Lonely and inebriated...
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Hi again CopanoBay.
I'm gonna keep saying this in the hope you might come back and read this thread again.
Whatever you're doing it's not working that great, right?
Even SR cant help if you keep making hit and run posts of a few words and then never coming back to the thread.
Why not investigate some other options?
There's many different approaches and methods of recovery around - here's some links to some of the main players, including but not limited to AA:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.
You'll get out of your recovery what you put into it, CB.
D
I'm gonna keep saying this in the hope you might come back and read this thread again.
Whatever you're doing it's not working that great, right?
Even SR cant help if you keep making hit and run posts of a few words and then never coming back to the thread.
Why not investigate some other options?
There's many different approaches and methods of recovery around - here's some links to some of the main players, including but not limited to AA:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.
You'll get out of your recovery what you put into it, CB.
D
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Location: MD
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I lurked on this site for 8 years before I could stay stopped. Too scared to type anything, too scared to let anyone in. Too scared to stop and stay stopped. I lurked.
I've read your old posts, CopanoBay. That vicious cycle of self destruction, living in a bit of delusion and denial. Very similar to what I went through.
We have to know deep inside ourselves that we can't drink as it leads us to that same old vicious cycle of negativity.
You don't have to continue that cycle, if you are willing to change several things.
Sobriety waits patiently for you. Are you ready to stay stopped?
I've read your old posts, CopanoBay. That vicious cycle of self destruction, living in a bit of delusion and denial. Very similar to what I went through.
We have to know deep inside ourselves that we can't drink as it leads us to that same old vicious cycle of negativity.
You don't have to continue that cycle, if you are willing to change several things.
Sobriety waits patiently for you. Are you ready to stay stopped?
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Copano, I agree with Dee. You have mentoned lonliness before. Alcohol will only magnify that and seperate you from people. I hope you at least come back and respond to the thread you started. You do no have to be alone in this. You have all of us.
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I'm a single guy who is a recent empty-nester, as I just took my kid off to college this month. Now I live alone in my house.
I live alone, for the first time, I think, ever, in my whole life -- and it is pretty fantastic. It's like a wonderland of predictability and accountability in here. Stuff is where I left it, one hundred percent of the time. And if I clean something? Guess what? It's still clean the next day! I tell you, sometimes I almost come to tears, it's so beautiful.
On the other hand, I'm alone. But in these days of technology, I'm really not alone.
I can always text back and forth with my kid. Or I can come here and post, and hit the SR chatroom for some talky-time, or post and read on any number of other internet forums. Or I can shell out a few bucks a month and go play online games (MMOs, for example), where I can pal around for hours with people in the virtual world at really any time of day I choose, without ever leaving my chair.
And if face time is more my thing, I can go to a free group run at a local running store and meet up with other runners, go for a stroll at 8:30/mile pace, or hook up with some other musicians in town over Craigslist if I'm really feeling outgoing. And my parents live pretty close, I can always drop in on them for a visit.
Technology makes online human interaction very easy to find. Face-time interaction is a little more challenging, in that people generally get together to DO something, so it helps if you practice a hobby or a sport that other people practice, too (e.g., music or running; I actually took up running expressly because it's cheap and I know lots of fit peopl--okay, lots of fit women, you caught me!--are runners).
That is how I handle my situation. I offer it as an illustration of possible solutions to the problem of general loneliness. If you problem is more "I haven't had a date since President Obama's first term", well I think I am going to have to hold off on answering that because I haven't, either
but I am sure that post is coming! (these fit running women can't keep running forever . .)
I live alone, for the first time, I think, ever, in my whole life -- and it is pretty fantastic. It's like a wonderland of predictability and accountability in here. Stuff is where I left it, one hundred percent of the time. And if I clean something? Guess what? It's still clean the next day! I tell you, sometimes I almost come to tears, it's so beautiful.
On the other hand, I'm alone. But in these days of technology, I'm really not alone.
I can always text back and forth with my kid. Or I can come here and post, and hit the SR chatroom for some talky-time, or post and read on any number of other internet forums. Or I can shell out a few bucks a month and go play online games (MMOs, for example), where I can pal around for hours with people in the virtual world at really any time of day I choose, without ever leaving my chair.
And if face time is more my thing, I can go to a free group run at a local running store and meet up with other runners, go for a stroll at 8:30/mile pace, or hook up with some other musicians in town over Craigslist if I'm really feeling outgoing. And my parents live pretty close, I can always drop in on them for a visit.
Technology makes online human interaction very easy to find. Face-time interaction is a little more challenging, in that people generally get together to DO something, so it helps if you practice a hobby or a sport that other people practice, too (e.g., music or running; I actually took up running expressly because it's cheap and I know lots of fit peopl--okay, lots of fit women, you caught me!--are runners).
That is how I handle my situation. I offer it as an illustration of possible solutions to the problem of general loneliness. If you problem is more "I haven't had a date since President Obama's first term", well I think I am going to have to hold off on answering that because I haven't, either
but I am sure that post is coming! (these fit running women can't keep running forever . .)
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I live on my own, and I used to use it as a reason to drink, feeling alone with nothing to do, or even no harm in continuing to drink as who would miss me? I even have no dependents that I would be leaving behind!!
But eventually I had to realise that alcohol wasn't helping matters, in fact it was burying me even deeper into isolation, I would stop going out as much, socialising with others, simply drink the evenings away, and then suffer the hangovers in the morning or at Weekends all alone!!
Alcohol doesn't fix anything, it simply numbs things away, but surely we all deserve more than that, the things in life that we want, or is that just for the happy people over there?!!
You can turn this around CopanoBay!!
But eventually I had to realise that alcohol wasn't helping matters, in fact it was burying me even deeper into isolation, I would stop going out as much, socialising with others, simply drink the evenings away, and then suffer the hangovers in the morning or at Weekends all alone!!
Alcohol doesn't fix anything, it simply numbs things away, but surely we all deserve more than that, the things in life that we want, or is that just for the happy people over there?!!
You can turn this around CopanoBay!!
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