Who is this person?
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Who is this person?
This is the first time since I've known my addict that he has been in active heroin addiction. Over the summer he used oxys and percs but this is worse. I don't know this person. This makes me question if I ever did. I can't even look back at happy times with him because they don't seem real.
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I see you're new to us, so Welcome to the Board.
Whether you're aware of it or not, you make a very interesting observation:
Well, those events did happen. They were real to you. But what about him?
Drugs, especially opiates, do a wonderful job in disguising the core of the addict. But what would happen if the opiates were taken away all of the sudden? The true core, the core the addict is trying to numb, starts to come out. And a lot of times, it's really, really ugly.
My AXGF loved her opiates, and she was very easy to get along with when she was high. It was when the opiates were taken away that her true self came out, slowly put surely. Makes me cringe just thinking about it.
I'm sure you're confused and in a lot of pain. The pain will have to run its course. But we can help you with your confusion, if you allow us to. Read as many posts as you can. And I believe you would benefit by attending a local Al Anon or Nar Anon meeting. Message boards are great, but getting support in person can really make a difference.
Keep us posted as to how you are, and again, Welcome to the Board.
I see you're new to us, so Welcome to the Board.
Whether you're aware of it or not, you make a very interesting observation:
I don't know this person. This makes me question if I ever did. I can't even look back at happy times with him because they don't seem real.
Drugs, especially opiates, do a wonderful job in disguising the core of the addict. But what would happen if the opiates were taken away all of the sudden? The true core, the core the addict is trying to numb, starts to come out. And a lot of times, it's really, really ugly.
My AXGF loved her opiates, and she was very easy to get along with when she was high. It was when the opiates were taken away that her true self came out, slowly put surely. Makes me cringe just thinking about it.
I'm sure you're confused and in a lot of pain. The pain will have to run its course. But we can help you with your confusion, if you allow us to. Read as many posts as you can. And I believe you would benefit by attending a local Al Anon or Nar Anon meeting. Message boards are great, but getting support in person can really make a difference.
Keep us posted as to how you are, and again, Welcome to the Board.
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Please don't keep looking back at who he "was." This is who he is now. Do you want to be with a person like this? H is a terrible drug. It's impossible to beat without wanting to beat it so badly you work for it every single day for the rest of your life. That is a huge commitment, and not one many H addicts are able to make.
Please take good care of YOU.
Please take good care of YOU.
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Thank you. I'm not staying with him. I can't have anything to do with him. It hurts too much to watch him self-destruct and I won't let him bring me down with him. It's just unreal to see what drugs do to our loved ones.
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