Put sobriety first weekender thread Dec 12-14
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Put sobriety first weekender thread Dec 12-14
hey newbies and team... Hmmm... Hope this all is not to confusing. I did not see Trach's thread until this was up. And last weeks seems to be the energizer bunny!
So back to topic... Put your sobriety first? This might seem easy to understand. Maybe even unnecessary for in some people's minds. But I can say with some certainty that if my sobriety is not first then it's last. And when it's last I am in a perpetual state of what I call struggle mode.
Putting sobriety first is NOT... I repeat NOT putting others last. For those codependents out there who see everyone else in front of them this is for you.
For me putting sobriety first is putting my sense of self in front of my sense of obligation. I found that vital to staying sober.
I might be obligated to go to a holiday party. Ok. I owe it to myself and my sobriety to remain sober no matter what. If things get squirrelly then I must leave. I don't have to drink. That's the difference between caring for my sense of self over my sense of obligation. I only go as far as the challenge to my sobriety will stand in my way... Then I adjust and put my sobriety first.
This weekender thread is living proof of people putting sobriety first. So let's share this week with the sober team what you do or even what you need to do at this moment to put your sense of self first and in turn put sobriety first!
Woo hoo sobrietists!!!!!!!!!!
Ready? Three.... Two... One... Welcome to your sober weekend!!!!
*Ring Ring*
Get on the sober bus!
So back to topic... Put your sobriety first? This might seem easy to understand. Maybe even unnecessary for in some people's minds. But I can say with some certainty that if my sobriety is not first then it's last. And when it's last I am in a perpetual state of what I call struggle mode.
Putting sobriety first is NOT... I repeat NOT putting others last. For those codependents out there who see everyone else in front of them this is for you.
For me putting sobriety first is putting my sense of self in front of my sense of obligation. I found that vital to staying sober.
I might be obligated to go to a holiday party. Ok. I owe it to myself and my sobriety to remain sober no matter what. If things get squirrelly then I must leave. I don't have to drink. That's the difference between caring for my sense of self over my sense of obligation. I only go as far as the challenge to my sobriety will stand in my way... Then I adjust and put my sobriety first.
This weekender thread is living proof of people putting sobriety first. So let's share this week with the sober team what you do or even what you need to do at this moment to put your sense of self first and in turn put sobriety first!
Woo hoo sobrietists!!!!!!!!!!
Ready? Three.... Two... One... Welcome to your sober weekend!!!!
*Ring Ring*
Get on the sober bus!
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Sneaky! I'm in. And good morning everyone. At least I can do this at home and not squinting on my tiny phone screen.
How do I put sobriety first? Well, last night was my company Christmas party. I didn't go. I'm a Scrooge that way but it was not so much fun even when I was still drinking because I never felt I fit in with any group. I imagine that I could go sober but there Awkward moments of trying to break into and join a group and me feeling like I'm intruding. There will be alcohol around and what did I use to make the pain go away? What was my social lubricant? I'd want a drink to make the pain go away. So, I just don't go. It's better for my peace of mind not to. My serenity stays intact.
So, that's that. I work today and am then off tomorrow and then all of next week. Lots of Christmas shopping to be done. Woohoo! I WILL have a never ending weekend this week!
How do I put sobriety first? Well, last night was my company Christmas party. I didn't go. I'm a Scrooge that way but it was not so much fun even when I was still drinking because I never felt I fit in with any group. I imagine that I could go sober but there Awkward moments of trying to break into and join a group and me feeling like I'm intruding. There will be alcohol around and what did I use to make the pain go away? What was my social lubricant? I'd want a drink to make the pain go away. So, I just don't go. It's better for my peace of mind not to. My serenity stays intact.
So, that's that. I work today and am then off tomorrow and then all of next week. Lots of Christmas shopping to be done. Woohoo! I WILL have a never ending weekend this week!
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jeez, I'm not in yet. Didn't even have a coffee. I logged on to check fedex tracking - Santa Claus is coming to town today. And it's a white xmas here.
I don't know patman, Trachemys started 'another' weekender thread earlier. Marathonman got shotgun there, so technically marathonman had shotgun even tho he was duped. Let's go to the judges...
Trach asks the question, ya know why I did this? Yeah, because of your ultra class A personality. ? What do I win?
The perfect snow fell last night. Just enough to make things white. Later...
I don't know patman, Trachemys started 'another' weekender thread earlier. Marathonman got shotgun there, so technically marathonman had shotgun even tho he was duped. Let's go to the judges...
Trach asks the question, ya know why I did this? Yeah, because of your ultra class A personality. ? What do I win?
The perfect snow fell last night. Just enough to make things white. Later...
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I'm in -can't wait for the weekend. I'm making it through the holiday season. Trying to enjoy it rather than counting the days to Jan 2.
Keeping sobriety first by not being around alcohol. I went to one holiday party and the food was so great that I didn't have any desire to drink. But I always have an escape plan just in case. Fleeting thoughts of drinking come and go but I think it through and so far no problem. I had a drinking nightmare this week and was so relieved when I woke up and realized it was a dream.
Gingerbread men and sugar cookies on the agenda for Sunday.
Keeping sobriety first by not being around alcohol. I went to one holiday party and the food was so great that I didn't have any desire to drink. But I always have an escape plan just in case. Fleeting thoughts of drinking come and go but I think it through and so far no problem. I had a drinking nightmare this week and was so relieved when I woke up and realized it was a dream.
Gingerbread men and sugar cookies on the agenda for Sunday.
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Good morning everyone! I have a holiday party Friday. I am starting to think I may not go. Supposedly they will make alcoholic drinks for your palette at this party to where I think the temptation may be too much for me and I don't want to jeopardize my sobriety.
I have another project and presentation due today. I am so tired of projects. Husband is coming with me. We're going to garden glow at the botanical gardens tonight after the presentation.
Ruby-You made a wise decision in not going to the party.
Lbrain-do they have a home game version of shotgun as a take-home prize for marathonman?
Good morning everyone! I have a holiday party Friday. I am starting to think I may not go. Supposedly they will make alcoholic drinks for your palette at this party to where I think the temptation may be too much for me and I don't want to jeopardize my sobriety.
I have another project and presentation due today. I am so tired of projects. Husband is coming with me. We're going to garden glow at the botanical gardens tonight after the presentation.
Ruby-You made a wise decision in not going to the party.
Lbrain-do they have a home game version of shotgun as a take-home prize for marathonman?
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