StillSober2Day

Does anyone have experience with this?

jacrazz

I learn about it last semester in nursing school. The usual cause is cirrhosis of the liver. They are extremely dangerous and must be addressed ASAP. Hope all is well!

dandylion

StillSoberToday.....yes....they are very serious if they should rupture. These are usually treated by a GI specialist.

dandylion

StillSober2Day

Thank you for your responses. My husband has this condition. We found out in June when he was taken to the ER for throwing up blood. He was VERY lucky to survive that day...and he sat on life support for three weeks while I was faced with the possible decision of having to pull the plug if nothing changed.

He woke up and in 48 hours, checked himself out of the hospital!

On the day of his emergency, the doctor told me they "banded" FOUR varices. When my husband went into the ER, he refused to be honest about his drinking. After he got out, I told him he could come home under the condition he went to AA every day for 90 days (to start). After about 45 days of sobriety and meetings, he stopped going. He lied to me and would go by himself to breakfast instead. Then he announced he was "NOT an alcoholic" and he is now drinking again. I have filed for a legal separation and he is moving out of town (back to his drinking buddies).

Everything I read tells me that he is a walking time bomb...basically, if he continues to drink, he will be dead in a year.

Thoughts? Questions? I would love to hear more about what to expect.

Thanks!!

Hawks

That pretty much sums it up.

Alcohol kills alcoholics.

I really feel for you having to go through this.

I sincerely hope he hits a rock bottom sufficient to turn him around.

dandylion

StillSoberToday.....I am sending you a private message. You should see a blinking in the upper, right hand corner of this main page.

dandylion

Hawks

I should have said and added to that.

The ONLY thing that will in my opinion and my experience bring about a sufficient change in an alcoholic of the hopeless variety (your husband sounds exactly this type) is the full 12 step program of AA.

If anything can save him it is that.

If you can find and get him plugged into a group of big book thumpers... Do it.

Where abouts in the world are you?

I'll see what I can dig up. Pm me if you want to.

Jaeger

StillSober2Day,

I am so sorry to hear this. We had a loved one die suffering from this. He KNEW that drinking was causing it but sadly just did not stop. I hope your husband realizes this before it is too late.

I HATE ALCOHOL

lillamy

I'm very sorry you had to go through this. That was a cruel thing for him to do, and it seems to me like he is pretty focused on himself and not very concerned about how his actions affect you.

What are you doing to take care of yourself?

StillSober2Day

Hawks,

When he checked himself out of the hospital, I told him he could come home under ONE condition...he went to 90 AA meetings in 90 days. He went about two months and declared himself NOT an alcoholic. So, I filed for a legal separation and told him I was moving out. He told me to save my money because he is leaving town. He is going back to his old life and old drinking buddies.

He says AA is not for him. I am a member of AA and I "get it"...Too bad it has come to this. I cannot change him. I just refuse to watch him die this way. He will have to go somewhere else and do it.

Hawks

Got it.

can't march him off to AA at gunpoint.

Sorry to hear it's come to this.

Stay safe and sober

Cyranoak

Yes. My daughter's uncle's ruptured in the bathroom and my four year old daughter discovered the body in a pool of blood and vomit. Just another gift of alcoholism and addiction.

hopeful4

I think you should mention to him that if it would rupture, it would be the most painful thing he has ever or will ever experience in his life.

I know someone who died that way, the coroner said he died alone, and that it would have been an extremely painful death.

robgt350

yea Jazrazz is correct. caused by portal hypertension. very serious.

StillSober2Day

Hopeful4, I was with my husband when he hemorrhaged. I took him to the ER because the "real" bleeding had not started and I didn't realize the severity of what was about to happen. He was not in any pain. He was very weak. He was almost dead. Its horrible...

hopeful4

I guess the person I knew had a full on esophagus rupture stemming from this. Died on the bathroom floor. Awful.

I can only say, I am so sorry. To watch someone go down this path is absolutely awful. Much love and many hugs coming your way.

XXX