First Day Here
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Join Date: Nov 2014
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First Day Here
Hi everyone, I wanted to take this opportunity to introduce myself. I've lurked for awhile and decided I'd start posting. I'm finally going to try to give sobriety a chance. For the past 14 years I've let alcohol dictate most of the decisions I've made. I've let it become a focal point of my life and it has damaged me mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially.
It has taken away so many days where I've been either too hung over to move, or that I've wasted away being drunk or even worse blacked out from drinking all day and all night. It's ruined some of my relationships with people that are close to me. I'm sick and tired of not knowing what I did the night before and being depressed that my life is out of control.
I've lost sight of who I am and what the real meaning of my life is and I want to get that back. There are so many great things to experience in life and I'm tired of letting alcohol be the thing that defines me. I'm tired of being the butt of the jokes for being the drunkest guy at the party or for being the guy who does something stupid. I want to change that perception of who I am because there is a lot more to me than just a crazy, drunk, party animal.
I want control of my life back and I know that all I have is today. It's been two days and I know it will be a struggle but today I've decided that I'm not going to drink. I appreciate the support from everyone on here. Reading other people's posts helps immensely and I look forward to being part of the community.
It has taken away so many days where I've been either too hung over to move, or that I've wasted away being drunk or even worse blacked out from drinking all day and all night. It's ruined some of my relationships with people that are close to me. I'm sick and tired of not knowing what I did the night before and being depressed that my life is out of control.
I've lost sight of who I am and what the real meaning of my life is and I want to get that back. There are so many great things to experience in life and I'm tired of letting alcohol be the thing that defines me. I'm tired of being the butt of the jokes for being the drunkest guy at the party or for being the guy who does something stupid. I want to change that perception of who I am because there is a lot more to me than just a crazy, drunk, party animal.
I want control of my life back and I know that all I have is today. It's been two days and I know it will be a struggle but today I've decided that I'm not going to drink. I appreciate the support from everyone on here. Reading other people's posts helps immensely and I look forward to being part of the community.
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Join Date: Jul 2014
Location: Manchester
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I can relate to lot of what you are saying, like you I seem to end up with a reputation for being the most wasted guy at a party.
It took me many attempts to get to the mindset I am at right now. Convincing yourself that your OK to drink just at weekends or your not really all that bad, was my worst enemy. Thankfully I am over that now and lived a week free from the booze.
Not that much has changed really, I think not making a big deal about it helps. Just decide everyday that you no longer need alcohol. Then just get on with having some fun in your life.
It took me many attempts to get to the mindset I am at right now. Convincing yourself that your OK to drink just at weekends or your not really all that bad, was my worst enemy. Thankfully I am over that now and lived a week free from the booze.
Not that much has changed really, I think not making a big deal about it helps. Just decide everyday that you no longer need alcohol. Then just get on with having some fun in your life.
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What a great post Serenity. I felt the same way when I joined SR. The people here got me back on my feet and gave me the courage to change my life. I know you'll fit right in. Glad to have you with us. 
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Join Date: Oct 2014
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Hey SerenityNow33, welcome! That was a well thought out post. As I read it, I saw much of myself before I stopped. I, too, was all about the party.
The one thing I would bring to your attention is how the new change might affect your social life. You mentioned that it was the focal point; being the party guy etc.. That was me too.
What I had to accept is the fact that when I stopped the booze, I was no longer that same party guy, and although my friends support me, I could tell they missed the drunk guy. Hence, the calls to go out slowly stopped.
Finding new activities is key. It's pretty hard to merely stop drinking and continue to live the same exact life. It helps to create a lifestyle where booze just not belong.
I look forward to seeing you around!
Luher
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Join Date: Oct 2014
Location: England
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Welcome, Serenity 
Ex party animal here too.
22 days sober, now ,and a lot has changed already. It's not just physical either - there'a lot going on upstairs.
You' ll find support here with these good people.
Ex party animal here too.
22 days sober, now ,and a lot has changed already. It's not just physical either - there'a lot going on upstairs.
You' ll find support here with these good people.
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