angd1978

Not only am I battling an addiction to alcohol, but I have also been battling a mother with undiagnosed borderline personality disorder for 30 years. I quit both on Nov. 22, 2014. I am also on a forum to help me through the going no contact with my mother. Last night, not only did I have a wonderful time at home with my 4 month old puppy, I actually enjoyed being sober and looking forward to a great New Year. Normally, being alone on New Years would have torn me up inside and I would have drank about two to three bottles of champagne and carried the mimosa on in the morning. I would have cried about stupid things like having no one to kiss at midnight or that everyone else was out having a good time. I am happy that I didn't self-loath and I am feeling better in my own skin.

I also received a text message from my Aunt last night that could have triggered a drinking episode. She told me Happy New Year after not responding to my Happy Thanksgiving or Christmas messages. This was her message to me:

I hope you have a good new year and I hope that you can put the past to rest. I only have your Mom and I love her more than life. She won't be around forever as I have found that life is too short to hold on to S**t that doesn't matter. As your grandmother once told me, you have one life and it is up to you to make yourself happy. Nobody can do that for you. Love you.

My response: I hope you have a good New Year too! Happiness is happening day by day. Love you too!

I am proud that I did not get enmeshed in the BS and let her make me feel bad for getting rid of toxic people in my life! Life is too short to allow people to make me feel like S**t, is what I wanted to say back! lol Having a clear head allows me to see my crazy family for what they are and keep my distance to keep my sanity and sobriety. Here's to day 40 and a sober New Year for the first time in years!!!

Soberwolf

Well done on 40 days sober AngD wishing you peace luck & happiness in this new year

hayley86

Congratulations on your 40 days! Best wishes for 2015!

angd1978

Thanks Soberwolf and Hayley!! I hope you both have a wonderful New Year as well!

SarahB60

Great job! Congrats on 40 days of sobriety!

Soberpotamus

Great job I know all about crazy family, lol.

strategery

Great job on 40 days AngD! That is a major accomplishment!! It sounds like you are really growing as a person.
Happy New Years!

Plure

Awesome on the 40 days and staying true on one of the most drinking-oriented nights of the year!

And yes, I think everyone has craziness in their family to some degree!

Fly N Buy

Your GM was correct - we only have on life to live and it is up to us to be happy.
Good for you on not taking the bait that was tossed into the bear trap!

Happy New Year and congrats on 40 days - awesome

JanieJ

Congrats on 40 days, Ang :grouphug :

My mother is also BPD. I don't see her much.

Good for you, good text reply, just right ! x

JanieJ

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WIP17

Congrats on 40 days! Way to go on the text reply and not getting into the drama. Sounds like you are getting stronger within yourself and through your sobriety!