A bit of sadness setting in
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A bit of sadness setting in
I am alone this Thanksgiving....I knew I would be spending TG alone a long time ago and I thought I was ready emotionally to handle it. But I do feel a bit sad..not because I am alone necessarily, but because of the memories of holidays past. Remember when my mom and sister came to Dallas and what fun we had. They are both gone now. I know I could find an AA meeting probably or something like that. But I really don't want to be around strangers. (And I don't view SR people as strangers).
Just gave my cats white albacore tuna for their TG. I am drinking a diet Pepsi waiting for the Lions/Bear game to start. Just checking in.
Just gave my cats white albacore tuna for their TG. I am drinking a diet Pepsi waiting for the Lions/Bear game to start. Just checking in.
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When I was in my twenties, I spent a couple of Thanksgivings doing volunteer work. I had moved across the country and didn't have enough money to fly home for both Thanksgiving and Christmas. I actually enjoyed it a lot. I remember how peaceful I felt on those holidays not dealing with family stress. And I did not drink either.
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Enjoy the game, the soda, and be thankful that you're sober this Thanksgiving. From what I'm hearing, there are a lot of alcoholics and non-alcoholics who would switch places with you in a heartbeat on this day! I'm also alone today, so don't worry - there are many of us celebrating in the same fashion.
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Happy Thanksgiving AF. Although something is obviously amiss with the loss of your mom and sis..
Today of all days is a good one to reflect in thanks for time you were blessed to share with them.
So cat's had some albacore...what you cooking up for AF?
(In best SNL voice "Da Bears".)
Today of all days is a good one to reflect in thanks for time you were blessed to share with them.
So cat's had some albacore...what you cooking up for AF?
(In best SNL voice "Da Bears".)
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Just wanted to wish you well. I know how it is to be alone on holidays. I'm very lonely. Alcohol was my friend, I thought. It's hard to adjust.
Please know that many of us deal with loneliness, I do feel for you.
A big hug to you!
Please know that many of us deal with loneliness, I do feel for you.
A big hug to you!
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Hey there AF....
Sending you a big hug of comfort.
This might be one of those perfect times to embrace the solitude and the edge of sadness in a healthy way;
These are human emotions and part of the cherished human experience. By allowing yourself to FEEL those feelings, breathe them in and offer yourself comfort, you may be able to open a door ever so slightly to self love and compassion.
It's something I've been working on with the tough feelings and it really is making a big difference.
We're here do you too.
Happy Thanksgiving, Friend.
Sending you a big hug of comfort.
This might be one of those perfect times to embrace the solitude and the edge of sadness in a healthy way;
These are human emotions and part of the cherished human experience. By allowing yourself to FEEL those feelings, breathe them in and offer yourself comfort, you may be able to open a door ever so slightly to self love and compassion.
It's something I've been working on with the tough feelings and it really is making a big difference.
We're here do you too.
Happy Thanksgiving, Friend.
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Thank you guys! I dunno what I am gonna eat... really not very hungry. Da Bears just scored dammit!
Isn't it funny how it is hard to see your blessings at times? I know other people would love to be in my shoes...sober watching football. Thanks for the perspectives guys.
Isn't it funny how it is hard to see your blessings at times? I know other people would love to be in my shoes...sober watching football. Thanks for the perspectives guys.
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Originally Posted by ArtFriend 
I dunno what I am gonna eat...
Sorry bout "Da Bears" scorin'. SNL is most I know bout that anyway.
I'm Canadian. I watch hockey.
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Here in Canada it's just another Thursday. Our Thanksgiving was mid October. None of my family live in the same country as me so holidays are not quite the same. I usually go with my bf to his family holidays and while it's nice, it kind of just makes me miss mine more. I used to really love christmas but there is usually some sort of drama and tears from bfs sister and rude/weird comments from crazy friend of family. This year I was craving being alone so my bf went there and I stayed home and made a delicious soup with the squash I harvested from my garden. That was perfect for me. I wish you a nice peaceful time too.
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The holidays are tough on me too. But this morning while meditating and praying, I prayed for all of my people that have crossed over. For just moment, I felt tremendous gratitude for getting the chance to have these amazing people even if only for a brief moment in time.
Today I wish you peace and serenity.
Today I wish you peace and serenity.
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Well, I called one of my aunts in Minnesota and the conversation devolved into another blame game. WTF? I am to blame for my mother's demise and she should have been buried in Minnesota...blah, blah blah These people are unreal... I called for support and got chewed out. Sadness morphed into madness.
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