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hi.
I hope I can find some older friends my age here. I am 50 years old and attempting to get sober after all these years of drinking. I'm scared, remorseful and ashamed of the life I have lived up till now. Is it possible to truly get past all the shame and regrets?
I hope I can find some older friends my age here. I am 50 years old and attempting to get sober after all these years of drinking. I'm scared, remorseful and ashamed of the life I have lived up till now. Is it possible to truly get past all the shame and regrets?
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Join Date: Mar 2012
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Hi Sadiejo and welcome to SR!
I'm sure you will meet lots of people your age here! The thing to remember is that most of us are in the same boat regardless of how old we are.
This is a great place for support, and the guilt/ shame will fade over time.
I'm sure you will meet lots of people your age here! The thing to remember is that most of us are in the same boat regardless of how old we are.
This is a great place for support, and the guilt/ shame will fade over time.
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Middle of Nowhere, Canada
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I'm sure you will find people near your age here. Most importantly, you will find a community of people of all ages, ethnicities, genders, religions, etc. that share a common thread: our powerlessness with substances, our desire to heal, and a commitment to help each other.
Welcome.
One of the most important things this addiction has taught me is this : forgiveness. Forgiveness to myself forgiveness to others.
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, or a free ticket. , it means letting something negative so that it does not impact or control the future. You have control over your future in a positive way, if you take the challenge and improve yourself. You can't change the past. You can only be better NOW, and strive to be better each day in the now, which is your future.
It's possible to turn your life around. This site is filled with examples. It's never too soon or too late.m
Good luck to you.
Welcome.
One of the most important things this addiction has taught me is this : forgiveness. Forgiveness to myself forgiveness to others.
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, or a free ticket. , it means letting something negative so that it does not impact or control the future. You have control over your future in a positive way, if you take the challenge and improve yourself. You can't change the past. You can only be better NOW, and strive to be better each day in the now, which is your future.
It's possible to turn your life around. This site is filled with examples. It's never too soon or too late.m
Good luck to you.
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Join Date: May 2012
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Welcome! You're not alone at all. I'm a female much older than you. Waking up in the morning with no remorse, shame and guilt is a great start. When I have non productive thoughts I never dwell on them. Those are past. Put them in little clouds and let them float away.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
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Hi Sadie
I was 40 but I'd become the neighbourhood drunk kinda guy - ragged clothes, wild hair...a little stinky....
If I can recover my reputation from that, anyone can
It's never ever too late to write a new ending to you're story...happily ever after has a nice ring to it,. yeah?
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I was 40 but I'd become the neighbourhood drunk kinda guy - ragged clothes, wild hair...a little stinky....
If I can recover my reputation from that, anyone can
It's never ever too late to write a new ending to you're story...happily ever after has a nice ring to it,. yeah?
D
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Welcome, sadiejo 
You've come to a really supportive site 
I got sober at the age of 52. I'm 54 now and have never felt so free nor had such high self-esteem. Of course I've done many things that I regret but I know that I cannot change them. I can only make amends by being the best (sober) person I can be. It's taken time, but I have learned to be kind and compassionate to myself and to treat myself the way I treat others.
It's never too late, sadiejo, to be the person you want to be. Sobriety can take you to places you can't begin to imagine now, but you've already taken that first step. It's so worth it. I promise you xxx
You've come to a really supportive site I got sober at the age of 52. I'm 54 now and have never felt so free nor had such high self-esteem. Of course I've done many things that I regret but I know that I cannot change them. I can only make amends by being the best (sober) person I can be. It's taken time, but I have learned to be kind and compassionate to myself and to treat myself the way I treat others.
It's never too late, sadiejo, to be the person you want to be. Sobriety can take you to places you can't begin to imagine now, but you've already taken that first step. It's so worth it. I promise you xxx
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Join Date: Jun 2014
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Welcome sadiejo!
I will be 50 in December and I am now on day 10 of my sobriety. I understand your feelings of guilt and shame and have to struggle with that also.
It does get better and everyone here, regardless of age, has been a huge support.
The things we did in the past we cannot change. So let them go and be happy!
Glad you found SR!
I will be 50 in December and I am now on day 10 of my sobriety. I understand your feelings of guilt and shame and have to struggle with that also.
It does get better and everyone here, regardless of age, has been a huge support.
The things we did in the past we cannot change. So let them go and be happy!
Glad you found SR!
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Join Date: Aug 2007
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Hi Sadie - welcome to a great place. We all understand how you feel.
I was older too when I decided it was quit or die. Yes, you can (and must) get past the regret and remorse. It's ok to remember where you've been, but don't dwell on things you can never change. What matters is the wonderful new life you have in front of you. Congratulations on making this life changing decision. You can do it.
I was older too when I decided it was quit or die. Yes, you can (and must) get past the regret and remorse. It's ok to remember where you've been, but don't dwell on things you can never change. What matters is the wonderful new life you have in front of you. Congratulations on making this life changing decision. You can do it.
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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I'm over 10 months sober which started just prior to turning 48. It is completely possible to find peace of mind and become proud of who you are again. There are still plenty of life struggles during sobriety, but I am 100% solid and reliable to the people who matter to me, that to me is a world of difference. It's never to late for a better life
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Yes, Sadie, it is possible and we're here to support you.
You must forgive yourself. That doesn't mean forgetting what you did or minimizing it, but it means allowing yourself to move on.
You must forgive yourself. That doesn't mean forgetting what you did or minimizing it, but it means allowing yourself to move on.
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Join Date: Aug 2013
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Hey there!! I'm also 50 and am pretty new at this too. 50 is not old!! I'm that age and I'm not old, so that is impossible. I've met people who are 23 and old, so banish that thought.
I have recently had an epiphany - I started drinking pretty heavily at 25, so I've been at this for half my life. I plan on spending the next 25 years sober and healthy
I have recently had an epiphany - I started drinking pretty heavily at 25, so I've been at this for half my life. I plan on spending the next 25 years sober and healthy
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Originally Posted by Luper 
Welcome sadiejo! I will be 50 in December and I am now on day 10 of my sobriety. I understand your feelings of guilt and shame and have to struggle with that also. It does get better and everyone here, regardless of age, has been a huge support. The things we did in the past we cannot change. So let them go and be happy! Glad you found SR!
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