Intimidated
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Intimidated
Hey there. Hope you all are doing well and feeling peaceful. It's only been a couple of days since I re-committed myself to being sober, but I'm a mixture of excited and nervous, which I guess is normal. I tend to get swept up in thoughts about "what will I do on vacation next year?" or "what will I do at my wedding?" instead of just focusing on the hear and now and today. Normally, since I don't have anything to do tomorrow, this would be my night to drink, but that isn't happening and I'm happy about it. But I know that probably won't always be the case. Any advice, encouragement, tips, or quotes are welcome and good luck to you all!
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Hi Katie and Welcome!
In the early days, what helped me a lot was to change my daily routine. I normally drank in the early evening, so I made myself get out of the house and do something else. You're right to not worry too much about vacation or your wedding. Those things will be managed in time.
In the early days, what helped me a lot was to change my daily routine. I normally drank in the early evening, so I made myself get out of the house and do something else. You're right to not worry too much about vacation or your wedding. Those things will be managed in time.
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Take it one day at a time.
Take baby steps, if necessary, and be patient. Remember that even a little progress is progress nonetheless.
Be gentle with yourself.
Eat well and drink lots of water.
Get some exercise and sunshine.
Remember that SR is in your corner and open 24/7.
Welcome to SR, Katie; glad you found us.
Take baby steps, if necessary, and be patient. Remember that even a little progress is progress nonetheless.
Be gentle with yourself.
Eat well and drink lots of water.
Get some exercise and sunshine.
Remember that SR is in your corner and open 24/7.
Welcome to SR, Katie; glad you found us.
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Join Date: Sep 2014
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Don't depend on the material world, people, places and things being good or bad to stay sober.
You have to fit to the world not demand the world fit to you.
What ever happens think, if I get drunk right now, will whatever has happened change?
Apply that to any and all bad situations and I think you'll find the answer.
Then you have to apply that same question to good situations, will getting drunk make this situation even better. You'll find that anytime you drank to enhance a situation, it normally went down hill.
Ever gotten drunk at a friends or relatives wedding or party?
Only to wake up next day and be told how you behaved in a black out? Or even if you didn't black out, you still know you took the "celebration enhancement " too far.
Hope that helps
You have to fit to the world not demand the world fit to you.
What ever happens think, if I get drunk right now, will whatever has happened change?
Apply that to any and all bad situations and I think you'll find the answer.
Then you have to apply that same question to good situations, will getting drunk make this situation even better. You'll find that anytime you drank to enhance a situation, it normally went down hill.
Ever gotten drunk at a friends or relatives wedding or party?
Only to wake up next day and be told how you behaved in a black out? Or even if you didn't black out, you still know you took the "celebration enhancement " too far.
Hope that helps
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Hi, Katie, and good for you committing to sobriety. It's a great place to be! It does take a little while to stop the "what will I do" thinking, but after a while, it really does go away. The more you do without alcohol, the stronger you will feel in situations where you would have had a drink in the past. Fill your days with things you wouldn't have done in the past, read books, go for walks, meet friends for coffee, clean your closets, drive at night! Fill your time with sober things, and soon, you're just that, sober.
While you get on your feet, come here, post, read, ask for help. Find what works for you and do it at all costs.
Bravo to you in your journey.
While you get on your feet, come here, post, read, ask for help. Find what works for you and do it at all costs.
Bravo to you in your journey.
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Late to the welcomes but welcome Katie
Try and not worry too much about the what ifs - I found most things had a way of falling into place....what was important to me when I quit wasn't so vital 3 months down the track
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Try and not worry too much about the what ifs - I found most things had a way of falling into place....what was important to me when I quit wasn't so vital 3 months down the track
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