My Two Months Here
Living Sober
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My Two Months Here
I wanted to take a moment to share a couple of things which I’ve learned from the two months that I’ve been a part of this fantastic forum. As I’ve mentioned in some past posts, this is the only support system that I’ve been involved with since I stopped drinking, and I am finding that many of my concerns and traits seem to be fairly common.
One of the things that I’ve been able to take away is that I will never be a ‘normal’ drinker, and whatever delusions of possibly changing myself into one again, will never happen. So, I have to know that I can never drink again, and come to terms, as well as accept that. I’ve read too many posts of others who felt as if they were able to do it, without success.
The second, and one that hits home with me, is the issue with friends. When I stopped drinking, I experienced a rapid decline in phone calls to go out, to meet up, etc… Prior to coming to this forum, I wondered if it just might be that I’m not much fun any longer since I’m now the sober guy. I use to be one of the ‘fun’ people to hang out with, if I had access to drinks.
However, I’ve since learned that this is actually pretty common. At least from what I’ve read in the time that I’ve been in here. And, as I have made references to in the past, at the end of the day, most of my ‘friends’ were really only drinking buddies anyhow. Remove the alcohol, and there’s really not much in common.
There are other things which I’ve gained as well, however those are two of the main ones as of now.
So, I wanted to say thanks to the people who share their experiences, both good and bad. Taking the time to do that makes a difference to many, which may go unrealized to the person posting.
Regards,
Lusher
One of the things that I’ve been able to take away is that I will never be a ‘normal’ drinker, and whatever delusions of possibly changing myself into one again, will never happen. So, I have to know that I can never drink again, and come to terms, as well as accept that. I’ve read too many posts of others who felt as if they were able to do it, without success.
The second, and one that hits home with me, is the issue with friends. When I stopped drinking, I experienced a rapid decline in phone calls to go out, to meet up, etc… Prior to coming to this forum, I wondered if it just might be that I’m not much fun any longer since I’m now the sober guy. I use to be one of the ‘fun’ people to hang out with, if I had access to drinks.
However, I’ve since learned that this is actually pretty common. At least from what I’ve read in the time that I’ve been in here. And, as I have made references to in the past, at the end of the day, most of my ‘friends’ were really only drinking buddies anyhow. Remove the alcohol, and there’s really not much in common.
There are other things which I’ve gained as well, however those are two of the main ones as of now.
So, I wanted to say thanks to the people who share their experiences, both good and bad. Taking the time to do that makes a difference to many, which may go unrealized to the person posting.
Regards,
Lusher
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Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: Canada
Posts: 7,837
Good for you!!
I noticed I share so many traits with other here as well and it's helped me feel less alone and horrible.
Being here has also taken away my delusions about alcohol. Thankfully
I haven't noticed a decline in phone calls from friends because I drank at home alone most of the time. I also don't think I'm any fun to be around when I drink anymore.....
But you have us to hang out with xoxo
I noticed I share so many traits with other here as well and it's helped me feel less alone and horrible.
Being here has also taken away my delusions about alcohol. Thankfully
I haven't noticed a decline in phone calls from friends because I drank at home alone most of the time. I also don't think I'm any fun to be around when I drink anymore.....
But you have us to hang out with xoxo
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Location: New England
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2 months is great, Lusher.
I use this site on it's own as my support, too, and am so grateful for the heartfelt posts that sometimes could be coming out of my own heart. Makes me feel not so alone in all this, right?
Good to see you- keep on going.
I use this site on it's own as my support, too, and am so grateful for the heartfelt posts that sometimes could be coming out of my own heart. Makes me feel not so alone in all this, right?
Good to see you- keep on going.
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