Finally back and raring to go...
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Finally back and raring to go...
Hi all, just thought I'd pop back in with my new hopes of being sober... I am so upbeat and positive this time, like I have been released, not like I have to give something up..
However I am an impatient soul, and realise that each day is long and actually I cannot achieve sobriety in an instant..... so I will hack away at it a moment at a time..
It is refreshing to be happy though...
Love to you all and peace in your struggles...
What a beautiful day here, love the sun x
However I am an impatient soul, and realise that each day is long and actually I cannot achieve sobriety in an instant..... so I will hack away at it a moment at a time..
It is refreshing to be happy though...
Love to you all and peace in your struggles...
What a beautiful day here, love the sun x
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Dee - don't have a plan, just want the drinking done.... so I guess the plan is to take each moment as it comes, keep looking on here, and try to stay positive. I am hoping to avoid the hideous winter blues which come every year, so drinking through that is not a good idea.... Clean happy and healthy!!!
I have even bought a rowing machine to attempt to get fitter (second hand obv)
Got a few inches of beer flab to loose! ha
I have even bought a rowing machine to attempt to get fitter (second hand obv)
Got a few inches of beer flab to loose! ha
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Join Date: Jul 2014
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Originally Posted by enfinthechange 
Dee - don't have a plan, just want the drinking done.... so I guess the plan is to take each moment as it comes, keep looking on here, and try to stay positive. I am hoping to avoid the hideous winter blues which come every year, so drinking through that is not a good idea.... Clean happy and healthy!!!
I have even bought a rowing machine to attempt to get fitter (second hand obv)
Got a few inches of beer flab to loose! ha
I have even bought a rowing machine to attempt to get fitter (second hand obv)
Got a few inches of beer flab to loose! ha
Dee mentioned plan.....
FreeOwl posted this awhile back, may be useful to you in creating a plan of attack on you journey!!!
But generally, for me anyway, THE PLAN includes these components;
What will I do instead of drinking - SPECIFICALLY?
What will I drink in settings where alcohol is present - Definite and specific alternatives!
What will I SAY to people that doesn't make me feel uncomfortable, when offered alcohol or asked about my not drinking? SPECIFIC, REHEARSED responses
What resources will I rely on to help me honor my choice of sobriety and remember why I made it? (AA, Big Book Study, Calls to a sponsor or friends in recovery, SR posting and reading, therapy, etc).
How often will I do these things?
What will be the signs that I need to step it up because my sobriety is being challenged? How - SPECIFICALLY - will I respond?
What will I say to my family?
How broadly will I discuss my choice of sobriety? Do I need different "levels" of sharing? What specifically will I say for each level?
Service work is important - how will I give back in life? Specific actions.
What new interests and activities will I focus on?
Whether or not I'm "working steps" - what areas of my life need attention (beyond just not drinking) - and what actions will I take?? (e.g. cleaning up debts, making up with people I've hurt, forgiving myself, forgiving others...)
What will I do to cultivate my own sense of spirituality, belief or faith in SOMETHING?
Trudgin
Join Date: Jul 2014
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Originally Posted by enfinthechange
What absolutely fabulous advice, really specific, thanks so much. I think I like to be told exactly what to do, and this does hit the nail on the head really!!!
Maybe hit em with a vistor message
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