Unmanageable

Old 01-09-2015, 07:31 AM
  # 1 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
GardenMama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2012
Posts: 793
Unmanageable

An excerpt from the NarAnon Family book, Sharing Experience, Strength and Hope, January 8:

"I wondered how the addict could not make better choices because they surely could see the consequences. Then I thought of my own life and I realized that I tended to do the same thing. I tried to ignore the fact that if I stepped in and started getting involved, then I would likely get hurt. No, I only saw that my actions would make someone else's life better. Who am I to say what is going to be the answer for someone else? How can I say their life would be better because I saw it that way? Did I learn my lessons by someone telling me, or do I learn my lessons by going through them myself? If I tried to get involved in someone else's program or inventory, my life became insane and unmanageable."

Last night I started on January 1 of this book and read up to the 8th, finding at the exact same day of the calendar a very important reminder for me RIGHT NOW, the paragraph above. I needed to be reminded of this!

My RAD is not really speaking or interacting with me, but she is making progress on getting resources set up for the near future--WIC, food stamps, insurance, housing, Mother-Baby support classes. I don't get details, and I don't ask; I just say, "that's great, honey." It is hard to not ask more, offer to help, want to be involved, but I know I must keep my distance and let her become the adult she really, really has to be now.
GardenMama is offline  
Old 01-09-2015, 07:49 AM
  # 2 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2011
Posts: 1,698
Thank you GM, this is a message that is very pertinent for me today as well!
Ilovemysonjj is offline  
Old 01-09-2015, 11:01 AM
  # 3 (permalink)  
Ann
Nature Girl
 
Ann's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
Posts: 60,328
GardenMama, I read several daily readings, it's one way of opening my heart and my ears for God/the universe/recovery to speak to me the exact words I need to hear.

The greatest lesson of recovery, for me and for many, is that the life of another person is not ours to control or manipulate. Doing so robs them of the important lessons they need to learn for themselves.

What a great reminder for me today to back up and back off any time I feel the need to "take matters of anyone else into my own hands."

Hugs
Ann is offline  

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 03:17 PM.