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Guess I really can't be a "normal" drinker after all.

Old 10-14-2014, 09:19 AM
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Guess I really can't be a "normal" drinker after all.

I'm back. A few months ago I got to almost 5 weeks, then decided that I was strong enough to try being a 'normal drinker' social, a glass or two after work, etc. Yea, no. Here I am again nauseous, anxiety/guilt filled & sad. Day one again. Please give me some words of encouragement because I'm feeling like I'll never be able to kick the beast. I'm looking for a supportive group of people to help me through this. Thanks! (36, mommy of 4, happily married)
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Old 10-14-2014, 09:25 AM
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Congratulations on Day 1 and welcome back!
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Old 10-14-2014, 09:27 AM
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Welcome back my darling chin up and chest out xxx
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Old 10-14-2014, 09:29 AM
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Glad you are back. I couldnt be a normal drinker either and I tried twice. I see other people and wonder why I couldnt be like that. But really I dont care. I can only control me, and by being sober I am controlling me.
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Old 10-14-2014, 09:29 AM
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Old 10-14-2014, 09:41 AM
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Oh, rvrn, I've been there. So many of us have and understand exactly how you're feeling. Be good to yourself today. You're doing the right thing.
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Old 10-14-2014, 09:43 AM
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welcome back
stick around this time!
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Old 10-14-2014, 09:48 AM
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Hi and welcome back I'm a 44 year old mum. I also thought I could moderate, after 9 years I finally realised I can't!
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Old 10-14-2014, 09:55 AM
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Old 10-14-2014, 09:55 AM
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Sending you good thoughts and a hug. I am pretty sure I know how you are feeling.

Stay on this forum today if you can, keep reading and checking in. It will make you feel better and give you encouragement and strength. There are great people on here willing to help.

It has helped me regain my resolve this last week. I too, thought I was ok to be a normal drinker and ended up blowing it and feeling like I failed... the anxiety, the self loathing and the regret. Ugh, it sucks. And, the drink isn't worth it.

Take care and be kind to yourself.
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Old 10-14-2014, 09:57 AM
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Lesson learned. Now let move forward! You will always find support here.
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Old 10-14-2014, 11:10 AM
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My life improved when I finally accepted myself and alcohol needed to go our separate ways on a permanent basis!!

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Old 10-14-2014, 11:13 AM
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I think that's the worst feeling in the world. I'm going through the same thing. I just keep thinking "what happened?". I was good for about 35 days, feeling on top of the world, and in a mere few hours, I threw it all away. And why? Because I was feeling "stressed" and wanted a relief. Well, after a night of binge drinking, I'm feeling far far more stressed than before. What a mess. But we will get through it, and in a few more days, we will be feeling better than ever!
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Old 10-14-2014, 11:17 AM
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Welcome back! I'm glad you're giving it another go.
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I've been there. You can turn it around.

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Old 10-14-2014, 11:35 AM
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It's a process, acceptance is the answer!!

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Old 10-14-2014, 12:20 PM
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Welcome back. I'm a 51 married mom of adult children. I feel your pain. I actually moderate the majority of the time I drink. I only drink on the weekends, I only drink beer, and I usually don't get drunk. I'm here because there are too many times that I do get drunk, and i have hurt myself ( fell in a fire pit of hot coals, hangovers that last two days), puked in my husband's new truck, puked on my dog, blacked out, said stupid things, etc. So many times I tell myself that I can drink and I'll moderate and before I know it I'm drunk again. I have to be honest with myself. ...my body isn't meant to drink. I get hangovers even when I have 2 beers. No alcohol for me ensures I won't get drunk. I should add that I'm on day 3 sober.....After joining in August and thinking I could moderate 100% of the time....I flat out can't. You can do this. We can do this.
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Old 10-14-2014, 04:11 PM
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Old 10-14-2014, 04:19 PM
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Sometimes we just need further proof. I certainly did. You learned something and now you are ready to do this, without further delay. We are with you.
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Old 10-14-2014, 04:29 PM
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Been there done that. I had to completely give up the fight. Every time I got in the ring with alcohol I got the snot knocked out of me.

I finally became willing to do whatever I had to. Surrender does not mean defeat it is simply joining the winning side
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