oldsoul1122

I'm newly sober and alone, I'm 65. I keep getting the "what's the use" feelings because there's not much to look forward to but getting older and bad health. Single for 34 years. No family, friends but 2 sons I rarely hear from. No grandkids and won't be any. Just 2 dogs. I'm an introvert loner in the country. Socializing is not an option, money is tight. So many here have their whole lives in front of them and a multitude of reasons to get and stay sober that's SO WONDERFUL! Private message me if you don't feel comfortable posting. Thank you all for being here.

Hevyn

Welcome to SR oldsoul. We're glad you found us.

There are quite a few older members here. I understand what you mean - but I don't think drinking helps us feel less lonely or more optimistic. In my case it was just making me more anxious and miserable. I'm much more content without it in my life. I think you've made a wise decision to join here - I hope it helps.

ScooterBoo

I am 61, but feel much younger. Perhaps because of all the years I lost to alcohol? I have been retired for five years, but still do not see myself as a senior citizen.

Soberwolf

In be glad to have you as a friend if you want ?

What's the use @ 65 well for 1 I wish my dad could do what your doing he's full of health problems through drinking he's still drinking he is 63 so the use is or at least 1 of them is you have proved my dad can do it whether he will or not is another thinng


Your life now is better without alcohol your sobriety brought you here and here youl find friends advice help like minded ppl etc

You can be here as much as you want

Your an inspiration thank you

Thepatman

I firmly believe it's never too late.

My mom was 63 when she learned she had terminal cancer. She quit immediately Alcohol and cigarettes. She lived an awesome 6 months, volunteered her time until the end to help others with addiction. I firmly believe that to the creator no matter how long or when we get sober, it counts the same.

If you get sober now, you could live another 20 years or more and change countless lives by volunteering your time and wisdom. Never too late my friend, never too late.

least

I just turned 63 and consider myself a senior. Where I live you get a card from the state that's good for a ten percent discount in stores when you're over sixty. I'll take the discount.

I've been sober almost five years now and it just keeps getting better. I also have two dogs (and four cats) so don't consider myself as living alone. My critters are my kids now that my girls are grown and gone. At least they don't talk on the phone all the time or ask to use the car!

NorMar

I'm 65, and have been sober for 4 years. I am realistic, in that as you get older health issues can plague you, but I sure as hell ain't gonna spend my days brooding about it. When I retired 5 years ago, I figured that I had 15 years of pretty much good as I ever was left. Somewhere around 75 I guess you have to start adjusting. That's the main reason I quit drinking, didn't want anything to rob me of any of the good years I have left. And if at 75 I can still blow and go, nobody better get in my way.

Very small family, none of whom live close. Single about same as you. Money is always tight.

But, oldsoul, when you're an "introvert loner living in the country", which is fine, you have every right to live that lifestyle, you're probably apt to get those "what's the use" feelings. Especially when you're newly sober. Lots of people get that when they are drying out. I know I did.

Socializing is an option. No big $$ needed to go into town and volunteer at a pet rescue shelter, or such. Go to a classic car rally, some kind of county fair, farmers market and check out the produce, etc.

Good luck on your sober lifestyle choice. Whether you are alone or in a huge circle of friends, it is the BEST choicel

Tonymblue

Oldsoul. Youve got friends and family right here. 65 is the new 45. Youve got your whole life ahead of you as well. Hang in there and do this sober thing with us.

Didit

I am 54 and been drunk since I was 14....I am now 1 mo. 1 day Sober!! My body is 95, and I tote an aarp card, guess that qualifies me! I feel lonely with out my friend booze, but all instincts tell me to LIVE!!! I look forward to reading more posts from you!! Age is a number really! I have lost SO many young relatives to this disease...my son died at 22!! That was what really revved up my drinking!! I have 2 daughters and 2 grankids to live for...HANG IN THERE!!

heath480

Yes oldsoul,I am an old age pensioner,that is what we are called here in the UK.

I was in my 50's when I got sober.i am also widowed and have a dog and two cats.

Lots of older people get and stay sober,I know a man of 98,he was 76 when he sobered up.

Life will get better for you and you will find things to fill your time.

I wish you well.

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Sasha4

I'm nearly 41 but I have a 4 year girl old who charges about so fast and never stops talking and makes me feel about 82 years old if that helps!

Welcome to our family, I am happy you found us. No need to be isolated anymore.

I wish you the best xx

ESD907

I'm 49, sober 2 years. At 49, I feel better than when I was 43. I know thats not saying much, but at 43 I felt like I was 70. I think I'm confusing myself with this back and forth with ages. Anyway, Welcome. And many of us are introverted or shy. I loved the suggestion of working with animals at a shelter. Or, like I did, hospice, truly are needed and it makes a huge difference to the patient, and mostly the families. again, WELCOME. and TONYBLUE, I hope 65 is the new 45, I had a bad 45.

oldsoul1122

Thank you everyone for your thoughtfulness and kindness. I said in an earlier post that even if nothing changes in my life I'm better off not drinking so I'll take my own advice and stay in the now. My moods are all over the place and I feel sick and headaches but never this low. It will pass and I won't give in and drink.

Dee74

Hi oldsoul

I'm only a young'un but I think there's a good deal of 'point' in staying sober no matter how old we are...I've done more in the last seven years sober than I did in the 20 years before that.

Money is tight with me too and I have my various health issues...But I love my life.
I hope you'll come to think that way too

I reckon it's never too late to make something of yourself or your life...and it's never too late to be happy. Each of us deserves that

D

Anna

It's never too late to change things in your life.

Have you thought about volunteering in your community? It can be a great way to meet new people, to feel involved and to feel good about yourself by giving back.

iam2antsy

hi oldsoul i'm 50 & feel like a senior citizen. no close family or friends. i'm a woman & don't even have children. but, i have cats (4 rescues) that make me happy every day. i guess we aren't alone here!

neferkamichael

Odsoul1122, I'm 60 and 4 years sober and still have my whole life ahead of me. You're right we are just getting older and health will leave us sooner than later so perhaps get while the gettin is good anyway. Rootin for ya.

afloatsober

Oldsoul
I think we drinkers all feel a bit of 'what's the point' when we stop.
Just that old thinking trying to persuade us that the future is laden with doom, so we better damn well drink.
It's lies.
You have much to bring to S/R and to others when you begin to feel better and more optimistic as you surely will.
In time the outlook will become brighter as the low mood subsides and the physical repair gains momentum.
And it will.
I think Sir Winston was about your age when he pulled our butts out of the fire in 1940...
Not suggesting that you enter politics, but you would have had a hard time persuading that old badger that he was washed up at 66.....
Welcome to this inspirational place.
Gary

Marcher13

Hi oldsoul, I'm 59, does that count as a senior cit? I don't have children but I do have a lot of young people in my life. What matters to me is what I can do with the rest of my life and I can do a lot sober.

I don't think it matters what our age is, it's what we do with life that matters. Being young doesn't guarantee sobriety just as being older doesn't. You don't need money to socialise, an open door and an open heart equals hospitality.

Mountainmanbob

63 here
seems to be a good time in our lives to be sober today
I spent too many doing other things
if you know what I mean
MM