dranked on thanksgiving
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dranked on thanksgiving
So i hit the bottle a little yesterday ... not much but i did my body feels horrible... everytime i get upset with work i drink.... i have a job interview coming up for another job... i pray i get it....overall i need to learn how to deal with stress without a bottle.
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Hi tonib,
My automatic default when the stress got intense at work was to head to the liquor store, get a half pint, put it in my laptop bag, and drink at work to help 'deal with the stress'. Problem was, I couldn't always control how many times I went back to get another half pint.
My solution - I hit the skids real bad, and finally gave up on trying to fix myself. I made a commitment to really work the AA 12 Steps with my sponsor. It worked. I am now 1 year Sober and FREE...and I know you can be too.
Also, early in the process, my sponsor had me type the 3rd Step Prayer in my phone, and repeat it as often as necessary.
I worked it like doing 99 Bottles of God on the Wall.
3rd Step Prayer
God, I offer myself to You--to build with me and to do with me according to Your will.* Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Your will.* Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Your Power, Your Love, and Your Way of Life.* May I do Your will always! (Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 63)
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My automatic default when the stress got intense at work was to head to the liquor store, get a half pint, put it in my laptop bag, and drink at work to help 'deal with the stress'. Problem was, I couldn't always control how many times I went back to get another half pint.
My solution - I hit the skids real bad, and finally gave up on trying to fix myself. I made a commitment to really work the AA 12 Steps with my sponsor. It worked. I am now 1 year Sober and FREE...and I know you can be too.
Also, early in the process, my sponsor had me type the 3rd Step Prayer in my phone, and repeat it as often as necessary.
I worked it like doing 99 Bottles of God on the Wall.
3rd Step Prayer
God, I offer myself to You--to build with me and to do with me according to Your will.* Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Your will.* Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Your Power, Your Love, and Your Way of Life.* May I do Your will always! (Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 63)
RDBplus3....Sober & FREE
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Hi tonib,
I pray you get the job too!
You said
Well, a very small change is to rephrase it. Because you're not dealing with the stress when you drink. You're hiding from it temporarily.
And then once you come out of hiding, the stress is stronger and fiercer than before you drank. So you're actually increasing the stress when you drink.
There are ways to deal with stress. Drinking isn't one of them, in fact it increases it. Google "Stress reduction" as a quick start, go to amazon for some books, and plan on having a little extra stress as you wean off the alcohol.
I hope you get that job!! Best of luck
I pray you get the job too!
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Originally Posted by tonib 
...overall i need to learn how to deal with stress without a bottle.
And then once you come out of hiding, the stress is stronger and fiercer than before you drank. So you're actually increasing the stress when you drink.
There are ways to deal with stress. Drinking isn't one of them, in fact it increases it. Google "Stress reduction" as a quick start, go to amazon for some books, and plan on having a little extra stress as you wean off the alcohol.
I hope you get that job!! Best of luck
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Originally Posted by tonib
...overall i need to learn how to deal with stress without a bottle.
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Originally Posted by tonib
I really don't want to go to meeting, my panic attack would be through the roof... but im going to work the twelve steps .
Prolly the greatest fear I had was walking through the doors of my first meeting.
Fear of the unknown.
But the fear of the known- what would happen if I didn't get help- was greater.
Greatful I got me some courage to go. Best move I ever made, next to deciding I wanted what they had and was willing to go to any lengths to get it.
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Hi Toni
the main thing is you need to take drinking off the table as an option.
This may mean, for a while at least, you'll probably feel very uncomfortable sometimes and maybe even panicked.
Thats why it's good to have a support system in place.
I hope you'll use SR before you drink, and I hope you'll look for other support too, no matter how hard it might be to make that first step...it's worth it
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the main thing is you need to take drinking off the table as an option.
This may mean, for a while at least, you'll probably feel very uncomfortable sometimes and maybe even panicked.
Thats why it's good to have a support system in place.
I hope you'll use SR before you drink, and I hope you'll look for other support too, no matter how hard it might be to make that first step...it's worth it
D
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Try an AA open speaker meeting. You don't have to do much of anything other than show up. You can even bring a supportive friend. Someone else stands to tell their story. What they were like, what happened and what they are like now. A not scary way to get your feet wet. The meat and potatoes is a big book study or twelve step meeting but open speaker is a good start.
Stick with it. You got a lot of good suggestions.
Stick with it. You got a lot of good suggestions.
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