One Year Sober Today and One Year Working on my Codependence
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One Year Sober Today and One Year Working on my Codependence
A year ago, I joined SR to "fix" my alcoholic mother's problems. That was the MO of my adult life, trying to fix (read: control) everyone else's lives and problems and therefore, never having to take a look at my own problems. Thankfully, you wonderful, caring, honest beings called me out on my "sh8t" and I realized that I had every bit the problem with alcohol that my mother has, I was just not as far down on the elevator.
This year has been the most awakening, beautiful, painful, honest, alive year of my life. Thank you, thank you, thank you. This year has also been the most wonderful gift that I have ever bestowed upon myself.
Those of you who are starting out, stick with it. No one is lying, or sour grapes or mean here. The people here are saving lives because they now understand the value of a precious, human life. I never knew how to feel this good about myself. I never fully understood the importance of taking care of myself and my needs, instead of always trying to get others to fulfill those needs. Sobriety has done this for me.
Thank you all for helping me to learn the value of my life. I thank God for you all every night.
This year has been the most awakening, beautiful, painful, honest, alive year of my life. Thank you, thank you, thank you. This year has also been the most wonderful gift that I have ever bestowed upon myself.
Those of you who are starting out, stick with it. No one is lying, or sour grapes or mean here. The people here are saving lives because they now understand the value of a precious, human life. I never knew how to feel this good about myself. I never fully understood the importance of taking care of myself and my needs, instead of always trying to get others to fulfill those needs. Sobriety has done this for me.
Thank you all for helping me to learn the value of my life. I thank God for you all every night.
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LOL, Yes, Nefer, I was going to write, everyone is nice here except Neferkamicheal. 
I mean who loves huge, gorgeous roses when they are feeling wonderful or they are feeling like crap or just because?!? You are awesome. Thank you!!
I mean who loves huge, gorgeous roses when they are feeling wonderful or they are feeling like crap or just because?!? You are awesome. Thank you!!
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DD! I am beyond privileged to have been able to share your journey. You never faltered when it came to facing the hard stuff. You may have slipped in through the side door () but you are one very mainstream, honest, solid woman. If I had to pick a word to describe you, integrity quickly pops to mind. Happy Sober Bday DD! Amazing!
And yeah, Nefer is just a big grump, huh?
) but you are one very mainstream, honest, solid woman. If I had to pick a word to describe you, integrity quickly pops to mind. Happy Sober Bday DD! Amazing!And yeah, Nefer is just a big grump, huh?
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Originally Posted by DoubleDragons 
A year ago, I joined SR to "fix" my alcoholic mother's problems. That was the MO of my adult life, trying to fix (read: control) everyone else's lives and problems and therefore, never having to take a look at my own problems. Thankfully, you wonderful, caring, honest beings called me out on my "sh8t" and I realized that I had every bit the problem with alcohol that my mother has, I was just not as far down on the elevator.
This year has been the most awakening, beautiful, painful, honest, alive year of my life. Thank you, thank you, thank you. This year has also been the most wonderful gift that I have ever bestowed upon myself.
Those of you who are starting out, stick with it. No one is lying, or sour grapes or mean here. The people here are saving lives because they now understand the value of a precious, human life. I never knew how to feel this good about myself. I never fully understood the importance of taking care of myself and my needs, instead of always trying to get others to fulfill those needs. Sobriety has done this for me.
Thank you all for helping me to learn the value of my life. I thank God for you all every night.
This year has been the most awakening, beautiful, painful, honest, alive year of my life. Thank you, thank you, thank you. This year has also been the most wonderful gift that I have ever bestowed upon myself.
Those of you who are starting out, stick with it. No one is lying, or sour grapes or mean here. The people here are saving lives because they now understand the value of a precious, human life. I never knew how to feel this good about myself. I never fully understood the importance of taking care of myself and my needs, instead of always trying to get others to fulfill those needs. Sobriety has done this for me.
Thank you all for helping me to learn the value of my life. I thank God for you all every night.
You're an inspiration to many others on SR and I am certain elsewhere!
Well Stuck!
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Congratulations, DoubleDragons. I have appreciated your positive and helpful posts over the past year. I am proud to have shared a path with you over the last year during our sober journey.
Thank you for all you do.
ani
Thank you for all you do.
ani
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Super Congratulations! !
That is very good work and insight! I have also discovered how codependent I have been and trying to work on that. My main problem at day 60ish is to go to bed on time. Without alcohol or a woman in my life to assure I go to bed at a decent hour.. I end-up night-owling it until I feel nearly passed out. So.. im working on taking responsibility and doing these things myself before ever thinking about merging my life with someone else.
Much love and respect,
-SC
That is very good work and insight! I have also discovered how codependent I have been and trying to work on that. My main problem at day 60ish is to go to bed on time. Without alcohol or a woman in my life to assure I go to bed at a decent hour.. I end-up night-owling it until I feel nearly passed out. So.. im working on taking responsibility and doing these things myself before ever thinking about merging my life with someone else.
Much love and respect,
-SC
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