geno198

This holiday was hard for the simple fact that there is a safe place for me. It seams like I am set up to fail. I fell hard and 3 days later I am hating life. I know you guys hear this all the time but it sucks. I don't like it, I hate the feeling that I am still experiencing. Hating life. Back to the drawing board.

Spacegoat

Dont know what else to say but hang in there man.

I hear ya.

biminiblue

What do you mean there isn't a safe place for you? We create our own safety - unless you're in jail or homeless.

Jsbodhi

I dropped the ball big time on xmas eve.
Day 1 was unbearable.
Day 4 now and starting to get back into the swing of being sober and not the self loathing and fear.
Keep up the good fight, it'll stick eventually, just don't quit quitting xxxx

SoberLeigh

Are you able to create a safe place, geno, even if it is an escape place or places - your home, your office, the gym, a local coffee shop?

brynn

Hi geno, glad you're here.

I had to make a safe place for myself, geno.
I got sober three weeks ago and was living with my alcoholic boyfriend. He didn't want to stop. I couldn't stay sober living with him and the booze so I moved out. Drastic? Yes, but my life is worth it.
Your life is worth it, too.

geno198

My wife is a drinker and I can't move out. I needed to find a meeting that night. So what is the new plan for me....... I think when the wife drinks, I will go to a meeting. when I am tempted I will post.

SoberLeigh

Good plan, geno.

Maybe keep a list of meeting dates, times, and locations in a handy place.

Soberwolf

Geno mtns & SR will help thats for sure

I know its hard but you can do it accept alcohol is ruining your life and take the option off the table

biminiblue

Many people are sober while living with drinking spouses.

If you stay away from her when she drinks, she may start to find it isn't as appealing. You may also start to find she isn't as appealing.

PurpleKnight

Parting ways with alcohol permanently was the first step in life looking up for me, it didn't come straight away, but with time physically, mentally and emotionally I found a better place, all through the removal of alcohol consumption.

Hang in there!! SR is here for you!!

SoberD

I wouldn't say being around a drinker necessitates failure but certainly would make it more difficult - nevertheless the choice is always 100% yours, regardless of circumstances. Going back to the "drawing board" to devise a plan to mitigate the risks sounds like a good idea to me...

trachemys

geno, your safe place is HERE.

red3215

Maybe you need to put a lot more time and effort into sobriety, nip the cravings early. You may have to spend hours and hours reading Rational Recovery or The Big Book if you're in AA or videos online that talk about alcoholism, devote yourself to a recovery program. Ive had many slips and relapses but I don't think they ever happened when I was putting lots of effort into maintaining sobriety.
You can quit! We all can.

Gottalife

How about those steps? Undergoing a profound alteration in our reaction to life as the result of taking the steps. That's how I found freedom from alcohol.

geno198

I like it

geno198

Got a meeting list after church. Now I feel like crap. Watching the niners play. Any suggestions on how to feel better

SoberLeigh

Stay well hydrated, geno. Eat small, simple, healthy meals.

Be kind to yourself; you are healing.

geno198

I hate this

SoberLeigh

I know; so did I. I can't begin to describe how much better life is now.

Stick with it; stick with us.