meggygoround30

I went to court this morning to testify against my XAB for domestic violence. He didn't show up so a warrant has been issued.

My case worker at the dv center is going to give me a letter saying I go there for support and all of the times I've gone.Next court date hopefully I can have an advocate with me.

I want him to take this seriously and so if he relapses he won't use alcoholism as an excuse for abuse.

Part of me feels bad, especially if he's been sober but he abused me physically way too many times for me to let it go without consequences.

CodeJob

Stand tall Meg. There are many of us here thinking of you!

bubblesz

Well u go girl u got my support a man should not put his hands on u he needs court ordered a tough ass 90 day min then sober living house wit an ankle bracelet that's if I was the judge!!!

Hammer

Have NEVER seen folks who are actually working the program try to duck the consequences of their actions.

On The Other Hand . . . folks NOT working the program . . . Well, you know.

So. It. Is. Not. Your. Problem.

btw, Good Job, You, on the Show Up and All. And you were all worried.

atalose

I agree, if he were working a recovery program of any kind he would have shown up to face his consequences.

hopeful4

Agree. If he is sober it is just to try to get out of trouble. He is a grown adult and would have known the consequences of not going to court, they make that pretty clear.

Your right Meg...he did abuse you. Don't forget that for a second.

Sending you lots of love! XXX

lillamy

(((hugs)))

I hope you are giving yourself a big fat pat on the back for going there to testify against him even though you were scared and worried about it!!! You stood up for yourself. That's some pretty tall corn there, my friend.

Rosiepetal

You are doing the right thing & at least now you will have a little more time to take someone with you in support next time.

meggygoround30

thank you all for the support! I also opened up to a bunch of people in my life about it too because it's DV is all over the media and next month is DV awareness month so I thought maybe it would be a good thing speak up about.

SeriousKarma

You had the guts to show up, but he didn't. Well, that right there shows you who the strong one really is. You're awesome.

Don't feel bad for him. He dug this hole himself and he's the only one that can get himself out of it.

NYCDoglvr

It doesn't matter if he's sober or drunk. It only matters that you're standing up and saying "NO!!". I recommend Alanon, where I found enormous support and the help I needed to stay gone. You go girl!

lillamy

I actually got a little teary-eyed that you're starting to speak up to people in real life. That's a huge step. Huge. I'm so proud of you. You're braver than I've been! (((hugs)))

FeelingGreat

Meggy you've taken back the power, and you're telling it out loud. This is what it takes to end DV.

sugarbear1

in my experience domestic violence is separate from alcoholism and is more progressive than alcoholism....

I wish you well