Foolsgold186

I'm over 2 months sober and I've just discovered I'm pregnant.

This has come as a complete shock to both me and my boyfriend. I'm completely terrified. I'm so scared that this has happened so early in my recovery, that this poor baby will be inflicted with a mother like me who is just learning to look after herself.

I had a day at the hospital today for tests and just feel really emotional and a bit lost. Drinking crossed my mind but I didn't do it, it terrified me though. Thought I was getting stronger but feel really disappointed in myself for even having the thought.

I never thought I'd be a mum. I hoped one day I would be but wanted to be a good one. Don't know if I will be.

Just had to get this out.

L x

jryan19982

Hopefully it will be easier to not drink because you know it is not good for the baby.

I know it wasnt planned but congrats! Just think that now it doesnt only benefit you, but it benefits someone else is the closest way.

LBrain

The fact that you are concerned whether or not you'll be a good mum is a good sign. I have no doubt. congratulations.

Anna

Don't you think it's a sign that you became pregnant just 'after' you stopped drinking? I'm sure you feel overwhelmed at the moment, but truth is, no one is ever really ready to have a child.

gratitude28

I have to say that being a mom helped me become a better person in so many ways. What do you want for this child? It's not all about you any more. Drinking is a selfish disease, as we all know. Sometimes expanding and realizing the world is not all about you helps in combatting. Have you ever gone to meetings? This might be a good time. There are so many people there with strong and good ideas.
Be prepared for love. Motherhood is a wonderful thing.
Beth

Foolsgold186

I attend AA and have a sponsor.

A stable, loving and happy life is all I want for this baby. Like the life I had growing up.

Anna

So, maybe this is a chance for you to be the mother you want to be.

Soberwolf

this reminds of me of when my mother died it was a great loss deeply affected the family

my brothers gf was pregnant within weeks with a baby girl no less

say what you want but i truly believe these things happen for a reason

congratulations

Thepatman

I second all the posts. Becoming a mother/parent is the most wonderful thing life can offer you. don't let people scare you that it's hard, it's just not that difficult. I am and was so in love with my son that everything appeared easy.

Dee74

I think we're often far more worthy and capable than we think we are foolsgood

This is probably the best opportunity ever to keep working on your recovery and push ahead with Chapter Two of your life.

Congratulations!

D

Foolsgold186

Thanks for all the really positive responses. Last night I was having a meltdown so I really appreciate being able to talk about how I was feeling.

I am happy just shocked and scared but I guess that's the general feeling when you find out something so life changing.

Thanks again.

Lx

soberclover

I, too, believe that everything happens for a reason. It is wonderful that you had tucked away some sobriety before becoming pregnant and perhaps this will help you continue your commitment to the sober life. Congrats by the way on your sober time!

MIRecovery

Take it a day at a time. Now might be a good time to start A A if you are not already going

GracieLou

Take it one day at time. Work the AA program and with your sponsor.

Take care of yourself. Take the time to rest. Both sobriety and pregnancy can take a lot out of you. Everything is going to be okay

Meraviglioso

Congratulations on your sobriety and your baby! It is scary, I know that feeling very well. But it is also ok. Know that staying sober throughout your pregnancy and after the fact is the greatest, healthiest gift you can give your child.
Best of luck to you.

whalebelow2

Congratulations on your news.

One thing that I was told is "your not responsible for a first thought, they can just pop up, but you are responsible for your second thought"

If you had a drinking thought but didn't act on it, you obviously had a responsible second thought.

So... Congratulations on that too

Inchworm

Congratulations! If you need extra support I am sure there are a lot of programs available for moms to be. Take advantage of those.

huntingtontx

Congratulations on the new baby, and being sober. Great combination. Being a mother is one of the greatest joys of life, and being a sober mother only adds to that.

Foolsgold186

Thank you all so much, I've tears in my eyes reading these lovely messages.

I need to be strong, pull myself together and carry on!

Thanks you guys x

ImperfectlyMe

There's a mental phase for each trimester. I) OMG I'm pregnant
II) OMG I'm going to have a baby III) OMG I'm going to be a mom!!!!

I was neither ready nor planning my first. I know I ran the gamet of emotional swings! Let yourself process all of this enormous change. Pregnancy and early sobriety are times to place yourself in a protective bubble. They can hold each other's hand and work to help each other.

Get excited you're already taking good care of yourself. And of course congratulations!!!