Changes in sexual desires during sobriety
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Changes in sexual desires during sobriety
Here is the nuts and bolts of it. Since I have been sober my desire for sex has gone down dramaticly. Also Orgas
m is almost impossible at times. Can anyone else chime in on this?
m is almost impossible at times. Can anyone else chime in on this?
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I had the opposite experience in early sobriety. There have been quite a few threads about this and people seem to experience both. I think in general it's our brains adjusting. We were very conditioned to using mostly alcohol as a source of reward, it takes time for our bodies to respond to natural rewards normally, including the desire for it. Do you have depressive symptoms? Often this is also part of depression that some people have also after quitting. If you are not depressed otherwise, I would probably try to do things in the bedroom a bit differently to raise your interest and re-train your brain.
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Sexual function is a complex interplay between physical, neurological, psychological and emotional dynamics.
It's good to remember;
ALL of these things experience turbulence in recovery
Mostly, the ups and the downs come and go and eventually, will pass
As recovery deepens, balance amongst these things evolves....
It's likely that sex and sexuality will too.
It's good to remember;
ALL of these things experience turbulence in recovery
Mostly, the ups and the downs come and go and eventually, will pass
As recovery deepens, balance amongst these things evolves....
It's likely that sex and sexuality will too.
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Hey CNY46ER- I actually posted almost the same topic just last month, titled; "Has Sobriety Changed Your Sex Life?"
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-sex-life.html
Yes, mine has changed noticeably, as I indicated in my post. And not so much for the better either.
Lusher
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-sex-life.html
Yes, mine has changed noticeably, as I indicated in my post. And not so much for the better either.
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I can't offer anything constructive as it's not an issue for me. Let's just say our nuts and bolts are screwed on tightly 
. I think depression, separation, learning to live and feel again are all factors though.
. I think depression, separation, learning to live and feel again are all factors though.
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Yep, me too. At 60 days of sobriety, desire is starting to come back. But I also know this is an issue I'm going to have to work on since childhood trauma (which I masked with alcohol) is also part of the picture here. Honestly, most of the sex I've had as an adult has been when I was at least slightly tipsy so I could sort of hover over what was happening at about 10,000 feet. Phew, that makes me sad to type that, but there it is.
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Your question may not be something people are comfortable with answering. I know some people have responded, but....
Reminds me of a Joy Behar comedy routine when she asked the men in the audience if they were satisfied with their sex life. Hardly anyone responded, so without a beat she says "I see you can't raise your hands either" ba-da-dump.
Reminds me of a Joy Behar comedy routine when she asked the men in the audience if they were satisfied with their sex life. Hardly anyone responded, so without a beat she says "I see you can't raise your hands either" ba-da-dump.
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