Laura567

Was doing so great then a friend came over with wine. I thought just one glass. Well that did not work. Trying to figure out what happened. Why did I not just say no. Back to day 1..

Dee74

The alcohol ambush happens to us all sooner or later.

It's one of those situations I think you need to be prepared for.
You need to be ok with possibly disappointing people too.

I got over that by thinking I can put their well being first...or mine.

Sorry it happened, but I'm glad you came straight back.

Laura567

Thanks Dee, you are so right. I will try to learn from this and be better prepared next time

OklaBH

but your back and sounds like you learned something!

MavisTheFairy13

It's always that first glass that does it. At least you have learned from it, keep going

mecanix

Lets make today a green tick on the calendar , pretty soon looking back it should look like a sea of green … wouldn't that be nice

Keep on learning , keep on living , m

Laura567

Sea of green - I like that!!

Kevin78

I fell for that one too Laura. That ended up on a 10 day binge for me. Don't beat yourself up about it.

Thankfully 24 days sober now.

Applekat

Good for you for coming right back here!

Laura567

What are the numbers Applekat?

Fly N Buy

Laura,

When I finally became willing to quit and stay stopped - one day at a time, I was able to avoid some predictable pitfalls.

I drank for many years and quit on occasion swearing this time will be different!! I really meant it when I said it.....but always drank again.

I learned from others I needed to be willing and desirous about my sobriety above all else. I had to find a way for the obsession to be removed daily.

This is a post from your first thread in December 2013:
Well I don´t actually have a plan more than I have to stay busy, shouldn´t be too hard just before Christmas. And I want to take care of myself, eat well and try to excersise.

I am not judging you, simply want you to be successful in your journey as I hope I will be. Maybe a new plan????

Today I am sober thanks to grace, SR and group meetings. With those things in place, each today I am able to garner strength.

Hope you find your way

FlyN

LBrain

learn and move on...

one thing about keeping our secret a secret is that things like this are bound to happen.

Sometimes I think people (US DRUNKS - not you) would rather risk slipping than admit our problem to others. The, 'I would rather chance not getting better than to tell people I am not well' syndrome.

MIRecovery

I found I had to think through as many the drinking scenario's as possible and be prepared for them. To a large degree I do not do drinking situations so that eliminates a lot of problems but it is the ones that I am unprepared for that scare me. In AA we talk about our spiritual condition which must be strong if we are going to be willing to turn down a drink in all situations.

Live, learn and stay sober

Laura567

LBrain, that is very true, had I told my friend about my problem surely she would have left the wine at home. But it is a really shameful thing to admit. I hear people at my work talk about people with drinking problems in a really bad way. And just recently one was fired. One of my employees is an alcoholic, not drinking now, but I have gotten advise from higher up to try to get rid of her. Which I haven´t, I sent her to rehab earliger this year.

Applekat

Laura they're my sober day runs since beginning my journey in late April.
I was hoping it would motivate me. 60 was my longest.

LBrain

unfortunately it is a truly misunderstood condition.
keep doing your best Laura. take steps to protect yourself.

Laura567

60 days is awesome Applecat, I seem to just get to 7...

Jipsee

I listened to some of Sandy B. on youtube last night (someone had posted a link as he has passed away).Sandy B. "Alcoholics Anonymous" - 12-Step Recovery - YouTube My take away of something he said, "I owe my sobriety to not drinking". The crowd laughed as did I. It really is that simple when I listen with my "big girl pants" on. I am trying to keep it very, very simple.

I know by not drinking I have clarity of thought and then can proceed with a clear plan.

least

I had too many day ones before I finally 'got it' and was able to stay sober. Never give up!

Tall Dawg

Same here. I had more day ones than I can remember. It took me many, many years before I finally 'got it' as well. Never give up!!!