Wishing Twofish and her daughter a happy sendoff!
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Wishing Twofish and her daughter a happy sendoff!
We are virtual friends, not imaginary ones.
So let us come together and wish the very best for a new
marriage, a happy day, and (soon) a new family.
It all happens Monday in the north central quadrant of
the North American continent.
Too often, our words here center on the dour subject that is the
subject of this website. It's not too much to ask that we forget this
for a moment and give Twofish,her daughter, and her new husband
the finest verbal sendoff we can......
Yes, we know the challenges of addiction. But we also know the
sunrises, the solstices, and the grand, beautiful majesty that is life.
Is there anything better than the birth of a new family, or
the squawking of a new baby at 2AM saying (in non-verbal
terms)....."One of you get off your lazy asses and FEED me--
-NOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!"
So let us come together and wish the very best for a new
marriage, a happy day, and (soon) a new family.
It all happens Monday in the north central quadrant of
the North American continent.
Too often, our words here center on the dour subject that is the
subject of this website. It's not too much to ask that we forget this
for a moment and give Twofish,her daughter, and her new husband
the finest verbal sendoff we can......
Yes, we know the challenges of addiction. But we also know the
sunrises, the solstices, and the grand, beautiful majesty that is life.
Is there anything better than the birth of a new family, or
the squawking of a new baby at 2AM saying (in non-verbal
terms)....."One of you get off your lazy asses and FEED me--
-NOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!"
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My dear SR Family,
I always thought it was the BRIDE who couldn't sleep before the ceremony?? I've been awake with a light and happy heart, embracing this wonderful feeling and emotion. I am smiling!!
I feel sweetly overwhelmed with love and acceptance, the kind that is so rare to me.
Thank you so much Vale for this positive thread, it means the world to my family and me and all the other mommas who's children they have hope for.
Later on today, when my face hurts from smiling, i will look at this brand new HAPPY family, there IS hope for them and for us.
Addiction will not be raining down on their parade today.
Look up to the skys, around 4:30 CDT, and smile for them, smile at addiction...it didn't take their joy away today.
God bless the recovering addict and their families. For today the demon has been silenced.
TF
PS...Vale, I will be needing that rocking chair back soon...you also are on the 1700's in your posts!! How nice!!!
I wonder if they will name their baby "Vale"??
I always thought it was the BRIDE who couldn't sleep before the ceremony?? I've been awake with a light and happy heart, embracing this wonderful feeling and emotion. I am smiling!!
I feel sweetly overwhelmed with love and acceptance, the kind that is so rare to me.
Thank you so much Vale for this positive thread, it means the world to my family and me and all the other mommas who's children they have hope for.
Later on today, when my face hurts from smiling, i will look at this brand new HAPPY family, there IS hope for them and for us.
Addiction will not be raining down on their parade today.
Look up to the skys, around 4:30 CDT, and smile for them, smile at addiction...it didn't take their joy away today.
God bless the recovering addict and their families. For today the demon has been silenced.
TF
PS...Vale, I will be needing that rocking chair back soon...you also are on the 1700's in your posts!! How nice!!!
I wonder if they will name their baby "Vale"??
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Twofish you are a SWEETHEART! I hope all goes well, but regardless you are a SUPER STRONG woman and will be okay. Congrats to you and your baby girl. Keep your head up and continue to be YOU!! Take Care!!!
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>>>>>PS...Vale, I will be needing that rocking chair back soon...you also are on the 1700's in your posts!! How nice!!!
I wonder if they will name their baby "Vale"??<<<<<<<<<
1700 plus!?!!? OMIGOD!!!!!
God I hope they don't name the baby "Vale".....
(unless it has feathers, a bill, webbed feet, and an excruciatingly grating and
unhinged writing style!)
....and another thing..... although Ann frequently takes me to the woodshed
via the "duck duct-taped to the wall" veiled threat.....you must make it CLEAR to the
new parents that this is a wholly unacceptable style of discipline----no taping baby to
the wall! And yes, this is a rule...not a guideline!
Wishing you the best on this happy day!
I wonder if they will name their baby "Vale"??<<<<<<<<<
1700 plus!?!!? OMIGOD!!!!!
God I hope they don't name the baby "Vale".....
(unless it has feathers, a bill, webbed feet, and an excruciatingly grating and
unhinged writing style!)
....and another thing..... although Ann frequently takes me to the woodshed
via the "duck duct-taped to the wall" veiled threat.....you must make it CLEAR to the
new parents that this is a wholly unacceptable style of discipline----no taping baby to
the wall! And yes, this is a rule...not a guideline!
Wishing you the best on this happy day!
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Hi SR,
I'm sitting here with a few mixed feelings. First the wedding at the courthouse was beautiful. When she arrived, she had on one of those 1960 vintage minidresses, I felt like I was young again. She also has the veil in her arms. The veil I wore 30 yrs ago. She wasn't gonna wear it but I brought it up yesterday just in case. Sh looked so beautiful.
There was 9 of us and the judge. He let me be pushy (that's me when I'm confident) and I had her sister walk down the aisle first, followed by her dad escorting her with the veil on and down. She has on 5 inch heels and I thought she would trip but she didn't. He walked her up to her man and lifted her veil, kissed her, just like my dad did to me years ago.
He handed her off and stepped aside. I was allowed to video tape it, for which I was grateful.
The marriage took 8.4 minutes and then they were officially a family.
We went out to diner and that was it. We had a bouquet, we had the veil we had the love and we clung to her sobriety. She was happy and she smiled a lot. People in downtown Minneapolis were stopping and looking at her, taking her picture. I was waiting for Mary Tyler Moore to appear, it was that surreal. It was as perfect as it could of been. I was happy and filled with hope.
So we went home.
The next day, still happy, I picked her up to go see the OB/GYN and get her 20 week check up, she was ok, thin but healthy, the downs test was normal, baby has a good heartbeat, 142 I think. They are helping her find a Subutex Dr. up here. They then did an ultrasound. And the bomb dropped.
Sometimes in life it might be better not to hear something when you cant understand it or for someone who doesn't know her history, to say something that a Dr. hasn't confirmed.
Baby is a boy, two arms two legs two kidneys four heart chambers, ten toes and fingers.
But in the brain, in one hemisphere, they found a cyst. It wasn't filled, it looked like crumpled paper. She didn't hear much after that. My daughter was crying and freaking out. The sonogram tech was trying to reassure her that she sees this all the time and they always go away. She's devastated. She thinks that she has destroyed this baby by her past history of opiate use and abuse. My sweet RAD, shes trying. She is sad. We rescheduled another ultrasound in five weeks to see if the cyst has gone away. The tech is still apologizing and reassuring her, but she's not listening. The tech told me she has seen this many times (the cyst in the brain) but they never progress, and the body absorbs it. She was sorry she said this to my daughter. It's not her fault, she was just doing her job.
So now I take her home. She starts in on the web and now it says something about trisomy and she is crying again. I hold her, we will get thru this, and "this" isn't anything yet.
So we sit together and "my" baby falls asleep out of exhaustion and I pray that God is still with us and won't give her anything she can't handle. It, the pain is there, the vivid memory of the blissful happy marriage, so new, has been pushed aside. I pick her veil up and put in back in it's tissue bag. It looks back at me, full of memories.
I waited until her groom returned from work, told him not to worry or get stressed out. It's not necessary to worry,it just causes heartache right now. It will be ok, we have hope, just wait for the next ultrasound. The baby is fine, he's perfect.
So. That's what has happened in 24 hrs. I continue to have faith that this is nothing to worry about, just a bunch of emotions too close together, mostly I have my hope. Her sobriety is intact so far.
Thanks everyone who may come across this and read it. I believe sometimes it's better not to say something that's not confirmed but who knows. I know how much I can handle, and I'm getter close to my full limit.
I will keep you posted.
TF
I'm sitting here with a few mixed feelings. First the wedding at the courthouse was beautiful. When she arrived, she had on one of those 1960 vintage minidresses, I felt like I was young again. She also has the veil in her arms. The veil I wore 30 yrs ago. She wasn't gonna wear it but I brought it up yesterday just in case. Sh looked so beautiful.
There was 9 of us and the judge. He let me be pushy (that's me when I'm confident) and I had her sister walk down the aisle first, followed by her dad escorting her with the veil on and down. She has on 5 inch heels and I thought she would trip but she didn't. He walked her up to her man and lifted her veil, kissed her, just like my dad did to me years ago.
He handed her off and stepped aside. I was allowed to video tape it, for which I was grateful.
The marriage took 8.4 minutes and then they were officially a family.
We went out to diner and that was it. We had a bouquet, we had the veil we had the love and we clung to her sobriety. She was happy and she smiled a lot. People in downtown Minneapolis were stopping and looking at her, taking her picture. I was waiting for Mary Tyler Moore to appear, it was that surreal. It was as perfect as it could of been. I was happy and filled with hope.
So we went home.
The next day, still happy, I picked her up to go see the OB/GYN and get her 20 week check up, she was ok, thin but healthy, the downs test was normal, baby has a good heartbeat, 142 I think. They are helping her find a Subutex Dr. up here. They then did an ultrasound. And the bomb dropped.
Sometimes in life it might be better not to hear something when you cant understand it or for someone who doesn't know her history, to say something that a Dr. hasn't confirmed.
Baby is a boy, two arms two legs two kidneys four heart chambers, ten toes and fingers.
But in the brain, in one hemisphere, they found a cyst. It wasn't filled, it looked like crumpled paper. She didn't hear much after that. My daughter was crying and freaking out. The sonogram tech was trying to reassure her that she sees this all the time and they always go away. She's devastated. She thinks that she has destroyed this baby by her past history of opiate use and abuse. My sweet RAD, shes trying. She is sad. We rescheduled another ultrasound in five weeks to see if the cyst has gone away. The tech is still apologizing and reassuring her, but she's not listening. The tech told me she has seen this many times (the cyst in the brain) but they never progress, and the body absorbs it. She was sorry she said this to my daughter. It's not her fault, she was just doing her job.
So now I take her home. She starts in on the web and now it says something about trisomy and she is crying again. I hold her, we will get thru this, and "this" isn't anything yet.
So we sit together and "my" baby falls asleep out of exhaustion and I pray that God is still with us and won't give her anything she can't handle. It, the pain is there, the vivid memory of the blissful happy marriage, so new, has been pushed aside. I pick her veil up and put in back in it's tissue bag. It looks back at me, full of memories.
I waited until her groom returned from work, told him not to worry or get stressed out. It's not necessary to worry,it just causes heartache right now. It will be ok, we have hope, just wait for the next ultrasound. The baby is fine, he's perfect.
So. That's what has happened in 24 hrs. I continue to have faith that this is nothing to worry about, just a bunch of emotions too close together, mostly I have my hope. Her sobriety is intact so far.
Thanks everyone who may come across this and read it. I believe sometimes it's better not to say something that's not confirmed but who knows. I know how much I can handle, and I'm getter close to my full limit.
I will keep you posted.
TF
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So precious yet so painful! I feel terrible for your daughter yet it is a relief to see how much she loves her baby. She will always remember this and will protect her baby. I will keep you all my prayers.
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