10 year reunion
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10 year reunion
High school reunion tonight an I'm not going.
I feel like a coward, I'm sitting at home in the dark afraid to go out and face my friends. Dont want to go somewhere where everyone is drinking and I have way to much anxiety to go without drinking.
Friends have been calling and I been ignoring them I think I'm isolating more then I should but I feel hopeless right now.. Not sure I'll ever get better
I feel like a coward, I'm sitting at home in the dark afraid to go out and face my friends. Dont want to go somewhere where everyone is drinking and I have way to much anxiety to go without drinking.
Friends have been calling and I been ignoring them I think I'm isolating more then I should but I feel hopeless right now.. Not sure I'll ever get better
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Personally, I think you are making the right choice to stay home especially if you are feeling like you would drink. It took quite awhile before I felt comfortable going to places where there was drinking; I still don't choose to go if I"m in a bad mindset.
You will get better....it often takes time. Great that you are posting!
You will get better....it often takes time. Great that you are posting!
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Isolating is only bad if you decide it is.
I'd far rather stay home and be comfortable than go to a class reunion. Especially if I knew the goal was going to be drinking. Just tell them you didn't feel up to going. Nothing wrong with that. You don't have to mention drinking or not drinking.
I'd far rather stay home and be comfortable than go to a class reunion. Especially if I knew the goal was going to be drinking. Just tell them you didn't feel up to going. Nothing wrong with that. You don't have to mention drinking or not drinking.
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High school reunion? PPFFFFTTTT....Nah, thats ok
Your not a coward at all.
Very wise decision blowing it off.
I wish more people would understand that social gatherings are not near as important as your sobriety.
Thank you for your post!
Your not a coward at all.
Very wise decision blowing it off.
I wish more people would understand that social gatherings are not near as important as your sobriety.
Thank you for your post!
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My sobriety date is October 1st of this year. Shortly after that was my high school reunion. I didn't go and for me it was the right decision. Like you I had mixed emotions about missing it but in retrospect it was the right decision and not cowardly at all. Taking a stand on my sobriety is priority ONE for me. In the grand scheme of my life I'm much better served to miss some social events until my foundation is rock solid. Other things will come along when you're ready. I attended one Christmas party last week and it's the first group event with alcohol I've attended. I took carbonated water and juice for mixers and had a nice time but didn't stay late. Dont drive yourself crazy worrying about it....this is a time to focus on yourself. I wish you the very best!
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I realized that after I got into recovery
and learned to live a sober life, I made
some good healthy changes. Changes
that included people, places and things
associated with alcohol.
I looked back at the clubs I went to when
drinking and thought I made more friends
there than I ever had. Then when I got sober,
my mind, heart and soul began to change
and got healthy.
Many of those so call friends I thought I
had may still be in those clubs, but they
wont find me there. Same as those classmates
that were so cruel and abusive to me back
in the day, I don't need to prove myself
better than them today because Im sober
24 yrs. Being sober is a personal, healthy
achievement for me. Who knows what kind
of trails many of my fellow classmates have
been thru. It's not for me to judge them.
Take care of yourself first by listening, learning,
absorbing and applying all you can about your
addiction and live a healthy, happy, honest life
in recovery for you and watch as the promises
within recovery begin to come true for you to
cherish for yrs. to come.
and learned to live a sober life, I made
some good healthy changes. Changes
that included people, places and things
associated with alcohol.
I looked back at the clubs I went to when
drinking and thought I made more friends
there than I ever had. Then when I got sober,
my mind, heart and soul began to change
and got healthy.
Many of those so call friends I thought I
had may still be in those clubs, but they
wont find me there. Same as those classmates
that were so cruel and abusive to me back
in the day, I don't need to prove myself
better than them today because Im sober
24 yrs. Being sober is a personal, healthy
achievement for me. Who knows what kind
of trails many of my fellow classmates have
been thru. It's not for me to judge them.
Take care of yourself first by listening, learning,
absorbing and applying all you can about your
addiction and live a healthy, happy, honest life
in recovery for you and watch as the promises
within recovery begin to come true for you to
cherish for yrs. to come.
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Oh dear.. I went to my 30 year reunion in 2005 and made a HUGE ass of myself. I was drinking pretty heavily and approached an old BF (and his current wife) and just acted like an idiot.
If you think it will make you drink, avoid at all costs! I wish I had.
If you think it will make you drink, avoid at all costs! I wish I had.
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Thanks for the responses, I think I'm worried about what my friends think to much. In just going to do what I gotta do. I texted two of them and told them I been dealing with depression and they said that's why I should come out and be with friends. I know they mean well but they don't understand how I feel
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