My visit today....
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Join Date: Mar 2002
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My visit today....
Hi
I have to say my visit went better then I expected. I was very emotional. He was very surprised to see me. The people that he introduced me to were happy to me there for him also. I guess it was a major discussion with him. He said he knew I needed my space and he wasn't sure if I would come or not. He thought if he asked him mom to come it might be better. She was late Traffic around here stinks.
We all attended a 12 step meeting that was joint alcoholics anonymous and al-anon. It was very insightful. I could relate to a lot said and I cried alot too at the stories and the mirror images of our life compared to others. He and his mom saw it too. His mom even shared!! I think she should go to al-anon meetings with me but she doesn't like to go out late, she is almost 80!!
He knows we need to take it one step at a time. He told me he wasn't the same guy as the last time I saw him, and it wasn't. He was the gentle, nice guy I fell in love with, but he knows I am scared and he scared me. He scared himself with his last actions.
I told him about al-anon and he was very happy to hear that I went to a meeting. I told him I was going to continue and he was glad to hear that too. He said he goes to six meetings a day there, and has already networked to get to meetings when he gets out and they have his out patient care at the rehab just about in place. I guess he really is trying. He said he knows he needs to work the program for it to succeed.
One step, one day at a time. Or like some of the people at the meeting today said they are taking one minute at a time.
Just wanted to share my day. Some of my anxiety is gone. I feel relieved the first meeting is over. I am going to try not to worry too much about the days ahead.
Tomorrow is a day for me, sort of, I go to a wedding shower for my neice. A bunch of girly stuff, should be fun.
Take care all and again thanks for all your support. I love this place!!
Many hugs.
Love,
Debbie
I have to say my visit went better then I expected. I was very emotional. He was very surprised to see me. The people that he introduced me to were happy to me there for him also. I guess it was a major discussion with him. He said he knew I needed my space and he wasn't sure if I would come or not. He thought if he asked him mom to come it might be better. She was late Traffic around here stinks.
We all attended a 12 step meeting that was joint alcoholics anonymous and al-anon. It was very insightful. I could relate to a lot said and I cried alot too at the stories and the mirror images of our life compared to others. He and his mom saw it too. His mom even shared!! I think she should go to al-anon meetings with me but she doesn't like to go out late, she is almost 80!!
He knows we need to take it one step at a time. He told me he wasn't the same guy as the last time I saw him, and it wasn't. He was the gentle, nice guy I fell in love with, but he knows I am scared and he scared me. He scared himself with his last actions.
I told him about al-anon and he was very happy to hear that I went to a meeting. I told him I was going to continue and he was glad to hear that too. He said he goes to six meetings a day there, and has already networked to get to meetings when he gets out and they have his out patient care at the rehab just about in place. I guess he really is trying. He said he knows he needs to work the program for it to succeed.
One step, one day at a time. Or like some of the people at the meeting today said they are taking one minute at a time.
Just wanted to share my day. Some of my anxiety is gone. I feel relieved the first meeting is over. I am going to try not to worry too much about the days ahead.
Tomorrow is a day for me, sort of, I go to a wedding shower for my neice. A bunch of girly stuff, should be fun.
Take care all and again thanks for all your support. I love this place!!
Many hugs.
Love,
Debbie
I used to work here ;)
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Hey Morning Glory,
Was just about to get to bed, going to loose an hour sleep tonight with the time change, and thought I would check on the board one more time.
I am glad the meeting went well. I guess time will tell if we get through this or not. Truthful words and truthful feelings.
His mom has been through a lot with him. I know she has to be tired of it all too. She is a spit fire for 80 though. You wouldn't know it, healthy and fit as a fiddle. She lost her husband a little over a year ago and she is finally coming out of the "funk" she was in. She certainly doesn't need this now. But I know she will always be there for him and me for that matter. She called me to see how I was this evening because I was such a wreck. She is a special, sweet lady
Well, I am off to bed. Still need to wrap the present but I can do that tomorrow.
Take care.
Many hugs.
Love,
Debbie
Was just about to get to bed, going to loose an hour sleep tonight with the time change, and thought I would check on the board one more time.
I am glad the meeting went well. I guess time will tell if we get through this or not. Truthful words and truthful feelings.
His mom has been through a lot with him. I know she has to be tired of it all too. She is a spit fire for 80 though. You wouldn't know it, healthy and fit as a fiddle. She lost her husband a little over a year ago and she is finally coming out of the "funk" she was in. She certainly doesn't need this now. But I know she will always be there for him and me for that matter. She called me to see how I was this evening because I was such a wreck. She is a special, sweet lady
Well, I am off to bed. Still need to wrap the present but I can do that tomorrow.
Take care.
Many hugs.
Love,
Debbie
Hi Debbie.
I'm glad your reunion went well!
A friend of mine's step-father was a violent alcoholic. He broke things mostly. One day he and my friend's mom were having a fight and he opened a car door violently and accidentally knocked her down. It broke her arm. He has been a faithful member of AA and a non drinker these 20 some years hence. Some people DO hear the wake up call.
Just careful, 'kay?
Love,
Smoke
I'm glad your reunion went well!
A friend of mine's step-father was a violent alcoholic. He broke things mostly. One day he and my friend's mom were having a fight and he opened a car door violently and accidentally knocked her down. It broke her arm. He has been a faithful member of AA and a non drinker these 20 some years hence. Some people DO hear the wake up call.
Just careful, 'kay?
Love,
Smoke
I'm so glad it all went well for you, I know you were so worried about it.
You have such a good start going...keep your chin up...and your expectations low...one day, one hour, one minute at a time....
Paula
You have such a good start going...keep your chin up...and your expectations low...one day, one hour, one minute at a time....
Paula
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Hey Smoke and Paula....I am telling you these names keep making me hum
Even though it well, believe me I haven't let my guard down, I don't think I could ever forget what happened that night, and it still nags me in the back of my head that it could happen again. I certainly hope it doesn't. I have been through these recoveries before so I really am keeping my expectations low this time.
I plan on gaining peace in my life even if he doesn't. I truly hope he makes it. Rocky road ahead for both of us but I never had al-anon helping me through before. It was there, I just didn't grasp the hand that was outreached to me Took me long enough.
You know at that meeting yesterday, the al-anon speaker didn't show. Maybe something came up, but they found a woman to tell her story and she had only been going for a couple weeks. At that moment, I felt that if they hadn't have had that woman speak that I could have even though I am a shy, introverted person because I truly believe this is going to help me. Does this make sense at all? Could one meeting bring me such hope that I am going to find peace for myself?
Anyway, there I go again...rambling on when I need to get my gift ready for this shower
I hope to see you all later at the chat.
You all take care.
Many hugs.
Love,
Debbie
Even though it well, believe me I haven't let my guard down, I don't think I could ever forget what happened that night, and it still nags me in the back of my head that it could happen again. I certainly hope it doesn't. I have been through these recoveries before so I really am keeping my expectations low this time.
I plan on gaining peace in my life even if he doesn't. I truly hope he makes it. Rocky road ahead for both of us but I never had al-anon helping me through before. It was there, I just didn't grasp the hand that was outreached to me Took me long enough.
You know at that meeting yesterday, the al-anon speaker didn't show. Maybe something came up, but they found a woman to tell her story and she had only been going for a couple weeks. At that moment, I felt that if they hadn't have had that woman speak that I could have even though I am a shy, introverted person because I truly believe this is going to help me. Does this make sense at all? Could one meeting bring me such hope that I am going to find peace for myself?
Anyway, there I go again...rambling on when I need to get my gift ready for this shower
I hope to see you all later at the chat.
You all take care.
Many hugs.
Love,
Debbie
I felt the exact same way after one meeting... which is why I can't wait until I go to another meeting tonight. I had such a wonderful feeling after leaving the last time and I want to continue feeling like that time and time again.
Have a wonderful day!!
Have a wonderful day!!
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