killerinstinct

I've sent my current addict drug dealing friend a goodbye letter, it hurts and I am crying but it's a dream and nothing more.. A one way street as he is too self absorbed to meet me halfway. I feel utterly devastated.. Like I've broken up with a boyfriend or a husband... My heart is broken... But I can't live a lie anymore... He is all about him and doesn't acknowledge me unless he wants something to fill the void in him.. Goodbye my friend.. I will miss you. So sad but it's for the best.

SparkleKitty

I know it's hard, but when I let go of my illusions was when my healing really began. Many, many hugs, my friend.

maia1234

I'm sorry. It hurts!

killerinstinct

I know that if he says sorry for being selfish it's not going to last.. Who am I kidding. It will only be a temp thing I know. I wish there were some addicts out there that are not so selfish.

Seren

Hello instinct,

I'm so sorry for your pain. I hope today will be a bit better!

I do have to ask about this, though...

So is it OK with you if your romantic partner is an active addict as long as they are not a selfish one? Do you believe that the only pool of men available to you are active addicts?

I hope and pray for your sake that neither of these statements are true.

love4menotu

Hi ki..

Take this time alone to start a new relationship that is truly loving and fulfilling. It starts with loving yourself. Spend your time working on it and strengthening your love and commitment to yourself.

The alternative is to hop from relationship to relationship looking for love and affirmation that you exist from others. That's a truly sad way to live because there will never be the perfect person out there to fill those gaping holes of loneliness and despair within us. Be smarter than me.. Don't waste 40 years looking for that person.

That person is already in your life.. It is you.

The question here is.. Do you believe this?

MissFixit

Hey Killer,

I agree with the above. You have a golden opportunity to start fresh with yourself! That is great. What about digging into things that are healthy for you that you enjoy? Like cooking, hiking, reading, hula hooping, train for a marathon, whatever... Just focus on stuff that you can do without another romantic partner for a while. Maybe start a new project with your child? Enjoy your work, want to change jobs? Need more education? Whatever you want to do, you can. The world is your oyster.

Focusing on ourselves rather than others helps heal some of the internal brokenness.