Hit the Nail on The Head - Ah-Ha!
Trudgin
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Hit the Nail on The Head - Ah-Ha!
We all hear this phrase from time to time. Many of us in sobriety have those ah - ha moments. We hear or read something that for whatever reason just clicks with us.
Those hit the nail on the head, ah-ha's become cumulative for me and provide a foundation from which to build sober time. Hopefully that sober time will give me enough pause to see the light and a way out of the darkness.
At some point I heard this - Not only do I accept the fact I cannot drink normally I need to accept the solution.
That statement seemed pretty straight forward, but when I heard it the timing was perfect. I had accepted the fact the former is truth, what about the latter?? That's the rub........work in progress
What have you read / heard or seen - that Hit the Nail on the Head for you, and gave you an Ah-Ha moment leading to sober growth??
Those hit the nail on the head, ah-ha's become cumulative for me and provide a foundation from which to build sober time. Hopefully that sober time will give me enough pause to see the light and a way out of the darkness.
At some point I heard this - Not only do I accept the fact I cannot drink normally I need to accept the solution.
That statement seemed pretty straight forward, but when I heard it the timing was perfect. I had accepted the fact the former is truth, what about the latter?? That's the rub........work in progress
What have you read / heard or seen - that Hit the Nail on the Head for you, and gave you an Ah-Ha moment leading to sober growth??
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Mine was quite simple. It was looking at the rest of my life and realizing I couldn't think of even one single event in the future where drinking would add anything positive to my life. I don't remember a particular "aha" moment with that or when it came to me, but that's when sobriety clicked because I realized there was no need to ever drink again in any situation.
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The realization that my life would be just fine without alcohol. It was just a thought I had on my second day sober, but at that moment I became simply transformed into a non-drinker. And yes, for me, it was that simple.
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My "Aha!" moment?
"Yeah, hi...about you coming by to pick up the rest of your things? I packed them and left them out in front. I changed the locks so you can't get in. Leave your old key by the door. And please don't try to contact me."
I continued to drink around-the-clock for the next eight months, during which time I lost everything else of any importance to me.
Don't try this at home.
"Yeah, hi...about you coming by to pick up the rest of your things? I packed them and left them out in front. I changed the locks so you can't get in. Leave your old key by the door. And please don't try to contact me."
I continued to drink around-the-clock for the next eight months, during which time I lost everything else of any importance to me.
Don't try this at home.
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Join Date: Jul 2010
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Many things, but it took years for me to achieve sobriety. Two of the most influental elements came during the last year of my drinking; not single things I heard, but events.
1. I was in the middle of a very difficult depressive episode of which I drank through heavily, pretty much unable to do anything at times. Some of my work colleagues came to me during that period offering to do whatever they could to help me to get my work done, and also lots of emotional support. They never knew about the extent of my drinking problem I think, and I know that they did not understand all that depression and lack of motivation about me fully either. I never asked for their help and I believe it wasn't completely unconditional since we were bound in the projects together and depended on each-other, but I'd never experienced anything like that before. And they actually did it. That was how I learned, probably for the first time in my life seriously, to accept help, and also to ask for it here and there later as I was getting better slowly. I was very, very lucky for being in a strongly mutually dependent situation otherwise perhaps they would have just gotten rid of me... well I don't know. They put up with me for several other months also later, before and after getting sober, until I could take care of business in a more decent way. I will be grateful for these people forever. We are just having the farewell party of one of them tonight as she is moving to a new job.
2. When I saw a good friend of mine dying of cancer. This was just a month before I decided that it was finally time to get sober for good.
1. I was in the middle of a very difficult depressive episode of which I drank through heavily, pretty much unable to do anything at times. Some of my work colleagues came to me during that period offering to do whatever they could to help me to get my work done, and also lots of emotional support. They never knew about the extent of my drinking problem I think, and I know that they did not understand all that depression and lack of motivation about me fully either. I never asked for their help and I believe it wasn't completely unconditional since we were bound in the projects together and depended on each-other, but I'd never experienced anything like that before. And they actually did it. That was how I learned, probably for the first time in my life seriously, to accept help, and also to ask for it here and there later as I was getting better slowly. I was very, very lucky for being in a strongly mutually dependent situation otherwise perhaps they would have just gotten rid of me... well I don't know. They put up with me for several other months also later, before and after getting sober, until I could take care of business in a more decent way. I will be grateful for these people forever. We are just having the farewell party of one of them tonight as she is moving to a new job.
2. When I saw a good friend of mine dying of cancer. This was just a month before I decided that it was finally time to get sober for good.
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