JT0626

In the past, I have told my husband many times that I had stopped drinking. Only to resume again a few days later. He would never stop asking me if I wanted something from the liquor store & eventually I would lose my resolve.

This time around instead of making a formal announcement (like I have done before), I just stopped. Everytime my DH asked me if I wanted something from the liquor store, I would simply decline or ask for a soda. Just the other day he asked me again & that's when I took the opportunity to tell him I didn't want to drink anymore. He looked at me & said, "I noticed. I just ask you in the case you want a soda. But I have noticed you're seriously not drinking." Then he went on to say that he is thinking about not drinking & making that his New Year's resolution (we'll see how that works).

I have realized that I do indeed have an addictive personality. Now I get it, I have no sense of moderation. It really hit me that alcohol is no longer an option for me. I'm not upset about it, in a way I am relieved.

Soberwolf

JT that was beautiful

JT0626

Thanks, Sober Wolf....coming from you that is a huge compliment!

doggonecarl

It was for me too. I remember doing some early recovery work, really looking at my drinking and its impact on those around me. And it dawned on me--in a way that only can when sobriety is starting to sink it--That I had never been a "normal" drinker, was never was going to be a normal drinker, and therefore, could never drink. Ever.

It was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

JanieJ

I feel exactly the same way, JT.

When I realised, it was a like a big rock had fallen off my shoulders. At least something is certain, at last.

It's a place to work from, isn't it ?

Fly N Buy

Good for you!!!!

Years ago when I "quit" I would make the formal announcement;
Attention, may I have your attention please.....FlynBuy has quite drinking......(wait for the applause which were sure to come....)

This means no drinking, ever again! In fact, I think it best if everyone quits as well! Not for me, but for themselves and the good of all!!!

I would then ride my High Horse into the barn, pat him and the head and think.....well, maybe ever and never is really what I intended to say...hmmmm. Ah, em - correction - taking a little break in the action folks.....

When I stopped and actually started working a plan of ACTION awhile back, others noticed. I did not make it on the nightly news this time

Great Job, Great decision!!
All who are sober on here today = WINNERS!!!

FlyN

rjask

JT0626 . . . great post. I've told my wife on several occasions "I swear, I am never drinking again". And of course a few days later I was getting drunk after she went to bed.

This time I just quit. I haven't even discussed it with her yet. I'm just focusing on my health, and taking it one day at a time.

JT0626

OMG, this was so me when I would make my formal announcements too! All I would do is end up making an ass out of myself. This time I decided to let my success speak for me.

SoberLeigh

That's a huge realization, JT. Realizing and accepting that moderation was not possible and that alcohol had absolutely nothing good to offer me was a huge part of my recovery.

Way to go, girl, and congratulations on 15 days!!!!

JT0626

Thanks so much SoberLeigh. I am feeling so good about myself that I don't want to mess this up! I have lost 3lbs since I stopped drinking. I am feeling great & less bloated. I even believe I look better.

SoberLeigh

You are lookin' good to us, JT.

PurpleKnight

Fantastic post JT!!

least

Congrats on over two weeks sober! I'm glad you have your husband's support.

toooldfratguy

This is exactly what I needed to see. I stopped (again) on Sat AM (yes, I was morning drinking, wasn't pretty). Long story short, I have not told my wife about this time stopping. I need to prove to myself that I can do it, and I don't want her to think I'm crying wolf yet again. If I can make it through a weekend and a couple work events I have in the next week or so, I want to sit down and discuss this with her, but like y'all have said above, I need actions to speak louder than words. This weekend we have 2 parties to go to, and I want to show that I can act my normal self without the booze. I'm not announcing anything about it, but I bet she'll notice and it'll be better than any proclamation I could make

JT0626

Yes, even though my husband is a drinker he is not the type to purposely sabotage my efforts. We had a good conversation last night & I was telling him that I am feeling better physically now that I am not drinking. I also want to lose these extra 70lbs that I gained fooling around with alcohol. I can't wait to get hot again!

Expos81

Great post JT!!!

JT0626

Yesssss!!!! Do it!!!!

doggonecarl

I understand the not wanting to "Cry Wolf" thing. I also understand that by not telling her, there is no accountability to her and if you should slip at the upcoming events, no harm, no foul.

Drinking events are tough in early sobriety. If you tell your wife she might understand not going...if that is something you decide.

Either way, good luck.

Dee74

Congrats on 15 days JT..and great post.

Carl makes a few good points there frat guy...there's not telling people...and then there's making changes to our lifestyle.

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toooldfratguy

doggone - Completely see your point. However for me personally when I've stopped previously, it's because I was told to, or else. This time is the first time I've wanted to, because I wanted to. No one is forcing me, or angry at me, etc. etc. And from everything I've read, that is the only way this will work. I'm doing this for my wife/kids/family, but most of all, for me.