Day one again
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Join Date: Sep 2014
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Day one again
I thought I was strong enough to do this on my own, but now I know that just hasn't worked. I have to give up trying to quit and just actually do it. I went to Canada this weekend and drank, argued with my girlfriend and feel terrible about it. I woke up at 3:00am this morning after horrible nightmares and went to the kitchen and poured out the remaining beers.
I feel alone and could use a verbal hug and some supportive comments.
From now on, I will truly make SR and the friends here the fore front of my recovery. What is the best way to use SR from your personal experience in the early days of quitting?
Thanks!
I feel alone and could use a verbal hug and some supportive comments.
From now on, I will truly make SR and the friends here the fore front of my recovery. What is the best way to use SR from your personal experience in the early days of quitting?
Thanks!
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Norfolk, VA
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Originally Posted by unitedguy 
What is the best way to use SR from your personal experience in the early days of quitting?
Read a lot, post a lot. You don't have to offer advice; offer support for others who are early in the shared journey of sobriety.
You can also join the montly support thread:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-3-a.html
Or join October's, which will start in a couple days. That way you can have a whole month of accountability.
But the main thing is to come here when you struggle...BEFORE you pick up a drink. Not after, when you tell us how bad you feel for relapsing.
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Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: New York, NY
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Hang in there with us! Lots of hugs and support to you. My whole strategy is to post as much as possible, even though I don't consider myself to be qualified to give advice after only 12 days of not drinking. You're in the right place. 
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Join Date: Sep 2014
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Keep reading, keep posting, keep asking for help and make sure to help others as it takes you out of yourself. It has helped me a great deal.
Also, there is a daily gratitude thread on here ( http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/gratitude-list/ ) that I post on every day and that helps me a lot. Makes me realize why I want to get and stay sober.
Not everything about quitting drinking has to be negative (I.E.: I quit drinking/lost something). Try the gratitude list so that you can see and post about all the things you are gaining.
Also, there is a daily gratitude thread on here ( http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/gratitude-list/ ) that I post on every day and that helps me a lot. Makes me realize why I want to get and stay sober.
Not everything about quitting drinking has to be negative (I.E.: I quit drinking/lost something). Try the gratitude list so that you can see and post about all the things you are gaining.
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Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: In my Garden
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Glad you are here UG - For me, just reading from others here & knowing I am not alone in this is a huge help & encouraging others that are needing support. As Carl suggested, the October class would be a good place to jump into. Be kind to yourself ((hugs))
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Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: Gulf Coast, USA
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Unitedguy, you aren't alone. I always knew my main source for support was / is SR. I don't do AA or anything other than SR at this point. I made it for 30 days during May this year and then found myself spending less and less time here.
After relapsing and spending one month drinking round the clock again, I am back with a new objective... Spend more time here on SR, reading and posting. It definitely helps me to support others and read, read, read old threads.
I'm at day 84 today; still very early in recovery and still spending as much time on SR as I need to stay sober each day.
You can do this. We are here to help, but you need to make the decision for yourself to use your method of support before you slip.
Best wishes.
After relapsing and spending one month drinking round the clock again, I am back with a new objective... Spend more time here on SR, reading and posting. It definitely helps me to support others and read, read, read old threads.
I'm at day 84 today; still very early in recovery and still spending as much time on SR as I need to stay sober each day.
You can do this. We are here to help, but you need to make the decision for yourself to use your method of support before you slip.
Best wishes.
Member
Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: Port Arthur TX
Posts: 9
I'm right there with you! I drank last night and ended up saying some hurtful things to my loving and supportive wife. We have the most amazing relationship but when I drink it seems like I do everything i can to spoil it.
My thoughts on the best way to use the forum, just knowing that there is a whole world of folks out there that have "been there". All in different stages of recovery and as such, can all give advice and support about everything to come. We're with ya!
My thoughts on the best way to use the forum, just knowing that there is a whole world of folks out there that have "been there". All in different stages of recovery and as such, can all give advice and support about everything to come. We're with ya!
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Staffordshire, UK
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Originally Posted by unitedguy
I thought I was strong enough to do this on my own, but now I know that just hasn't worked. I have to give up trying to quit and just actually do it. I went to Canada this weekend and drank, argued with my girlfriend and feel terrible about it. I woke up at 3:00am this morning after horrible nightmares and went to the kitchen and poured out the remaining beers.
I feel alone and could use a verbal hug and some supportive comments.
From now on, I will truly make SR and the friends here the fore front of my recovery. What is the best way to use SR from your personal experience in the early days of quitting?
Thanks!
I feel alone and could use a verbal hug and some supportive comments.
From now on, I will truly make SR and the friends here the fore front of my recovery. What is the best way to use SR from your personal experience in the early days of quitting?
Thanks!
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Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Long Beach, CA
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Wouldn't it be great if you could bottle all those wicked, guilty, shameful feelings you had as you were pouring that beer down the sink, then when you felt the urge to drink, pour yourself a big spoonful of them instead?
The next best thing of course is to commit those nasty emotions and all the physical stuff (headache, nausea) to memory, then throw them into your sober toolbox to bring out when cravings hit. With me, eventually I got to the point where the thought of drinking always made me immediately feel queasy (I was REALLY good at imagining myself hungover).
The next best thing of course is to commit those nasty emotions and all the physical stuff (headache, nausea) to memory, then throw them into your sober toolbox to bring out when cravings hit. With me, eventually I got to the point where the thought of drinking always made me immediately feel queasy (I was REALLY good at imagining myself hungover).
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Join Date: Sep 2014
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Originally Posted by longbeachone
Wouldn't it be great if you could bottle all those wicked, guilty, shameful feelings you had as you were pouring that beer down the sink, then when you felt the urge to drink, pour yourself a big spoonful of them instead?
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Welcome back unitedguy
The 24 hour thread isn't bad either - it's a great way to make a daily commitment to not drinking.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-17-a-8.html
Use us - before you drink
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The 24 hour thread isn't bad either - it's a great way to make a daily commitment to not drinking.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-17-a-8.html
Use us - before you drink
D
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