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Hi everyone, this is going to be the first time I tell anyone I have been drinking again, after 5.4 years of being clean and sober- I am struggling with resentments about my former AA group, and the things life has handed me this year-now including losing my sobriety. I'm disqusted with me, and lots of other stuff, just having a bad time taking a few first steps
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It takes a lot of humility to admit that things aren't going as you had planned. What do you think you need to help you get sober again? If AA causes you strife, why not try something else? There are many paths out of addiction.
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Welcome, mermaid. You'll find a lot of non judgemental support here, 24/7.
Try to let your resentment of your former group go. The only person a resentment hurts is you. You are the only person responsible for your recovery, or lack of.
Forgive them, forgive yourself, and move forward. Disgust will only serve to put you in a tailspin. You're worth more than that to the people that love you.
Life will always hand you crappy things. That is a constant. It's what you do with those things, and how you rise from the challenges that will determine what the rest of your life looks like. It's a choose your own adventure book that you write.
What's your plan to change things this time?
Try to let your resentment of your former group go. The only person a resentment hurts is you. You are the only person responsible for your recovery, or lack of.
Forgive them, forgive yourself, and move forward. Disgust will only serve to put you in a tailspin. You're worth more than that to the people that love you.
Life will always hand you crappy things. That is a constant. It's what you do with those things, and how you rise from the challenges that will determine what the rest of your life looks like. It's a choose your own adventure book that you write.
What's your plan to change things this time?
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I'm with ru12 on this.
You've had 5.4 years! That is nothing to dismiss. Get right back at it! You know how to do it. I had 18 years sober and went back out. Now I'm at six months again and so happy to be back in the world of the living.
I went to AA for a while, and in my experience it has all the same personality issues that the rest of the world has, except in a closed society with a lot of vulnerability. I wasn't comfortable there, and no longer attend meetings. Many people stay sober without AA. You can too - check out other support groups if that is something you need.
You'll get past your resentment. We're a bunch of imperfect drunks in AA - pray for us
You've had 5.4 years! That is nothing to dismiss. Get right back at it! You know how to do it. I had 18 years sober and went back out. Now I'm at six months again and so happy to be back in the world of the living.
I went to AA for a while, and in my experience it has all the same personality issues that the rest of the world has, except in a closed society with a lot of vulnerability. I wasn't comfortable there, and no longer attend meetings. Many people stay sober without AA. You can too - check out other support groups if that is something you need.
You'll get past your resentment. We're a bunch of imperfect drunks in AA - pray for us
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Hi and I hope you can get back into sober living.
With a few decades sober I can identify that more than a few times I got resentments in AA. I was reminded that a resentment is not a luxury for an alcoholic and is probably the number one reason for a relapse, even the justified ones!
It’s easy to sit miles away and make suggestions you already know so I’ll just say “KEEP COMING.” Even to other meetings.
BE WELL
With a few decades sober I can identify that more than a few times I got resentments in AA. I was reminded that a resentment is not a luxury for an alcoholic and is probably the number one reason for a relapse, even the justified ones!
It’s easy to sit miles away and make suggestions you already know so I’ll just say “KEEP COMING.” Even to other meetings.
BE WELL
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Welcome, so glad you are hear. You can talk about what as happened here without judgment, unlike AA where you will be humiliated and put down by most members, there is a sober way forward here.
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welcome!
wow, over 5 years of sobriety is fantastic!
From that vantage point, I'm guessing you have some unique perspectives on both maintaining sobriety and on sneaky relapses....
If you are willing to share, I'm interested to hear what you've learned.
wow, over 5 years of sobriety is fantastic!
From that vantage point, I'm guessing you have some unique perspectives on both maintaining sobriety and on sneaky relapses....
If you are willing to share, I'm interested to hear what you've learned.
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