Katchie

I haven't spoken to him since his coming home drunk Friday night. He finally called to let us know he is alive. If there had been an emergency, he didn't have a cell phone and couldn't be reached because no one knew where he was. Fine. It's been peaceful. Anyway, he said he has been detoxing and on straight water...yikes...I warned him that its dangerous and he agreed it might be because he felt weird and had some heart palpitations and heavy sweating/shaking last night but that he's made it 72 hours. I guess all I can do is warn him and the rest is up to him. He is definitely sober; I could hear it in his voice. He said he doesn't know why he is doing this to himself and his family -- just doesn't know the why to it all. He sounded like a sad sack. He said he realizes he has lost all respect with those who love him and knows he may never get it back. I said nothing but thanked him for letting me know he is ok and where he is at.

amy55

OK, here is the deal. Perhaps I am not an alcoholic. I remember going on two week binges, going thru the night sweats, the shaking hands in the morning, but didn't you say he wasn't drinking for awhile? I actually think he is pulling at your pity strings. He did what had to do, he got drunk, disappeared, didn't even call you yesterday, said he was sober, but going thru withdrawals, just, oh man, perhaps I wasn't an alkie at all.

I think he just wants to drink, and he wants your ok for his disappearing acts so that he can sit there in peace without you nagging him, (not that I am saying you nag).

He is hoovering you so that he can come back home, and blaming alcoholism for everything, and not himself.

He is having a real pity party for himself, and if it doesn't work, the poor poor me, pour me another drink.

(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))
amy

Mango blast

Prayers are with both of you. You're not alone.

((((Hugs))))

Seren

I'm glad that he let you know where he is and that he is alright.

Katchie

I feel strange about it all. I'm sad at the person he has become but I'm unaffected by what he said because I felt like he was wanting a response out of me, but I honestly don't have one other than you reap what you sow, and I wasn't going to say that because it would be hurtful and pointless. Sad, yes, for what he use to be, what could have been and isn't and hasn't been for years. I could hear the real voice I haven't heard in a while peaking out. I'm just going to let him wallow in it a while. I didn't ask him to come home. He said he needed his phone and would pick it up in the morning. Thats fine by me, so again, I didn't ask him to come on home. He said he hasn't eaten in 2 days, ok, I didn't ask him to come home and eat or ask to meet him to eat. I'm tired and I'm enjoying this "off" time w/o an alcoholic around.

ladyscribbler

Poor hungry baby. He's really laying it on thick. I got some of the same guilt tripping when my ex felt me pulling away. Then when the pity party didn't reel me back in he'd start raging and threatening.
Take care Katchie. Glad you're enjoying your peaceful home today.

Hammer

Thank you, l.s.

FireSprite

You are staying strong, good for you!! Definitely some quacking there & he's probably not done just yet so be prepared. I hope you are catching up on sleep and mindless tv & whatever other creature comforts you enjoy today!