me feel so awkward, like i'm under a spotlight and everyone is thinking how weird i am or something.
its odd - even though i haven't been drinking and have not wanted to i've found myself thinking about not drinking constantly, so often that it feels exhausting - will this ever lessen or go away?
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Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: U.S.A.
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Hi Kg and well done on 7 days!
I think it's key to focus on today and not worry about those other things until they actually come up. They're not a problem for me personally but I'm sure other have plenty of wisdom to share with you in that regard.
More power to you Kg!
I think it's key to focus on today and not worry about those other things until they actually come up. They're not a problem for me personally but I'm sure other have plenty of wisdom to share with you in that regard.
More power to you Kg!
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Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Sausalito, CA
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Congrats! Day 7 for me, too. Don't worry what other people think, if someone cares that you're not drinking, it's likely that person has a problem. The most important thing is what YOU think about yourself. What I find is that, most people don't care and it's not a big deal. If you're worried about people asking why you're not drinking, just have an excuse prepared in advance. I've done that on occasions and find that I feel slightly uncomfortable at first about it, then realize no one cares as long as they can drink, lol. I also obsess about both not drinking and drinking, although the last couple of days, I have spent a lot of time outside and getting exercise, and the drinking thoughts have subsided quite a bit.
Keep at it! You're doing great!
Keep at it! You're doing great!
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I agree with the consensus here...worry about today and let tomorrow take care of itself for now.
I waited a while until I re-entered social engagements where drinking was a focus...I wanted to be absolutely resolute in my desire not to drink.
It took a few months for me, but I still consider those months a great investment in my recovery
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I waited a while until I re-entered social engagements where drinking was a focus...I wanted to be absolutely resolute in my desire not to drink.
It took a few months for me, but I still consider those months a great investment in my recovery
D
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I had house guests over Christmas and there was drinking every night. It took 4 days for anyone except my wife to notice I wasn't drinking with them.
People don't care nearly as much as we think they do about what's in our cups.
Congrats on 7 days!
People don't care nearly as much as we think they do about what's in our cups.
Congrats on 7 days!
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